Hello K.,
I worked in a daycare for four years. I have observed a lot of children during that time. I am also the oldest of eight children and I do have my son. I can understand your concern. When a child is happy they run to you happy. Now with crying I would like you to consider these questions. Did you talk to your child's teachers. Let them really know how concern you are. I should state here that I have worked for several daycare before the final one in which I had worked for four years. The other daycare, we were told not to talk to the parents. Only the designated teacher could speak to parents. It asked any questions though, we were told only to tell the parents your child had a great day, even if they really didn't. If there was an accident that left a mark, like a child biting a child, then we filled owt an accident form. If not marks was left thsy hushed it up. I don't approve of lying and if it was my child I would check on how they handle any kind of accidents. Ex. A child hits andother child and there was no marks. I feel that parent should be informed. Think about it. That child would not want to go back to that class if they had to confront that bully again. There are so many variables in this kind of situation. When I choose the daycare for my son, these are the questions I asked myself. Did that daycare have the same discipline structure as I do?
Do they have enough helpers per class to watch, play, help the children they have in their class? Does class have to many children? What is the structure of each class? Do they have more than just play time? How much time do they allow the children to watch TV? (Some daycare lets the TV babysit the children and not the teachers.) I read every pamphlet of each daycare and visited each one to. Do they have enough outdoor toys and well as indoor toys? I also talked personally to the teachers that will be in charge of watching and caring for my child. When the teachers know you really want the truth, most would share the truth.(even if it goes against policy of the owners or directors of the daycare.) All I know is that something scared your child. It might have only been watching some of the children fighting. Just continue to love and reassure your child that you are there for her. If she can't talk about what's troubling her, maybe have her draw it out. If that doesn't help, maybe seeking a woman in the field of talking to little children in need. Are there male teachers in the daycare that she may be shy around? I am not trying to scare you. Just look at it in your child perspective. She is so tiny and all adults and older children are so tall. Keep giving her lots of hugs and keep doing what you are doing. Loving your precious little girl. I really hope I have helped. I want to take this time to wish you and your whole family a Happy Holiday. Your friend from Mamacource, Debbie.