Dad'd Taking Their Daughters to a Public Restroom

If you make it a big deal it will become a big deal, they don't know the difference. Covering eyes etc is silly in my opinion. I have a 5 year old daughter and my husband takes her and we have never had an issue.

My husband took his daughters into the restroom when needed until they were 5 1/2. I would take one kid, he would take the other, or if there was a line in the women's room he took them both to the mens. Tell him to be proud of his girls!!

My husband used to freak also and wait until they got home. But one day he had his car--cloth seats--and one of my girls could not hold it anymore. He didn't wait again. He would tell our daughter to wait one second, pop his head into the restroom to see if anyone was in there and if so wait until they were done. When they were 5 or so, they would go into the ladies room and he would stand outside the door. If they were not out in a few minutes, he would push the door open and call out for her. I did the same thing with my son when he decided he wanted nothing to do with the ladies room.

So many stores and malls have a "family" restroom. They are so nice, everybody in one place with privacy. Just remind him that they are always an option.

It's no biggie. Though I would definitely advise against having any stranger (store employee, etc) take your daughter into the bathroom. That suggestion scares me. If men see that a little girl is coming in, they try to be more discreet with their peeing. And if she does happen to see what's going on, it's not really a big deal. Boys have penises. I find it hard to believe that she was never in the bathroom while her dad was going, so she'll really only think it's a big deal if she realizes her dad is upset by it.

Most stores have family restrooms that are unisex. If there are none available, he should take her in a stall with him. If there are men at the urinal, he may want to announce he is coming in and announce when he is leaving the stall. he can also peep in and make sure that no one is exposed before coming inside. Hope this helps.

This just happened to us twice. My daughter is 6 and normally she would always go with me, but we just flew to Buffalo on an airplane and as we were landing wouldn't you know it, my daughter said she has to go. I told her to hold it, but then she starts crying that she really needs to go and can't hold it. The passangers were great and let us off nearly first, but wouldn't you know it the longest line ever for ladies the room, I tried to cut, but it was taking too long.

My husband grabbed her hand, told her to close her eyes and he put his hand over her eyes and led her into a stall. Then he brought her out to me and we went in the ladies room to wash her hands. (he didn't want her in there trying to do that)

Next case a few days later. We are at a water park with a lot of extended family. I was watching the babies where we were sitting and my daughter was at the wave pool with all the guys, and not one female family member. They took her to the mens bathroom and made sure no one was at the urinal and let her go in there. Someone came in while she was in there but they just told her to wait in the stall until they left.

Worst case scenerio have them close their eyes and run them into a stall.

My husband spends a lot of time worrying about this same issue. He literally plans his exursions based on restrooms. He spent a long time scoping out a family restroom at Wrigley Field (there is one near the first aid station on the main level). Even though he's comfortable with the thought of taking her to the restroom with him, he thinks men's bathrooms are disgusting. If there is no family restroom, I agree with others who suggest discretely entering a stall in the men's bathroom. I also recommend having hand sanitizer and wipes and letting her wash her hands that way (outside of the restroom) as a "special treat".

my husband would go in first and try to cover their eyes/block their view to be sure there weren't any men openly urinating. Then he'd take them into a stall to do their business. He would also try to avoid restrooms that were not neat and clean (based on experience). Your husband is normal.

My hubby only had to do it a few times...In Walmart they have a family bathroom so that helps.

otherwise he looked inside and waited until everyone left. He would then ask if the men coming in would wait for him to take the girls before they went in. Unless you are in a very busy place most men will wait outside for a few minutes while he take his daughter in.

My dad use to take me all the time when I was a kid. Not a big deal. The other men are not going to care; I'm sure plenty of them have had to do the same thing with their little girls.

Hi M. Have your daughter go to the restroom at home before they go out. That way he will not have to take her into the men washroom. If nescessary put her on a pull up. when my son was that age I would take him into the women washroom stall with me. But it's a little different taking a girl in the men washroom because of the urinals and their private parts are exposed.

I have the flip side so I thought I would share. We only have a son so I didn't have the same issues. I know that when my husband is in a bathroom and a dad brings his daughter in it really bothers my husband. Don't get me wrong. He knows the dad has no choice and is simply doing the "right" thing. But I love the idea one mom said about peeking in and saying "I need to bring my daughter in. I thought I would give fair warning, or something like that." It is really only an issue for men at the urinals.

My husband says it makes him uncomfortable to be exposed to a young girl. He says it just feels wrong.

There are alot of family restrooms around...most stores do however if they have 2 usually they are at the back of the store for the family ones. However I have no problem with my daughter going in with her Dad to the bathroom .This is not the "duty" of store clerks or what looks to be a friendly face. I would much rather have my daughter see a man pee, than have a stranger take my child into the bathroom and trust nothing bad will happen to them..

when your daughter turns 15 tell him it's time to stop
just kidding a little humor is fun . It's part of being a daddy. Tell him the hard part will be when she's 5 and goes alone and he stands outside waiting and waiting and waiting. And opens the door not to look in and says her name, and says is everything ok in there.... Enjoy the neediness it ends so fast.

I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. Your girl won't see it as a big deal if dad doesn't make a big deal of it. A couple things: 1) don't put her back in pull ups unless you want to go backwards in the potty training. 2) Having a stranger take her is NOT a good idea. 3) Many places now have family bathrooms for this purpose.
Also, has your daughter never seen her dad use the bathroom? My daughter is 3 1/2 and she has walked in on her dad many times. My husband has taken her into the potty and never really thought twice about it. He just sees it as that being part of being a dad. I've never had him say anything about someone else in the bathroom being embarrassed or saying anything. One more thing... I have 2 boys both younger than her. She helps me change diapers by getting diapers/wipes for me so seeing a boys privates are nothing new to her. What is the difference between her younger brothers and an older guy besides size? Yes, a question may eventually come, but it will weather shes ever been in the mens restroom or not.