Communication with the Daycare Regarding My Son

I guess I had paid enough attention to the other kids that I knew there would be a transition period. That a few weeks before the actual move over to the new room he would start spending time in the next classroom. So it would not have bothered me. I also knew that my son's friend had already moved to the older room so sometimes my son would get a "treat" to go over and see his friend before my son moved up too. Now completely moving him up without notification would not have sat well but the transition period ok.

I wouldn't have been bothered.

Now, when my son got closer to a full transition we chatted, but a visit here and there to see how well he interacted without me being told wouldn't have bothered me.

M.

I don't run a daycare center, but a daycare home. I do want to say though I don't like feeling like I am micromanaged. I mention things to parents as I feel they need to know. This seems like a very small thing that is up to them and not really even yours to concern yourself with. The only reason it should become your concern is if he hates the new caregivers and he starts disliking the daycare. BUT, I even have to caution all parents of children your son's age. It's a time when separation anxiety can rear it's ugly head suddenly and without provocation.

Daycare providers have so much to deal with on a daily basis. This level of hand holding with the parents is disruptive to the day.

I wouldnt have been bothered by it at all. I assume its just a room next door, or across the hall, not sure, but its not like they took him 3 blocks away and who knows how they watch him on the way. I think it wasnt that big a deal until its official that he starts that room full time. I think its great they started him out slow and let him see the new place for short times. I dont think every little thing they do during the day needs to be written in stone for you to approve. It may be that when you signed him up for the facility, it says that a few weeks before a transition, they will have him visit to get him accustomned to the new room. You might not have noticed. And time flies, so all of a sudden,,hes ready to go to the next phase. Id be glad and grateful they are letting him work up to it and thank them for being so compassionate to your son.

Yes, they should have told you, but I wouldn't have been too upset. Our daycare always told us when they would be starting the visiting phase, so we would be aware that our daughter was going through a change.

I would have wanted to know if my child was moved and I would have been upset if they didn't get my permission.

Do not understand why you are upset? Sounds like he will be moved there
in the next month or so. Could be they did not know when you dropped him
off. Could it be that they had some extra time to giv e him in this room, and
decided during the day. I mean they did not put him in a car and go out
carousing the neighborhood.

I wouldnt be too concerned. I think kids often visit other rooms. How else would they know if he was ready to start transitioning? I do have to ask though, how does your child handle you stopping by in the middle of the day? My kids would be very upset if I stopped by and then did not bring them home.

I don't think it's a big deal. I assume you are eventually going to move him up to the bigger kid room. What were you concerned about?

I do not know if they have to tell you every step. But, maybe they informed you of when you first signed on. I am sure if you ask them to let you know when they are going to add something to his schedule/activities they shouldn't mind.

oooh no!!! sorry - when I worked at Kindercare - we HAD to talk to parents about the transition!!

It's just as hard on parents as it is the kids!!! I had my mommy moments!! :) Your "baby" isn't a "baby" anymore and the move will be TOTALLY different....different schedule, routine, eating, sleeping, etc. impacts the whole routine!!

Talk to the center director and tell her that NO changes are to be done without talking FIRST!! You're on board with this transition - but YOU need to be prepared as well!!!

GOOD LUCK!

I completely understand because it is going to be a permanent change of his "room" and you should know where to find him. I would think that any change like that should be told to the parent. I would tell them that in the future to tell you about changes in his schedule or setting, it does change a lot in his normal routine at daycare.

I'm not sure how upset I would be seeing as how it was a visit here and there, but I would like to know that my daughter is transitioning to the bigger kid room. I'm also a parent who likes to know about what she does at daycare though. I don't like to be "out of the loop" after I drop her off.

My daughter "graduated" to the "different room" too. They TOLD me they were putting her there. I was surprised, but not upset. I was proud that they thought she was ready.

I'm not sure why you were upset they didn't tell you ahead of time. If it's their policy to introduce the room ahead of time, that's what they did. Now that you have informed them that you would like to know about changes ahead of time, they should tell you in advance in the future.

They could have told you but it doesn't seem like a big deal to me. I actually would have expected it.

My son's daycare is the same way, but for me it was drop off and pick up. I had noooo idea where he was when I would pick him up. I often times expressed my frustration because the girls would act like I was stupid that I didn't know where I was supposed to pick him up. You're so in the right.

I wouldn't have been bothered about it unless they actually moved him there without telling me. Not sure why it bothered you so much, but there's nothing wrong with informing the director that in the future you would like to be notified of any changes regarding your son's care.

Back when my daughter was in daycare they didn't tell me that they had even had her visiting the new room let alone that she had been moved there. I dropped her off one morning (first hour they were open they had all the kids in one room) and when I came to pick her up she wasn't in the 12-18 month room- they told me she had been moved. When I said something about it they said she had been visiting for two weeks! I went right to the director's office. There's nothing you can do about this time but I would still talk to the director to make sure you are informed before the next move up.
Good luck!

If my daughters were "visiting" another room that wouldn't have phased me. Permanent moves weren't made without notification and without reason. What you're describing sounds harmless and, as someone already mentioned, as if you're trying to micromanage the daycare. You said today was the first day of testing out visiting another room. I don't see why you would have been surprised and then "stunned."

Was there any time your child was disrupted and upset at the change? Was there a time your child was not safe? Was there a time where no one knew where he was? Was there a time where the room he was visiting was inappropriate for some reason? Was he being inadequately supervised? Would they "never" have told you at all about the trial when the visiting time was completed and he was ready to move? Perhaps you should check your contract and see if this sort of thing is addressed but I'm going to day that this sounds like a tempest in a teacup.

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our daycare is preschool, daycare, and after school care, so the routine is different (completely) during the summer than during the school year - they have never given me a call and told me specifically, my son would be in this room or that room. during the school year he is with the same teacher for preschool every day, but with vacations etc, often during the summer he gets moved around. i don't feel like it's a big deal, he is in the same building (a small 2 bedroom house sized building) with the same group of teachers around him. it's just a matter of which room he gets to play in that day.

My daycare definately lets me know about this kind of thing well in advance. In fact, they email all parents a bi-weekly newsletter and they also hold in person meetings for parents to come to when the kids are about to "shift" from one room to the next. They also call to let me know if my child had gotten a visable boo-boo that day so that I will not surprised when I come to pick him up. Recently the assisistant director has been on maternity leave and the communication has suffered a bit without her, but overall they are good at keeping me informed. I would say your daycare should absolutely be proactively communicating with you about major events. Perhaps you can suggest they start a newsletter or weekly email or something of the sort to help keep parents informed. Its easier for them to do it that way than to speak to each person individually anyway.