Day Care Rithual to Say Good Bye to the Baby

M.-

Today I am a Parent Coach, but I use to be a Certified Professional Nanny, and when the children would waive good-bye to Mom/Dad, I would ask them where Mom/Dad would kiss them when they got home. Sometimes it was to distract the tears, sometimes it would be silly, but the kids always seemed to like it.

If your daughter is preverbal or has few words, you could start the game like, “where do you want Mommy to kiss you when I come back. How about here… or here… or here…” Make it fun and she’ll look forward to it later.

I hope you and your daughter enjoy the ritual. They are great ways to create memorable moments with your kids.

Sincerely-

R.
R. Magby
Parent Coach
Everything Baby, LLC
www.everythingbabyllc.com

-- what a great question, M.-. One of the sweetest rituals was '''invented'' by my older daughter - with her little sister. She would give the little one a big hug - and then kiss the palm of little ones' hand-- curl the little hand around the ''kiss'' and say --- '''more kisses tonight''' ( or whenever they would be together again. )

Healthy lunches???? --- depends on what ''healthy''means to you. Organic??? --- Vegetarian? -- -- use your own preferences and be creative --- have fun with it---

Blessings,
J. - aka- Old Mom

Hi!
I worked in day care and now have my own two. When I worked with kids I had the opportunity to see which "good byes" worked and which did not. To make it brief, the quicker the better. Write out a list of specific instructions for the day (so no detailed conversation is necessary)and hand it to the person receiving your child, along with the diaper bag and all her stuff. Bring your daughter over to an activity or toys and get her engaged. Give a kiss, say see you soon, and zip out. Try to leave before she is distracted by your departure. If you expect a big hug, kisses, waves, etc., you will be asking for trouble. She will sense your hardship at leaving her, and act accordingly. Good luck!

M.

Healthy food at daycare? Unlikely. I let him eat whatever they serve for the day at my son's preschool and make up for it when he is at home. I usually bring some fresh cut up fruit for a snack when I pick him up too. As far as goodbye-When I drop my son anywhere (and at night) we kiss each others palms and say "mommy kisses for later" Or "mommy kisses all day long". He loves it. I also ask him if I'm an eskimo or a butterfly (for extra kisses). He says "butterfly" and we do quick butterfly kisses.
We also have a saying that mommies and daddies ALWAYS come back and he never thinks otherwise.
Good luck!

I have a licensed in home day care. Most moms drop off the kids, stay for about five minutes, hugs and kisses, say they will be back and then leave. From what I have read about seperation anxiety, it is better to say good-bye and leave than to sneak away. In my experience most children stop crying shortly after parent leaves. If not, it just take time to adjust.
About lunch, isn't the daycare feeding your child?

M.,

When my son was in daycare I'd bring him into the room, get down on his level and tell him that Mommy had to go, but she'd be back again after nap time. Then, I'd give/get hugs and kisses and out the door I'd go. For the most part this worked.

The first room he was put in, the 1 year old room. He hated because he was bored and nearly a year older than most of the other kids. Once he was in the 2 year old room with his peers he couldn't get into his classroom fast enough.

Also, while he was in that first room he's set up some awful screaming. I hated leaving him when he was like that, but bu the time I was out the door, around the end of the wall and into the observation room to watch he was done screaming. It's a very typical ploy of kids. They scream as you leave to see if they can get you to stay or if you're serious in leaving.

Hope this helps,
Melissa

Actually for that age, I dont make a big deal about it. I give him hug and kiss and tell him I love him and usually walk away, If he is watching Ill blow kiss at window and wave.
Usually he could care less, hes running off to play with his friends! hehe \With my 5 year old we hug kisss, and then at window blow eachother like 20 kisses and wave bye bye usually about 2 min.