Custody? Emotional/adjust Issues?

did you ever consider that maybe the counselor and your ex husband for quietly seeing each other, and thats why the woman is always siding with him?? if monica lewinski can nearly bring down a president, then a counselor could easily be influenced to give your ex husband what he wants in more ways then one.call her boss, and request that another counselor be issued to the case, a male one.citing conflict of interest issues. also, seriously consider(before doing anything else), investigating the counselor to see if she has ever been investigated for sleeping with her male clients. because, this counselor should be actually listening to what your child is telling her, not making excuses for a guy she is probably sleeping with.
K. h.

Your children need immediate counseling!! who specialized in children only! My two kids were about that age but my ex was so good to them and loving, never ever yells or uses profanity. I feel so very badly for your kids!! My heart goes out to them :( But it seems to me that he just wants them more days because the more day your ex has them, he pays much less in child support. You need to somehow start logging EVERYTHING down. Each time your daughter calls you crying, write down the Time, Date and what was your daughter said happened. And I mean everytime! This will help you greatly in court if need so. Trust me! And if you could also somehow record it, even better! Those poor kids are going thru so much already, they don't need to get yelled at. God! I hated it when a child suffers! I will pray for you and your precious children. You need to speak to that counselor and be very firm! Tell him/her she is not 'LISTENING' to your child! you might want to request another counselor, do this asap! God bless you and the kids! Do not agree to anything you are not in agreement to, it WILL hurt you in court. Be strong, your children really need you to be strong for them! Do it for them! They are suffering!! Don't be afraid of your ex! He is trying you big time and so is that dumb counselor! Remember, take your kids to counseling asap!! And you should also talk to one for you. God bless

Hi, T.:

Do they have family mediation up there where you live?
They have a mediation center in Philly called Good Shepherd
Mediation. I don't know this mediator in Bensalem but
you can write or call and ask her for information about a family
mediator in your area.

ask for: Ally
____@____.com

Good luck. D.
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Yes, the judge will ask the question as to why the other days are ok and certain days are not along with many other questions. Your daughter will have to answer that. I dont understand why the couseler doesnt work with her on how to answer such a tough question. As a child of divorced parents, I know it is rough. As a mommy now, divorced, I know as a mommy it is rough. I have been on both ends.

As a mommy, keep advocating for your daughter and also you may want to find a differant couseler that can better work with a child. Divorce causes kids to answer questions and experience things that are hard to deal with a child. She needs a counseler that understands what she is going through, and what YOU are going through as well.

Hang in there, I will pray for ya.

Every situtation is different. I can only tell you my opinion. My husband and I nearly divorced some years back when we had just the two children who were school age. They were around 5 and 13. My husband agreed with me that the children would need one stable home, especially during school. The boys would be "home" during the week and with dad either every other or every weekend, and would call often back and forth to be included in the children's lives including school work and any discipline problems, etc. I came from a divorced family, he did not. So we both agreed to having one "home" for the children and often visitation.

K. B
mom to 5 including triplets

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You sound like yo don't know your ex very well, relying on your daughter to tell you he's a yeller, etc. You know him. You should have a clear picture of the situation in his home. Girlfriend? Is she good for the kids? Do you have personal animosity about her? Should your kids be there half the time? Is that the best for them? If it is, you are going to have to help support your daughter in feeling better about it, if it isn't, you need to start from scratch and fight, not let her suffer and try to get through to a lame shrink about it. Figure out what is really best for the kids, work on cooperating with your ex for what is truly best for the kids, not fighting, and get a new counselor immediately-she sounds hideous.

It sounds like you need another counselor, and a family counselor - someone that deals with families in transition. I'm a child of divorce and I know that the more the parents can work together, the better off the kids will be. Don't "give in" on things, but do what you can to be the parent that's doing the best to make the situation work. I'm assuming divorce is hard when it's the right way to go, and maybe he is depressed, overwhelmed, etc. Do your best to be helpful for the kids' sake. Good luck!