Child Psychologist - San Jose,CA

"Honey, who told you that?"

"Daddy."

"Honey, I PROMISE you the police are not going to take me away. And daddy should not be saying things like that. Sometimes when people break up, one parent says bad things about the other. That is not a good thing to do, but when people's feelings are hurt, sometimes they say bad things about other people. So daddy shouldn't be doing that."

"However, the police will NOT take me away. Don't you worry."

Ask your pediatrician for a referral (or recommendation if you don't need an "official" referral). Yes, some ex will certainly play dirty!

Your best bet would be calling human services for your area and asking what sort of support services your daughter could take advantage of.

Good luck!

Why don't you ask the judge during an emergency hearing to determine sole custody-if he will appoint a mental health provider?

You can also call information 211 and ask any question you have. They will tell you locations in your area. Stop the brainwashing. Ask your child who told him that. Maybe they need a visit from the sheriff. But who knows it could have been inocent like he heard people talking at mcdonalds. Only you know your child and what his vocabulary is. Take care and get back to us.

I would add to Page's post, try to confirm his talking about you negatively to your duaghter and then take him back to court. Have his parental privileges revoked or, at the very least, be sure that they are supervised visits only.

You MUST protect your daughter. So sorry that both of you have to deal with this. Saying my prayers. D.

I assume you or your daughter have health insurance? you could call and see if mental health services are covered.

Do you belong to a chuch? Some offer divorce classes for parents and children, and some offer reduced or free counseling. You might explore what programs are in your area.