K.S.
Hi A.,
You'll be so happy you did cloth diapers... don't listen to anyone who tries to dissuade you. We use prefolds, fuzzi buns and bum genius. I would say if you are going exclusively with one type, use the bum genius- for a number of reasons. They are one size fits all, whereas fuzzi buns come in sm, med, large and you have to buy more when they grow out of the smaller size.
The small fuzzi buns worked great, but for some reason when we moved to the medium size the inner wicking side (the fuzzy part) is harder to keep tucked in and the pee ends up being wicked onto our baby's clothes.
The bum genious are also as easy to use as disposables- just velcro on and off. Provided that you've put the inserts in before hand, your husband and relatives shouldn't object to using them. You'll just need a travel bag for them to toss the dirty diapers into.
You are right that the pre-folds don't contain as well when they are small (especially if he is a breast-fed baby), but when my baby started eating solids and the poop got firmer then I started prefering the simplicity of pre-folds (simpler laundry-wise). We use chinese prefolds, but I hear they have bamboo ones now. We got our items from a local company- diapersafari.com- the owner, Bettina, was super helpful.
PS: If you don't have a utility sink I would invest in a hose that you can attach to your toilet for pre-rinsing the diaper. I use a large plastic plant pot with the bottom cut-out to help contain the spray - just clothspin the diaper to the rim of the pot, stick in the toilet bowl and rinse away.