I am 6.5 weeks from having baby (C-sect) #2. With my son, I could barley move for several weeks. I am trying to decide if I want my almost 3 year old to go to daycare while I am off, or keep him home with me for the summer. I get an extended maternity leave, so I will be off from June 27th until Nov 1. I know that I will have to put my son back to daycare I orginally was going to change daycares when we had the baby, and decide then weather or not to put him in right away or not. But things at our current day care are keeping me from keeping him where he is currenty. (teachers inadiquit to care for 20 2 year olds).
So my main question is for the moms that had a C-sect for #2. how fast did heal, did you feel capable of wathcing the older kid as well as the new one?
Thanks,
M.
Thanks keep it comming.
#1 we are changing daycares in 1.5 weeks. about 5 weeks before the baby comes. What I ment to convey about our daycare is that the teachers working his room, I don't feel are qualified for the age group.. I think a differnt age group would better suit them. yes, he teacher coverge is there, however, I don;t think they really "understand" 2 year olds.
My boys are 4 years and 1 month apart. I had a c-section with both. I kept my oldest home with me for the 4 months I was on maternity leave.
My son was 2 years 7 months when his little brother was born. I really didn't have any issues, because I really wasn't in the habit of picking him up anyway. We did diaper changes on the couch or floor.
Are you exaggerating a bit when you say you could barely move for several weeks? Because while I definitely took it easy, I was up and moving around quite a bit just a couple of days after surgery both times. I'm not trying to minimize what you were feeling, but if you really had that much trouble I'd be talking to your OB about why.
During the first couple of weeks, definitely have yoru older one in daycare. He will be with his friends and have a sense of routine and quiet while he's there. When you're feeling a little better, try keeping him home for a day and see how it goes. Maybe have him home with you for one or two days per week if you're up to it!
If you can afford it, then send him. As for switching daycares... it's not legal to have 20 toddlers in a classroom. Please find something better soon and switch him before the baby comes, if possible!
After my first, I was a lot like you. Very sore for a good few weeks. With my second, they were able to use the same incision and the recovery was not bad at all. My son had just turned 2 when the baby was born. I kept my older one home when I was home. The first week I had my mom stay here with me and after that, I was on my own. It was hard but very manageable. Good luck to you. If you are not comfortable with the daycare situation, I would not send your child there.
Well, I only had 1 c-section, but it was with my 2nd baby so maybe that qualifies me to answer...?
My kids are only 17 months apart so my oldest was still in diapers when I had the baby. For the first week or so AFTER my husband went back to work (he had the week I actually gave birth off from work) my oldest was passed around between my mom, my sister, and his daycare provider. After that we worked out a system where he understood that I couldn't pick him up so he would help me change his diaper by lifting up his butt, or being very patient waiting for me to open the baby-gate or whatever it was going on at the moment. He wasn't much of a napper himself, but he's always been great with quiet time so when I would put the baby down to sleep & need to lay down on the couch myself for a little while I would put the baby-gates up & he would play on the floor next to the couch. It wasn't ideal, but it worked for us & saved us a ton of money on daycare. Also, I think that time was good for him to adjust to the new baby kind of slowly for the first couple of weeks before being just thrown into it.
While I have never, and hope to never, have a c-section, I would keep your older child home for awhile. You want him and his sibling to bond and you dont want him to think that the baby gets all your attention. Maybe after a few weeks, you can send him to daycare 2-3 days a week so that you get some one on one time with the new baby.
Good luck and congrats!
in MO, it's one adult per 8 2-3yos in daycare. Most daycares have 2 adults & 16 kids in the group. That # fits nicely in a classroom.
As for home vs. daycare: switch him now & give him time to become accustomed to the new facility. If you keep him home, he will be bored & will likely act out.....especially those first 2 months.
My son was 6 when I had a c-section. As soon as I was able to drive, I was responsible for his transportation to/from school. During this time period, I also went back/forth to the hospital for our daughter. I tore stomach muscles the 2nd day home....so it was about 2 weeks before I was comfortable on my own. Both my Mom & Gma helped until then.
Came home and after about three days was able to handle things. Personally, I would keep your older one home. To me it sends a message,
new baby home with Mom, I have to leave. To me it is a special time, so it
may be a bit hectic, but that is what motherhood is all about. Good luck.
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Came home and after about three days was able to handle things. Personally, I would keep your older one home. To me it sends a message,
new baby home with Mom, I have to leave. To me it is a special time, so it
may be a bit hectic, but that is what motherhood is all about. Good luck.
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Came home and after about three days was able to handle things. Personally, I would keep your older one home. To me it sends a message,
new baby home with Mom, I have to leave. To me it is a special time, so it
may be a bit hectic, but that is what motherhood is all about. Good luck.
I haven't had a c-section. But I know a few people that have had multiple ones. It seemed to me that they were doing pretty well, fast. Even in the hospital I saw them get up and around, move the babies bassinet, pick up the baby etc. I know they are not supposed to. If I were you, I'd try and find some help for the first few weeks even if it's just a few hours per day so you can take care of you and maybe some help with picking up around the house.
Daycare wise, it totally depends on what you can find. You probably want both babies to be together. So you need to find a place that knows they will have a space in the latter part of the year for your baby and your son.
About the daycare your son is in. Have you asked if they are in their numbers or checked with the state? It always surprises me when people tell me that the licensed centers don't have enough staff.
I had a c-section with my second, and was healing quite well and was up and moving the next day. (Quite a shock to the medical staff that I could go to the bathroom by myself) But it seemed like my healing went faster with the second, even though I had the first naturally. I did have a lot of help with my oldest when my second was born though. I had family close, and she had never been in daycare, but I would think you would want to so that you would have the time to heal and bond with the new little one without having the older one feeling super jealous.
I personally kept the same routine. Daycare and all that way my first two realized that while things changed we didn't want to mess up the routine. Your almost three year old will have enough adjusting to do having a new sibling in the house. Remember those sleepless nights???? You will welcome the break believe me :) A day here and there will be fine.
I sent mine just so he could keep his regular routine and I could have time to spend with my baby.
