Child Support Court

Tiqua summed it up perfectly, thats exactly how it worked for me also. You don't need to worry about a thing.

really want to wish you the best. I hate to hear that you have been blessed with a bouncing baby boy and this early in his life you have to deal with the dreadful attorney general's office. i am going to pray for you. Honestly, by reading what you wrote, it tells me for whatever reason you and the father are not together and it is just unfortunate for single moms to have to go through this. I hope the attorney general does help you, I like so many other woman have an active child support case and the father and I have been to court, there was never a paternity issue yet, I am still waiting to see my first child support check, it was years ago when I filed. I have looked and asked and sought help from everywhere I could think of but to no avail. I know its extremely unfair to me and my child but because I have a relationship with God, I know he is the reason why I have made it without any financial help from my daughter's father. Please seek to gain financial assistance for your child, but also seek yourself to be fincially fit so that you can make it even if you don't get the money, or if you get it and then it stops one day. Good luck to you.

Don't go to court angry. Go with a positive attitude because it eats them up more inside. Never feel sorry for them or give them any lea way. Remember,,,they didn't think about us when they left us,,did they,,,NO!!! So don't feel like you owe them ANYTHING!!! Get the most you can because I feel like we have to put our ALL into this so they must pay for walking off on us. I really sucked my husband drrry!!! Put it this way,,,it was cheaper to keep her!!! He screwed up in many ways and in the long run,,,we are the winners in this game!!!!!

hopefully he shows up! If not then bring a book, you will have to sit there for a few hours before you can leave. If he shows up it is no big deal. It is just a matter of sitting down with a mediator and going over the child support arangement and his financial situation. You then have to wait and present what you came up with to the judge and they sign off on it. No worries. There are lots of people there and it is pretty boring!

If you are the custodial parent you really do not have to do anything. It is a very laid back court room and nothing to be nervous about. If the father of the child shows up you and he may be called into a room to discuss child support with the attorney generals attorney. If you have insurance on the child, be sure to bring proof of insurance and the amount you are paying. One note of advice...do not agree to less support than the law requires him to pay. The AG will not ask you to but if the father has an attorney, he may try to get you to agree to less. Child support guidelines are in place to protect the custodial parent and the AG's office will go by those guidelines.

I have 3 children and all of them have cases with the AG's office. The ag's office with have your back and will fight for what you want, if the father hasnt been there and you dont really want him there you could always ask for them to put in the order that it is to the desecertion of the mother for the father to see the child. I have that for my middle daughter. It hurts to say that it is against me because I havent been able to see my daughter in 5 years and Im having trouble getting any information from the ag's office about the where abouts of where she is because the father took off and without my knowledge filed and had the papers sent to a store that I never worked at. But the key point is that if you really dont want the father to have contact with the child this would work for you.

I have 2 other children one lives with me and he is doing great and my oldest girl will be moving in with me soon I hope. We will be going back to court with in the next couple of months. My father has my oldest and we have joint custody. The father is able to see her on weekends when he asks for it and is only allowed to see her 12days in the summer.

If you go just for the regular run of the mill child support order you still have most of the control, he may try to fight you for custody but it will be hard for him since you have the child now.

If you have any questions about anything I said please feel free to write me and I will try to answer your questions.

Good luck I have gone may times I waited there for hours. They are rude the place in crowded pls be paticent.Hope you have attorney cause the one I had was no help to me.

I will have to agree with the mom who said, learn how to stand on your own two feet, not only does it keep the bills paid, but you feel great knowing you needn't rely on him. The money will more than likely be very sporatic anyway. My daughter's Bio-Dad would quit his job as soon as the AG located him, everytime, and he only paid $405 a month and wasn't required to carry insurance if his company couldn't provide it because my company did.

I would also make sure that the order states he must have a visitation step-ladder type program. So many visits supervised consecutively before any overnights. This starts over if he misses a visit. It will teach consistency in visitation. Also know that he is allowed visitation even if he doesn't pay. They don't go hand in hand.

I will also say that looking back, I wish I had never filed for support, it was more of a headache than a blessing. My daughter's dad was consistent in making me miserable after I filed, he was just gone before that. Luckily, I met a wonderful man who became my daughter'd dad at age 3. Her Bio-Dad showed up again at age five for a few weeks, then later asked to relinquish his rights because he didn't want me to have the child support, even if it was put in a trust account for her when she turned 18. My husband was the one with all the love in the world and adopted her!

If you don't absolutely need the money, let it go, you'll be better off in the long run. If he isn't on the birth certificate, he has no rights until he proves otherwise. Once you go through the courts, he has all those rights, even being allowed to change the last name to his if it isn't. Be prepared is all I'm saying. If it was a bad relationship and you're glad to be out of it let it go if you can. Good Luck!