Daughter Lost a Friend

Moving on and 'loosing' friends one way or another is a part of life... I'd not really bring it up unless she asks point blank about going to see her or inviting her over.

My son asks about one little boy he played with only like 3 times all the time and wants to play with him, even though they now live almost 10 hours away.

We just answer him that we wont be seeing him anytime soon.

I know your situation is different. But at her age, you can just tell her that she's moved away, or since you will be moving soon that she'll meets lots of other friends. I would not tell her that you and her mom got into an argument. You could maybe say they've been very busy and you and her mom don't talk anymore or something.

For her questions, "I wonder if Sophie is bigger than me" and things like that, just engage her and answer her questions. "I don't know, you've been getting very tall!"

Let it be it will go out of her mind before too long. no reason for her to know all the drama of whats going on it will just make her sad. When she says something about sophie just redirect the conversation.

Your daughter is 4.
Kids often "wonder" about other kids, even if they had not seen them in years.
My kids do.
My daughter had 2 friends, that moved. They were family friends.
We don't see them anymore.
I explained that they moved.
My daughter had no issues about it or being fixated on those friends.

Your daughter will meet other kids and make other friends.
At this age, no friend is really a 'permanent' friend.
Like how adults, may view it.

Ditto the previous post by Sherry.

I haven't read any other responses. But, my opinion is she is 4 and she will forget about her friend. If she mentions her friend I'd just say something generic. Or just say "oh I don't know" ...

I definitely would not tell your daughter what happened but would blame it on geography and assure her that new friends are waiting for her in your new home.

No do not bring up why you don't see Sophie anymore. That too much for a child to deal with, and even a teenager for that matter.

Best wishes!

When my daughter was this age, we had to move a lot due to my husband being transferred for work. It was hard on my daughter in one sense, but she made friends so easily. There was one special friend that we really hoped to stay in touch with. We wrote letters, etc. There was never any word back.
I got a card from the mom about a year later saying that she'd received the letters, but she'd learned her husband was addicted to pills and had some other problems and she had just been too busy.
I wrote back. We even went by their house when we were in town. Never word from them again.
We continued to speak fondly of my daughter's friend and remember how much fun they had. I guess, fortunately, due to our move my daughter never even thought about anything being wrong. People move, people lose touch. Just be positive when your daughter asks questions. "Well, you're growing. I bet Sophie has too."
In time, even though your daughter may never forget her friend, which is perfectly fine, she will miss her less and less and she will have other friends. My daughter is 24 and still remembers her friend we lost touch with. She doesn't pine for her or anything. But they were special friends and what a great thing to have that experience. Her friend may well wonder how she's doing too. We may never know.

I think your daughter will be fine. She still thinks of her friend and that's a nice thing. Memories are good.

Things just happen in this life and kids learn that one way or the other.

Best wishes.

Hello my hubby is a child therapist and we have raised four children and me and my husband agree that this kind of thing happens all the time your child is four she will easily make new friends if she asks about her old friend tell her the truth they moved away and it didn't work out but usually four year olds forget about this kind of stuff don't dwell on it too much:)

Yeah, I agree with other responders, just let it be. I wouldn't go into the falling-out you had; it will probably just confuse her since she's only 4 (I can just imagine my own kids saying, "But why? Why did you fight? Why can't you make up with her? etc.). Since you're moving, just chalk it up to the move and she will soon make new friends. My kids still mention friends that they had a year or two ago, but are happy with having new friends that they've met since we moved here. At that age, friends are easy to make, and it'll especially help that there are a lot of kids in your new neighborhood. Good luck with your move!