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We had the same issue with my son (5yrs) when my daughter was born in sepember07. Well he is in kindergarten so Since I had a scheduled csection we dropped him off at the daycare in the drop off hours(20$per drop off)a couple of times before because I am a sahm he was never at the daycare before.During my stay at the hospital my husband would go home with him at night and they were with me during the day.When i came back home i hired help for cleaning once a week for a month. and I already had cooked and froze food for 2 weeks and some friends were very nice to send food . My son was in school half day after that he was at home. Even though I had arrangements with the day care that he will be there after school but he wanted to spend time with his new baby sister.So it was tough 4 weeks but we did it together.You will not believe that my MIL lives 5 miles away from me she didnot took a day off or kept my son or even asked her own son(my husband either) for food.She was the same the first time so instead of getting upset and panacked we planned every thing a month before.Before going to have the baby we had diapers,wipes grocery for one month ,cooked food for two weeks etc ready.All we had left was to just take care of kids,my son's school.My husbad really helped me after work. I was able to nap and he will take of kids bath and food. I was lucky to get dinner in bed as breakfast time was for school and his work.So hang in there you will be able to do it.I live in Wheeling If it is close to you let me know I will try my best to help.
Good luck!
N.