C.O.
T.:
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You need to hire a lawyer. It's that simple. There is no way to get out of this but by going back to court.
You need to get custody (which should include who is allowed to pick him up from day care and that should be SPELLED OUT ONLY BIOLOGICAL parents), child support, taxes and such nailed down.
It's none of your business WHO he is sexually involved with. It doesn't matter if he's bonking a new W. every night - no longer your business. If he has 10 baby mama's NOT YOUR BUSINESS.
It's none of your business if he bought 10 cars. If he is following the court order of child support - then he's not breaking the law. IF he is not following the child support and custody - then he is breaking the law and it IS your business. Take him back to court. Go to the court and ask for a list of the lawyers that do pro bono work and start calling them. No sob stories, stick to the facts.
1. I need to get child custody redone.
2. I need to ensure that my child's biological father cannot claim him on his taxes.
3. I need to ensure that only my son's biological father and myself are allowed to pick up from daycare. Or settle on an approved list of people....not sure what the courts will do for you in Iowa.
You made a bad decision. Now you are living with the consequences of your poor decision. Now you need to rise above. Stop being the victim and get yourself and your child taken care of.
There are plenty of state and federal programs out there to help you get your education, housing, food, etc. Stop worrying about what he has and start focusing on what YOU and your child need.
Hopefully, you are on birth control and will not get pregnant again without knowing the man and his background first. It will help, or at least go a long way, in preventing this situation from happening again.
GOOD LUCK!