My husband and i decided that it would be fine for me to quit a job i hated. I will be starting school up again soon and i thought we came to an agrreance that if i couldnt get the job i really wanted then it must not be my time till after school then today he tells me to look at a few jobs he had seen. ??? I start school back in one month and he went from being perfectly happy to trying to find me a job. Why? wont say
Just confused what advice can you give me?
Maybe he misunderstood. I would just smile and say thank you. There may be a time when you guys need to sit down and have a talk about finances but it doesn't seem like he heard you say you don't plan on working while being a full time student.
Well, you are all over the place...
First you were living in Oklahoma and going to open a home day care. Now you are going back to school?
If you and your husband came to an agreement (not sure what an agrreance is so I'm THINKING you meant agreement).
I would tell you to stick with school. You'll need an education.
As to your husband? If he won't answer you? Sounds like he's immature. So tell him to start acting like a man instead of an insolent 2 year old and answer the question.
I suggest that there is no way for any of us to know how your husband is thinking. I would advise you to do what you think is the best thing for you and your marriage. I don't know what that would be.
One thought is that if you get a job now you'll already have a job once school starts and will have the extra money. Accept the job based on it's flexibility for a school schedule.
not sure how we can say since we're not your husband.
you need to talk to him, and keep talking until you're both clear on what the other one's saying.
it doesn't sound as if the 'agreeance' you agreed to is the same one he thought he was agreeing to.
khairete
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Ask him.
That's my advice.
If he doesn't "remember" your agreement, or says it was different than you remember it, the next time you two make such an important decision, type it up. Read it to him. Ask him if he understands the same thing you understand. Then surprise the heck out of him and have both of you sign it.
Then what's he going to say a few months down the road? That someone forged his signature?
Geesh!!
Dawn
Men and women speak two different languages - almost always. Remember that
He's probably getting afraid there won't be enough money for everything. He only asked you to look into the jobs he's seen. Just check it out, then go from there. And I'm sure the agreement meant one thing to him and another to you. Maybe he doesn't even know there is an agreement. Maybe he thinks you can work and go to school, if it's the "right" job.
Try to get your thoughts clear before talking to him and Be Calm.
It can be financially now that the two of you are not working. Or it can be jealousy, now that you are in school you will have friends and time to hang out. While he has to work, you need to figure out what the problem is. Ask him Mom or Dad if you are close or one of his friends.
You would be able to focus in school if you don't know what causing him to feel this way. You don't want to argue or fight about something he not telling you.
Good Luck
