Child Standing in Crib

He is learning the first of many times of how to get mom to perform like a circus monkey. I throw binki over and instantly mom shows up to retrive it for me . Let him cry himself to sleep for a nap without binki when he throws it over and he will soon see how it works binki over the side and I dont have it anymore.It sounds mean and is hard to do with first child but if you have more you will see how they can all train YOU if they can.

Stop going in there.. Let him cry for a while, he will realize that it is nap time and that he needs to lay down and take a nap. My daughter would stand up as well after I would leave the room. She would usually jump and play, and once in a while cry but she learned that I will not come back in when it is nap time unless something was wrong. There has been a few times where she had gotten her leg stuck in between the rails and when she cried for that, I knew that there was something wrong so I would go back in. But if I could hear her fuss, I could recognize the cry/fuss that she only wanted me to come and get her.. He will stop crying for you right after you lay him down if you stop going in there. Good luck.

Just ignore him. He'll get over it. Believe me, it's only the beginning of bedtime shenanigans. =)

I think this is pretty common phase - my daughter did the same thing. With my daughter, I put a couple extra blankies in her crib (she didn't really get into binkies) and made sure she was really tired when I put her down. I also worked with her to show her how to get back down once she was standing up (not sure if that might be a problem for your son). Then I would try not to go back in unless she seemed really upset. Then I would go in, lay her down and say it is "night-night time" and walk out again. It is hard to not react (especially when they laugh!) but you will get thru it.

My daughter did this too. I now leave two identical blankies and a handful of pacifiers in her crib. I don't put her in there until I'm pretty sure she's tired enough, and then I just wait it out. She often throws one or two pacifiers and whines a little, but is asleep with her cute little butt in the air within five minutes. If I go back into the room at all, it makes the process soooo much longer. Good luck, this too shall pass :)

Your baby is playing you. They are not dumb. LOL. If your child likes the binkie I'd personally get it once or twice but that's it I'd let my child stand up and cry or whatever until they get bored and fall asleep. I would be firm and not let my child play me like that and it will establish good bedtime habits long term:)

Stay out of his room.

Once you lay him down for his nap do not go back in his room unless you think there is something wrong. He may cry but when you keep going in to get the things he throws, he thinks it's a game and will continue to do it until he gets bored or you take him out of his crib.

It sounds like your son has discovered the "Pick Up Game". All infants/toddlers do this at some point. However, cruel as it may seem, you simply have to quit picking up the Binky. It is his way of getting you to stay in the room. Yes, he will cry for a while, but he will eventually understand that if he throws it he won't get it back. He may just break himself of the Binky habit this way. When my kids were that age they made Binky leashes. One end clipped to the childs shirt and the other to the Binky itself. It sure couldn't go too far when they threw it then. ;-)

don't go in even when you know he through it over, because that's what he wants! they are smarter then we give them credit for!

Don't come in the room and give it back to him - let him cry it out. He will learn pretty quick that if he wants his binki that he shouldn't throw it out of his crib. Currently, you are teaching him that it is okay to play games during naptime instead of taking a nap. I know that it is hard to let your child cry it out but it will be better in the long run. If you can't stand the crying - get a good set of ear plugs.

Your job is to teach him how to make good choices. (yes, 9 month olds can make good choices - don't let him fool you.) In this case, the good choice would be keeping his binki with him instead of throwing it.

M.,

Your baby is smart. He has figured out how to manipulate you. If he was really traumatized, he wouldn't start laughing. And if you have been putting him to bed by himself for 9 months, he knows what to expect and that you will come back after he wakes up.

This too shall pass. Be patient. Eventually he will get bored and give up as long as you don't go back in there.

Good luck,
S.

As hard as this sounds, ignore him unless you think he's hurt. Eventually, he'll realise he's not going to get his binky and he'll stop throwing it over the side. And, eventually he'll get bored of waiting for you and he'll take his nap.

One good way to ignore him is to get involved in a project in which takes your mind off his crying, like cleaning, or doing laundry, or reading a GREAT book or watching a GREAT show in which you just can't tear yourself apart from. It'll be a good discraction from the crying because it's hard to listen to.

You have to ignore him. He has created a little game for mom and him to play. If you stick to your guns I bet it passes in just a few days since he wont want to surrender his binky for a game with no other players. ;) Good luck

Stop going in there and getting his pacifier. Once he realizes you're not coming back to "play", he'll stop doing this. It might take a few times.

Kids are so cute and what a game you have going there. There are clips that you can hook the binki too where he wouldn't be able to throw it over the rail of the crib and it would still be available for him, as long as it isn't to long where it can wrap around his neck.

Next is to not play his game. If he stands up and cries for you, go in calm him without picking him up, and lay him back down in his crib saying "it is time to sleep". Do this with a smile so he knows it is a positive thing. After a bit you could stick your head in the room and say "Lay down, it is time to sleep". He may cry a little but I am one who doesn't believe in letting a child cry themselves to sleep. If you go to sleep upset and crying, you have such a restless sleep and bad dreams. If you go to sleep with pleasant thoughts you will have peaceful dreams and sleep. So if he cries, comfort him, just don't pick him up.

Another thing you can do is have a rocking chair in the room where he can see you and sit in there and read a book while he is laying down for his nap. I always used calming music to play while putting my kids down, it helps them calm their little minds which goes a hundred miles a minute. He will know you are around, but he still has to sleep.

Just a funny side note: when I first read your post, I read that your son was throwing his bikini over the side of the crib and couldn't understand why you were putting your child to bed in a girl's swimsuit! It made me laugh once I understood what was going on...

I agree with the other responses, though. It's going to be a game to him until you stop playing it! Good luck!

Stop going in. Once he realizes you're not going to come back in and pick up his paci he'll either quit throwing it out or he'll learn to go to sleep without it. And let him cry (I know it's hard!). The longer you play to him the longer he'll keep doing it.

My 9 month old does the same thing..
What we have done is lay him down.. and if he stands up, we don't go back in. I know he can get back down to a sitting by himself and if i let him cry for 5 minutes he goes right to sleep. Throwing things is a new game, and you wear out before them. i've tried it!!!

tie his binkie to some linkadoos and attach them to his crib so that way if he throws it he can also get it back when he needs it!

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He obviously thinks it's a game. You could just go into the room look at him and say "Oh you don't want binki" pick it up and walk out of the room, with binki. He will probably get mad that you aren't playing his game but after a few nap sessions he won't throw it anymore.

Also, I read in a magazine that sometimes kids will pull themselves up but they get stuck because they don't know how to sit down again. They suggest that you teach him how to bend his knees during play time.

My son did the same thing, we had to make him one of those fleece blankets with the fringes, and then we tied it to the crib, so he could still easily cover up but he can't throw it over the edge. Worked like a charm! Good luck!

quit getting his binki.

(don't worry, I couldn't do it either. But it'll work).

My daughter did the same thing with her blankie. Oh yeah, it's funny alright. I would just go in there pick it up with no words, lay her back down. By the third time or so they get the point-not to mention they eventually get tired. If not, we just bring her back out for while to sit on our laps. Sometimes I noticed she just wanted to bond for a couple of minutes before she went to sleep even though I was tempted to just put her to bed when I am tired.

As someone else said, this too shall pass. Your son has started a game that he finds really fun...especially since you're playing along. :) You'll just have to stop playing. My oldest son was a paci boy. I don't remember him doing this specifically, but I do remember him losing his paci at night and always having to go in and find it. We put a tub next to his bed that happened to be the right height and put extra pacis on it. He was able to grab a new one when he lost his.

On another note, how long do you plan to let him keep his paci and how attached is he? Maybe now would be a good time to get rid of it. We did it cold turkey at about 10-11mos w/my oldest. Good luck!