I am going through a Divorce as well. My daughter is 9 years old and her Father swore he was going to "FIGHT ME UNTIL THE DAY HE DIES" for Custody. I began to worry myself, because right now I live in the "Marital" home, and I have agreed to move into an apartment so he can move back in. I came up with an offer of Joint Legal and Joint Physical Custody for our Daughter. HE AGREED and we are about to settle without going to trial. Joint Legal means we make equal decisions regarding what is in the best interest of the child, (medical, etc...)and Joint Physical (what I came up with) is she is with him 2 full weeks a month, and me 2 full weeks a month. Sun thru Sun. My spouse LOVES that idea. I had also posed an every Friday thru Sunday, he turned that down because he realized every weekend gives him no Social Life. I also gave him printed information on the affects and emotional problems that it will cause a child who is in the middle of a Divorce/Custody fight. And I put my Daughter in Therapy, because I wasn't sure if she was being affected in any way. There will be a Law Guardian, just make sure you don't say anything negative about him, or give a personal opinion about him. Let the Law Guardian know that you have the child in Therapy to help the child cope with Mommie and Daddy Divorcing. Try Counseling for yourself, that really shines with the Courts!!! Also, continue to encourage a relationship between him and your son. That looks very favorable in Court as well. You must remain calm, and collected. All the things the Law Guardian and Judge look at when determing these matters. Chances are he is going to look like the fool anyway! Do you have Legal Help? I know an organization that could assist you if you don't! Boys do need to have their Father in their life, and they very much need their Mother as well. With that said, 50% of the time with you, and 50% of the time with him might work, unless the Dad has some issues...I am Welcoming those 2 weeks of "Adult" time to myself.
I know an Organization for Free Counseling. Email me ____@____.com if you need any information I mentioned, or you just want to chat! Good Luck...It will get easier, trust me...