M.T.
You and I need to get together and form a club. I have the same problem with my 15 yr old Christina. She is from my first marriage, her father is active in her life, so is my current husband. I also have triplets who are almost 5, two boys and a girl. Christina screams at them (especially Isabella) from the time she walks in the door til the time she goes to bed. She also doesn't care about anything, school work, keeping her room clean, anyone's feelings, ect. She is also has ADD, ODD (receintly found that one out) and is manic depressive as I am. She has been seeing a therapist for yrs. It got so bad that I was having chest pains from stress because of her. I ended up sending her to her dad's (not far from here) for the rest of the school yr due to her starting to get suspended now as well as failing. She has only been there 5 months and is causing havoc there. Needless to say she will be coming back here the day school gets out because she is not getting the supervision she should be getting over there. I am sorry I am not able to give you a light at the end of the tunnel but at least you know you are not the only one out there. Email me if you would like to chat or just vent. I have been where you are almost since my triplets came almost 5 yrs ago. BTW I just noticed your son's name is Brody. I named one of my triplets Brody as well. :) (Isabella, Logan and Brody).
M.