I have a job offer and it is a great one. The only thing now is that I have to put my 9 yr old son back in the public school that I pulled him out of and used the iQAcademyTX public school to teach him. I tried to get him enrolled in a different school but they said they're not taking any transfer students. It would be great to have all three of my kids together so I know what happens.
Now, I am stuck. I miss having adult conversations, going out with girlfriends for some coffee or shopping or simply just to hang out. My kids only have me during the day and I try to entertain them and keep things interesting. I just don't know what to do for any of us. My family is no where near us and we're very close and my husband's family isn't all that close even though we live in the same state.
I'm kind of shy and my ways may be different than other since I was in the military and I'm not all about being dressed up and hair and makeup. What would you do for yourself and your kids? Is letting them go to daycare a bonus for them so they can interact? While I try to maybe find a part time job to work or maybe work one from home where I can still go meet people. I want the best of both worlds. I want to have friends to hang out with and friends for my kids to hang out with and family gatherings for both the kids, my husband and myself...So confusing
If you have a good (great) job offer, take it! I've worked as a consultant for an Outplacement company for the last 3.5 years. I've worked with hundreds of people laid off from their jobs. Good jobs are not easy or quick to find.
Daycare has always been a bonus for my daughter, and now school. She loves being with other kids and doing all kinds of activities.
This is not really confusing to me at all. Working at a 9-5 per se won't necessarily net you friends. Also just because my child has found a new friend won't necessarily mean I will be close friends with the parents of that child either. Being shy is fine but you still need to learn how to interact with others. Join groups and participate in activities or find a cause you are passionate about and promote that cause and you will find people that share the same interests as you. Getting out of the house is probably key to finding the kind of interaction you are looking for which is more connections with adults and obtaining friendships.
My church is an awesome place to meet and befriend some awesome people. I can't imagine life without my church family. Honestly some of my friends from the church are closer to me and my family than my own sister.
Broaden your experiences and don't be fearful of going outside of your comfort zones. Stretch your personal box and make it bigger. It will also be an excellent experience for your child to see and be a part of.
If you have a job offer that you are excited about, take it. Your son is older now and whatever problems with school existed last year may not still be problems this year. This was true for my son. I was worried about a kid in his class because of past issues, but this year they had no problems, even became friends. It was his best year yet.
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If what you are looking for is social interaction, join a homeschool group. There are so many different families, and most groups are welcoming and supportive. You can get to know the families and choose who you want to influence your son in the critical tween/teen years. You geet to know lots of families but you choose those you spent lots of time with. What fun to enjoy the education process with your kids and have great social times!
If you really want the job, you'll need to look at other good options. Either way, make the best decision for your family's future, not for the societal norm. Praying for you!
After having several friends that worked in daycare, I decided early on to avoid daycare at all costs. But, I'm an artist, writer, and hermit. The friends I have, I;ve been friends with for at least 12 years, and I too, am in a state away from my friends and family, but between my family and my work, both are which my passions, respectively, my plate is too full to even be interested in meeting new people.
As far as daycare generally speaking, I feel if you have to do it, do it. Some kids love it, some hate it, you won't know until you try so give it a shot, maybe let them go for a day or two a week beofre making any big committments.
I should also add from my own experience, working from home is great, in the case that you're a night owl that can run fine on 3-5 hours of sleep.
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Just a side note - child care - true, quality child care- provides more than just a social outlet, but a full sensory learninig experience and prepares your children for school! My kiddos have blossomed so much in their child care settings and while I may not connect with every parent, not a problem to meet them at the park for a few hours on a Saturday or spend a few hours at a birthday. I love the things the teacher's introduce and we build on at home, I also love the structure of a third-party so my kids realize it isn't just at our house, but everywhere where there are rules and "norms" to follow.
In terms of the job - go for it! If you hate it, or it is not what you expected, etc. you can quit;) But on the positive side, you may love it and you don't want to miss out on that possiblity!
