My daughter will be 2 on the 17th and I recently put her in childcare 2 days a week. Well, she is having adjustment issues. My son is going to be 8 on the 20th, and that is who she is used to playing with, besides my me and my husband. I decided to put her childcare so that she would learn some social skills. She's a shy kid, and really doesn't do well around people she doesn't know. Even the people she has seen off and own, she is stnd-offish around. My husband works nights and I work during the day, so I thought it would be good for her to get out, and around children her own age. We don't know a lot of people, and especially people who have small children, so it makes it hard to get her aroung little people. We take her to the park, Chuck E Cheese, etc. But she doesn't really play with the other children. My questions are: 1)Should I continue her in childcare? She doesn't cry the entire time she is there, 9-2:30. She just plays by herself. Now keep in mind it has only been a week. 2)Are there any places I can take her where she and I can enteract with kids her age?
It is developmentally normal for 2 year olds to play NEAR other kids, but not with them. I think her behavior is nothing to be concerned about.
I wouldn't worry about her being around other kids for her social development. She's not yet at the age for understanding sharing or playing together. I'd be more concerned if she cried the whole time she was there (or a lot of the time).
Hello K., Happy Birthday to your little one. My daughter just celebrated hers on the 10th. It seems like your daughter is smart, nothing to worry about. She takes her time to pick and choose interesting people (friends), that's just her personality. She might also be too advanced and bored to socialize with kids her own age.
If it is a bigger facility type, I would say not to worry, because she will get into it eventually. But if it is a small home daycare, the provider should give her the play alone time, AND be encouraging her to play as a group. good luck.
It is normal for her to play by herself, especially since it has been only a week. When my son started school (daycare), the teachers told me what to expect and this was a big one. It can take weeks for them to adjust and play with others. I think having her there is a great idea because it isn't for very long. A two year old will definately start socializing, she is not too young. If it is torture on either of you, I wouldn't push it though. My son now loves school and can't wait to go everyday. Now in a couple months I will have to worry about the transition into the 3 year old room!
If she isn't crying a lot, she is actually doing REALLY well. Some kids cry for weeks! It will be normal for her to cry at drop off for a long time, but if she stops after you leave, she is fine! Either way, she will be great because she has a mom who worries about her! You can always wait until she is three and try again if you are more comfortable with that.
Hi my name is S. Vanlandingham
I am 29 and I have been a nany for four children full time. One of the children was a boy of the age 18 months and two girls were three years of age. Well I feel that a two year old needs a lot of one on one. They are at the age where younger childern are at no interst to them. They are in there own world. toys and tv and pots and pans that is what a two year old in into. Having her around other small childern at the age she is now doesn't matter to her she will not recall the information but if you have her with a sitter one on one she may grow out of the shyness. why because a small child can't get the one on one at a day care and a two year old shows no devolping skills in a day care. I have noticed that the children that I watched in the past benifeted from one on one care. When a child is older then he or she enjoys playing with the other children so day care is a good Idea.
Again my name is S. Vanlandingham ____@____.com
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my name is S. i am new to the website that's why I'm responding so late to your request. i am 31 and have a 2 1/2 yrs old boy. i hate day care so for 2 yrs i stayed at home with him. but then we were so broke that i had to go back to work. but my son was not doing well at the daycare. he would cry everyday and for the whole day. i was so stress out about it that i would cry too almost everyday. he would not play with the kids or do anything at all. it was heartbroken. I've worked in day care before so i know how it works. i know that the teachers don't have enough time to give him one on one care. i know how miserable he was. Then i lost my job. it's been 3 months now. because of him i don't feel like to have the same experience, I'm so worried about him being miserable in daycare. Worst of all he's not talking yet. he's having speech therapy so I'm going to try to put him part time in home daycare. and do some activities like playgroup to help him socialize and be more comfortable around people that he doesn't know and without having me with him. he is just like your daughter so don't worry your not alone.
I know I am responding to this late. First I wanted to say Happy Birthday to your little girl, my son will be 2 on the 17th as well.
He has been in Daycare since he was 3 months old and he still doesn't play with other kids and he cries in the morning when I drop him off. I like to think he just like spending time with me more than them. I take my son to the park alot and he plays by himself there as well if there are other kids there his age he kinda looks at them like this is his park why are they there. I have been told it is a phase they go through. Keep at it and she will be fine.
I'll bet that she will be just fine - give her some more time to get used to the other kids. The care provider should be encouraging her to be involved with others, but not forceful. I'm sure pretty soon there will be something exciting going on soon and she will want to join in.
