Conception

I am so sorry for you loss. I truly know what you went though. I too lost mine at 12 weeks. I too was determined to try again. After it was all over, I went to the doctors to make sure that it was complete. I miscarried Oct.29, 1999 and was pregnant Dec 2000.I used an ovulation kit to time my ovulation. My son was born health 7 lbs on Sept 15, 2001. Since then we had another child. It a hard recovery but with support it gets easier.
Check with your doctor, to make sure everything it good.
P.S. when in the hospital, the nurse told me that along with my self, there were 3 others that had boys using the ovulation kits.
best to you and your family
T.

Dear Z.,

I miscarried quite a lot when I was young, and the doctors wanted me to wait 6 months to a year to try again. I think that probably it would be better to wait a little bit longer for your periods to stabllize. I know that it is very hard to do, but, it would be better for your body. ....and the healthier your body is,... the healthier the baby is, and the better chance at life he or she has.

I know that miscarriages are very sad for the mother, it helped me to know that probably the baby was not healthy enough to be born. It still makes you heart sick,I know, and you will always wonder why it happened.

Good Luck. C. N.

I had two miscarriages between my two kids. After the first I got pregnant again within a few months. After the second it took about 4 months. But, sometimes it takes a while. I remember the first time I got pregnant it took 8 months to conceive. There could be several reasons why you are not conceiving right now, stress is a HUGE factor. If you are concerned give your OBGYN a call. Just talking to someone who understands is very helpful sometimes. Good luck!
J.

Dear Z., I just want to assure you that every one is different. I am very furtile (sp?)...I had a miscarriage last year in August and was pregnant again by December...then another miscarriage in Feb...and pregnant again in March and I am now 5 months pregnant...I did not even have a period in between either miscarriage...I will be praying for you to expand your family...Please keep in mind that everybody is different...and Keep you head up

I am sorry to hear about your lost, But the key word to getting pregnant again is "relaxing" and I know its easier said then done!!! I had one in Dec and was pregnant by that June of the next year, I trully believe all women is differ but the womenly body defintely needs 6-12 months to heal and then reproduce again, you got to just relax and not look for it, I gaurante-- you will be pregnant in no time and the next time I did get pregnant I made sure to take it slow and easy for the 1st trimester, due to when I did misscarry I had no kind of pain or cramps "only the lost of pain in my heart "if I may say "it can be hard losing something you really want, and so I say that also due to I had eregular periods alot too and it kind of made me wonder were those misscarriges too due to I was not paying attention or looking for birth at that time.

Good Luck and my prayers are going out to you:)

I wish I could give you some good info. However I miscarried last Novemeber, and got pregnant again within a week or so after that.

It took my husband and I to conceive before that nearly a year though.

First off I had to realize my body was not broken. I conceived my first at 30 and our attempt at 33. I talked with an accupuncturist about this and she explained to me about the body being like a computer and how important it was to wait exactly 9 mos. to conceive again. Because your body still was acting like it was in a nine month cycle even if I had had a miscarriage. My miscarriage was in Aug. and on a vacation to Begium and Amsterdam where I just relaxed, had fun, ate the cuisine of the area and walked a lot I conceived 9 months to the day of the miscarriage.
Previously I had joined a maternity swim class thinking if I hung out with pregnant women I would eventually get pregnant. I had been participating one month in the class when I got pregnant as well as I bought maternity clothes and baby clothes for my new unconceived baby......Positive thought.....nine months to the day. Who knows.....but I now have a big straping 21 year old son.

I'm sorry to hear you're having trouble conceiving again. Your body, mind, spirit went through a lot. I miscarried in May '05 and wasn't able to get pregnant again until December '06. The wait was horrible. I grew absolutely weary of people telling me to just "relax".

Are you testing positive for ovulation? The ovulation predictor kits can be helpful. My period cycles were all over the map after I miscarried, sometimes my cycles were 21 days and others were 27 days. Ask your OBGYN to test your FSH hormone levels. Mine were marginal due to my short cycles, apparently with such a short cycle the egg didn't have enough time to mature, so even though I was testing positive on the ovulation kit, it wasn't a viable egg.

I highly recommend that you do some research and speak with your doctor about using a natural progesterone cream and/or estrogen cream to get your body back into balance. My doctor was very doubtful it would work, but I followed a 14 day program and applied natural progesterone cream for 3 months and stopped. During this 3 month period, my husband and I did NOT try to get pregnant. Maybe just the act of not trying for a while helped me mentally, but funny thing, I was pregnant after my second cycle after stopping the regime. Was it the progesterone or not? There is a LOT of controversy using progesterone cream and most of the literature I read recommended only using it for 3 months maximum. It did make me feel a lot better and my cycles were back to 28 days and very easy - no cramping or pms. Best of all, I got pregnant and I'm expecting my first child in 8 weeks.

I send happy fertile thoughts your way!

we use the creighton model to track my fertility because i didn't want to use hormonal methods of birth control. stroke runs in my family since the pill increases odds of blood clot and stroke, i wanted to stay far away from that! a good instructor of natural family planning can help teach you to make accurate records of your fertility and may even be able to help pinpoint fertility problems. i know if i were having problems ttc, i'd go the natural route first - it's safer and cheaper than mainstream fertility clinics. Just do a google search for more info and to find a local teacher in your area. you can also read "taking charge of your fertility" to get more info. good luck!

Hi,
I had a miscarriage almost 2 years ago. It took me a while to get my cycle back to normal and we were not really trying to get pregnant again, it just happened 7 months later. So just relax and don't stress or try so hard it will happen..

I'm so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I had one in August (at 10 weeks), so I know how you feel. I wasn't ready to start trying right away because it was too hard emotionally. So in March we started trying, and we are still trying. It's very frustrating because we conceived our son the first month I went off the pill. My periods are still not regular since the miscarriage, so maybe that's why it's taking so long to get pregnant. I just keep hoping that it happens soon. So, I guess the only advice I can give is to just keep trying and try not to stress (although I know that is so hard to do!!!). I'm coming up on the one-year anniversary of my miscarriage (Aug 9) and I was really hoping to be pregnant by then. I hope you get pregnant soon too! Let me know how it's going.

Hi,

I am so very sorry for your loss. My first pregnancy ended in miscarriage and it was very hard on me. We waited about 8 months to start trying (due to some family stress) and once we started trying it took 10 months to conceive. It felt like forever and I was so devastated every cycle that didn't "work." My cycle was quite irregular, too. I think a lot of that had to do with the aforementioned family crisis. Stress can really do a number on your hormones. My cycles didn't regulate until I was able to work through some of that stress & depression, start exercising, and generally become a happier person through lots of prayer and loving support from my family. Hang in there, I will be praying for you.

Here's a miscarriage forum to check out, there's a message board for trying to conceive after loss:

www.miscarriage-support.org