Cheating Husbands

Search the cell phone records. You can set up your cell phone records to be viewed online. Install Spector Pro on the computer without his knowledge - you will have to get a friend to put the cost on their credit card. I speak from experience - you can find our a lot via the above methods. AND, MOST IMPORTANT - get into marriage counseling. Even if you find nothing on the phone records or computer recording - seek counseling - it can work. Good Luck - I've been in your shoes.

Get marriage counseling. Whether he is cheating or not. If you don't trust him it's time to work on that issue. If he is NOT trustworthy a counselor can help you work on the future, together or apart.

i would do most of the leg work yourself so you won't waste you money. check cell phone records, emails, work email if he logs on from home, text messages etc. most importantly pray about it. ask god to reveal it to you and he will. but, also ask god to prepare you heart to receive it.

www.cheaters.com Good Luck and I'm very sorry you're having to go through this!

Sweetie, you don't need a private detective. You need a marriage counselor. If a spouse is cheating (either one) it is because they are missing something from their marriage, or they have not taken their vows seriously and lack respect for you. Try taking him to a neutral place and talk. If it doesn't work and you feel he is not being honest, then go to a marriage counselor. If he refuses to go to the counselor, then save your money for a divorce attorney. You deserve better, and you both deserve happiness. Many times a spouse will cheat because they don't have the courage to get out.

I'm so very sorry you are going through this. I know from experience how difficult it is. I don't know of any private detectives, but what I can tell you is to trust your feelings. Most often, if you think he is cheating....then he is. I did not trust my feelings and stayed with a man only to find out later he was having multiple affairs. Trust your gut and go with it. Good luck.

As noted below, I would pray that God reveal to you what you need to see and do. Also, Watermark is an excellent resource and definitely worth a long drive. Hang in there.

Im not trying to be funny but the television show cheaters should be able to do it for free. I went to the website and all you have to do is submit your story to them and it can be featured on the show if they deem it a good one. It seems embarrassing but it's a free option.

oh dear I am so sorry. I dont know of any but I hope everything works out okay for you.

I agree that the tv show would good. They'll only air it if he's cheating. It's filmed in Dallas.

Sorry, I can't help with the finding of a detective service, but you got some good suggestions on how to start looking into it on your own from some of the other moms.

What I can help you with is this: there is more than one way for a marriage to be broken. Our marriage was in pretty bad shape and we've been working on improving it for over a year now.
We've been going to a program called ReEngage at Watermark Church on I-635 between Hillcrest and I-75. It's at 6:30 on Wed nites. It has helped us regain a sense of trust and caring in our marriage.
It would be a long drive for you, but if you and he were willing to do the drive and take the time to do the homework, it might help you reestablish your marriage. You can look it up online by googling Watermark Church and choosing "adult ministries." You don't have to be a member to participate in the program. It's a way to get some help without paying for a counselor. Again, it has helped us - and many other couples - tremendously. It's not a fix-all, but it sure helps you take a step back and look at things and figure out what's not working and how to start the process of fixing it. My husband and I are going through it a second time.

I would stay away from the TV thing if you have any desire to save your marriage. I agree with some of the other moms here - whether or not he's cheating now, you have not developed a sense of trust in him and that's an issue that needs attention from both of you.

Hope you get some relief/make some progress/get some hope!

PS If you just can't make the long drive, then read some books together. His Needs, Her Needs is a good place to start. If he is not willing to read some books together and improve the marriage, that might be an indicator that he's not really interested in a REAL marriage. Currently I'm reading a book called Boundaries by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend. It is helping me to recognize where I'm not effectively drawing the boundaries that protect the inner me. It might help you in some way, too.

God bless you.

Trust your intuition. You know he's capable!

I personally would do some investigating on my own first or have some one that you know do it. I will check out the phone calls that he is making and receiving on his cell phone check the history on the internet and email. I would also check on when he arrives and leaves at work. But I agree you need to work on the trust in the marriage because if he is not cheating you have a problem because he broke that trust in the past and the both of you have not work at building the trust back.