Ok Ladies, please help me. I was getting approval for an IUD and after realizing I was a week late, took a home pregnancy test. It quickly came up pregnant! (YIKES) My husband has been against the idea of having a 3rd child and I understand where he is coming from. Too late now! I took the blood test and am waiting on the Drs results before I share the news. I wanted to do something special for him, since this was unexpected. I was thinking of having our 3 1/2 yr old daughter give him a box to open... but what do I put inside? Any other ideas would also be helpful. Thank you for your creativity! :)
Well thank you for those who were kind and helpful! This was obviously a little sensitive and unexpected. I am shocked everytime I post something to find out how judgemental people are! I told him late one night, alone, and he was shocked, but knew exactly when it happened (since it was completely his fault)!! He had trouble sleeping, had to go for a cruise; but, has since started cooking healthy meals. He did this our other two pregnancies AND he has been personable lately. He is not excited and talking names and stuff yet, but he will be there before we know it. Thanks again ladies and BE KIND to those who are inquiring on sensitive issues.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!
I once saw an episode of Full House where Rebecca cooks a meal for Jesse of baby carrots, baby corn, ect...(everything baby related) and waited for him to notice the theme. :)
I have NO experience with this, but I think you need to think about his reaction before you involve your daughter in the reveal.
By "against", do you mean a quiet "I think we're done" or a strong "I do NOT want to have another child, no way!". If #2 is the attitude, then I would tell him yourself because you don't want him being upset to spill onto the 3.5 year old. If you think he'd be surprised, but not angry, than maybe. If you don't want to take any chances on negative fall-out with your 3.5 year old around, just tell him yourself.
Congrats and good luck!
Well... since you weren't trying and were actually trying to PREVENT another pregnancy, I'd say this might be a sensitive issue. Ask your doctor for a pamphlet for the IUD, then stick a post it note inside saying 'We have 9 months and 6 weeks to wait for this', and see if he gets it ;) I'd keep the kiddos out of the picture, just because you're unsure of how he's going to react.
Good luck and congrats!
He might be thrilled, he might be angry, he might be sad...since you don't know how he will react you probably don't want to involve your daughter. If you think he is going to be upset, I think maybe you should just tell him instead of trying to make it special. That way your daughter (and maybe you?) won't be upset if dad's reaction isn't exactly joyous. Just tell him and give him time to process the information on his own (or with you). Best wishes.
But if you want to go the surprise route, maybe put her in a shirt that says Big Sis X 2! and see how long it takes for your husband to notice.
I think I would tell him myself without the child being involved. You were doing your best to prevent the pregnancy and it occurred so it is your responsibility to tell him not your child's.
Just make sure it is at a quiet time so that if there is any "fall out" it will be between the two of you. Remember it takes two to do this so he was an eager participant.
Congrats. Make sure you have a back up plan on this one before you leave the hospital.
The other S.
PS Keep us posted on his reaction(s). Thanks.
Since your husband was against the idea of a third child, you both should have probably been a lot more careful. But, since it takes two to tango, you both now need to be happy about this surprise blessing. However, since he will be shocked and maybe not happy, I think you should tell him in a serious "I need to talk to you setting" instead of a cutsy telling him idea. You don't know how he is going to react and I wouldn't want your 3 1/2 year old to experience a less than enthusiastic reaction.
My husband freaked when we got pregnant with #4....but I gave him a shirt, to tell him I was pregnant, that read Dad to the 4th power, but is just Dad with a 4 near the top of the d....to be specific. Anyway, once he got over the initial shock, he has worn that shirt with pride. He finally went and got a vas. LOL
I wouldn't put your daughter in the middle, so she doesn't have to deal with any reaction and take it personally.
With #3, I left 2 pregnancy tests on the bathroom counter for him to find and it gave him a little time to process before he found me.
Good luck and congratulations!!!!
How about putting the positive pregnancy test in the box - assuming you kept it! When I found out we were pregnant with our second child I had my then 3 year old daughter hold both of the positive pregnancy test sticks (couldn't rely on just one positive - he,he) behind her back and we had daddy pick a hand the moment he walked in the door from work!
Congratulations =)
I'm all for creative deliveries of pregnancy news, but since you have had time to accept this change of plans, and he may feel blind sided, I'd wait to tell him until your kids are in bed. If he's the one who was against it, the creative delivery will not only be lost, but may make it worse. We only know what you told us, so by all means take this with a grain of salt.
Rather than big surprises, I'm thinking better to disarm him. Wear some lingerie, make his evening, and let it news slip in the afterglow.
Have not read ahead...bare with if this is a repeat...
Have the youngest currently wear a ''BIG brother/sister'' shirt. And see if he catches on.
If he doesnt say after two hours maybe have aback up plan where one of them gives him the gift......but maybe make it a scavenger hunt! that would be fun!!
I would buy a bouquet of flowers for the dinner table or something like that and add in the Positive pee stick and just wait to see what happens
Good Luck and Congrats
have her give him a card that says oooooh wooooww weeee here comes number 3!
Put a Blue Diaper pin and a Pink Diaper Pin....tell hime Im not sure which one yet but we are having at least one of these.
