This question is prompted by several other posts and I am curious what others think. Would you want to know if your partner was cheating on you? What do you define as cheating? and finally if you did catch them what would you do?
Edit: sorry I took out the JFF. I didn't mean to. Offend. I just was tryng to say this isn't about me, I'm just curious what others think.
Cheating is an absolute deal breaker for me. Besides the fact that he would be lying (can't stand liars) he would also be endangering my health. STDs are out there and I would not put up with a man cheating on me and possiblly exposing me to an STD.
Anything that breaks our marital vows... whether it's physical, verbal, emotional, online, via text... if it's not with me, it's cheating!!
I would absolutely want to know if my husband was cheating. If I ever catch him (which I trust him 100% and he wouldn't ever), but hypothetically if I did catch him, he'd be the sorriest human being to have ever lived. I don't care if it's via email/phone... that might actually even be worse. I'd be so done! Ugh, I don't even want to think about it...
If I find out he's cheating, it's over, effective the instant I find out. I don't care who she is, if it's the first time or the fiftieth, or what his reasons were.
I define cheating as having sex with another person. I don't expect him to never look at another woman and make wood in response to the visual. I just expect him to keep his zipper shut.
If he wouldn't do it in front of me, then it's cheating. Everyone has their own opinion of what cheating is, in their own, particular relationship.
I'd like to say I'm a big person who would forgive, but I know myself & I highly doubt I could get over cheating in any capacity. I would never be able to trust him or look at him the same. I would question everything he did. That would be no way to live, for me.
I'd have absolutely no idea if my partner was cheating. He travels and oversees the finances. It would be logistically pretty easy. If I caught him, I'd make his life hell on earth. I don't think I could leave him, but he would be "paying" for a long time.
Yes, I would want to know. I define cheating as any physical or emotional action or attraction that happens with someone other than the spouse and replaces or is comparable to or competitor to physical and/or emotional action or attraction that should be had only in the marriage. SO, that means having any form or sex or intimacy, including, but not limited to: intercourse, kissing having personal conversations (sex, marital issues etc) or hugging or even holding hands.
If I caught him cheating I'm not sure what I'd do. I'd stop having sex with him and would want to find out what was happening with him/between us that prompted the affair. I don't think I'd file for a divorce if our children were still minors.
I would want to know. I define cheating as lying to me about what he is doing with another female. I would file for divorce.
All this happened. He picked up girl at bar had a relationship with her, i don't have any proof of physical contact. Girl messaged me on facebook and let me know when he broke things off with her. I filed for divorce.
I would want to know. i would consider an emotional affair MUCH worse than sex. For a purely sexual affair i would most likely try to work things out and put it behind me, Id have to seriously consider letting a man who cheated on me with his heart back into mine.
Well, I'm not sure this question is any fun!
-Yes, I would want to know.
- My husband and I both define cheating as emotional and physical attachment and relationship to another person. We also consider pornography cheating. (I know a lot of ladies on here don't agree with that, but we both feel that way...and that's what we believe, and how we live. To each their own!)
-If I aught him, a divorce would very shortly follow. It's my deal breaker.
Yes. Cheating is defined to me as this, anything that goes on between us that only goes on between us, and him doing it with someone else.
About what I would do, the only type of cheating I MIGHT forgive, is if he kissed another person. If he is in love with someone else...forget it.
That is it.
I read one post awhile back that put it beautifully
If he ever cheats he has 24 hours to pack his @!#$ and get the F out.
How is this JFF? Its really hard to say what life changing decisions would have to be made unless it was unfortunately presented.
No offense taken, I just thought the question would have been more fun than it was. lol
i agree once you're married anything you have to hide or lie about is cheating some form....my ex cheated for 10 years and i found out about it 2 years ago, and we split up obiously.....we;re still friends but it would't be healthy to stay with someone that betrayed you so much
