What's with All the JFF Questions???

Yikes. You must have been really miffed if a few JFF questions prompted you to post about them. Calm down. Have a glass of wine. Or some sex.

They don't bother me at all, IN fact I appreciate that they state in the title that it is a JFF so if i'm not feeling particulary amused by stuff like that today, then i can skip it. but most of the time i get a kick out of reading them.

Sad to say, my main form of socializing and entertainment is this site so if people want to relax and just shoot the breeze in this manner i think it's fine. If i want to play Dear Abby and do some relationship rescue then I look for that, if i think i'm the next Patrick Demspy Greys anatomy side kick then i answer the medical questions. A little something for everyone.

I enjoy a lot of the JFF questions. If I'm not in the mood or too busy, then I just skip them. I could NOT agree more about the, "Could I be pregnant" questions! Geeeeez people, if you've had sex and have a working uterus, then yes, you could be pregnant! Go pee on a stick.

Maybe people want to ask questions for fun. Maybe they don't have drama in their lives, and know what to feed their family for supper and are comfortable with what kind of diapers to use.

I am totally not slamming the people who ask for food ideas...I love to share!

I just mean, maybe some people just want a fun question. I'm not sure I see the problem with that...and I agree with Christina that if you don't like it, why are you wasting your time reading them? And then complaining about it? And then calling someone a smarty pants?

Sounds to me like you are a bit of a downer, and quite a smarty pants, that you are being a bummer, and that you are VERY UNHAPPY if you are going to begrudge other secure mothers their happiness from "JFF" questions.

You are being ridiculous.

No- not really- if it says JFF in the title you don't have to take your time to open it and read it if you don't want. Although- it seems to me if you are this easily annoyed may be a little "fun" would be good :)

you just added your self to the list of women writing JFF in the subject lines.... just thought I'd point that out

Right! I much prefer the 10 zillion "could I be pregnant?" questions. lol

I have to agree with Denise, ha ha.

JFFs are not on my annoying list. Anything that asks "should I call the doctor" (um, yeah!) or "could I be pregnant" (sorry, I don't know, I don't live in your uterus) or has anything to do with someone's "yet another" random rant about their husband's inability to complete basic human tasks is far and away more annoying.

The last makes me think there should be a DisgruntledWife-apedia site.

Added: Earlier this year, I posted a JFF question about "What's your Most Reviled Children's Toy", and got some funny answers. Let me just say that if I hadn't posted this humorously, it would have been a big grump about my husband, which really-- I don't think anyone wants to read that! My JFF was a way of finding humor and support when I was *really* fed up, and no one had to ride my emotional rollercoaster for me to get it. And I didn't have to throw my husband under the bus or hear about what kind of troll he likely is for buying my kid something I'd asked him not to. He made a mistake, and I found a way to make light of it. There's another way to look at it.

Oh, and I don't Facebook or play online games, either. Usually I work my butt off between working and being a mom. (Even my son knows I have two jobs, "taking care of me" and "making school".) Seriously-- relax. Breathe.

Hi M.,
I really don't mind the JFF questions because they are, lets remember, JUST FOR FUN!
On a side note, I really resent the fact that you called out Mrs. Lavallie as being a judgemental christian. Just because she is a "Baptist who love's the Lord" doesn't mean she's not entitled to an opinion. You asked a question about something that is "annoying" you and she responded with an honest answer to your question along with an observation regarding the tone of your comments. You called Christina a "smarty pants" because she also made an obervation that obviously offended you. However, lets acknowledge the fact that you posted a question that may have been offensive to those who post the JFF questions and to those who also choose to respond to them. We shouldn't judge others based on their faith, or choice of response, or question because that really tends to make for a hostile environment and discourages others from answering questions for/to you in the future.

JFF Qs are GREAT! Don't read them if you don't like them.

Seriously...right now you are posting a dumber "question" than me...LOL.
:-P

So when I first read this I couldn't help but think passive aggressive much? No really this is a perfect example of passive aggressive behavior. Insult a mess of people and then cry that you are the victim...I digress.

All afternoon I kept thinking what posts is she talking about. I really never see any just for fun posts. So tonight my computer logged me out so I had to log into the home screen. Right there in front of me were a mess of just for fun posts! Right there in the posts with the most hits section. *dies*

So to answer your question you are seeing so many just for fun posts because apparently everyone but you enjoy them.

Have a great night!

Hmmm, I'm much more annoyed by people who post vents and then get ticked off when not everyone agrees with them. Oh, and resorting to name-calling like we're in 3rd grade, that's my fave.

Sometimes I need advice about something and another times I am just curious about what others think. I actually like "Just for Fun" questions. Many of them made me laugh and some of them let me see the funny side of moms I have seeing for long in here.
I answer lots of serious questions sometimes is fun just to answer silly ones.
I like that people put JFF because maybe some people like you only wants to answer to people in need, that way you can move on to the next.
Funny ting, I actually consider your question a JFF question.

Do you have a case of the mondays on a tuesday?
Seriously they are to lighten the mood, and I think they are funny! It shows that sometimes moms can have other stuff to talk about besides kids, spouses, etc. A lot of the ones today were focusing on the moms as a person.
You choose to go on this site...you choose what you want to look at....I tend to save my annoyance for bigger things. =)

This kinda seems like a JFF question.

Well, it's a good thing you pointed out Christina's answer, because she stole my thunder! Lol! I was going to write pretty much the same thing. So, anyway, are you always this easily annoyed? Haha, couldn't resist.

They don't bother me at all. If they interest me, I may read a few, if not, I just ignore them. Not sure why they would bother you at all, you're not required to read every question. :)

depends on my mood honestly! sometimes I look at them sometimes i ignore them. But odd I don't have any that show in the last 5 or 6 hours. Ppl must just be bored or have had silly conversations that they want more opinions on?.. and as for the zillion could i be pregnant questions - pee on a stick or go to the dr already! LOL

They don't really bother me....some of them I read but mostly I just skip over them. They usually have about 40 responses anyway so I don't feel my input is gonna needed.

I do find it odd though that I see several posts about the same thing on the same day....ie on one day there will be several about fitness and then the next day there will be like five on potty training. Although it doesn't irritate me, I do kinda wish people would take the time to search through and see if there has already been a question asked that is identical to theirs!

LOL, as a poster of some JFF posts, I can see you don't like fun. Don't like it? Don't read it.

Me personally, I LOVE having fun, and I love asking fun questions. Not everything has to be all 'boo-hoo, my kids sick, my couch is dirty, my feet stink'... I like adding a positive note to my day, as well as everyone else's.

So smile sweetheart, don't take it personally. Like I said, if you don't like it, NO ONE is making you read it. Lighten up :)

I think maybe you need a little attention. Sometimes when people(mainly children) feel no one is paying them attention; they become a little jealous and do irrational things. If you don't like the posting don't open them, skip through them, don't look at them. Have a wonderful, wonderful day:-)

What is the problem with JFF questions? Is there something in the cyber-rules that say just because this is a question/answer/advice forum that we can't ask opinions about things that really don't matter one tiny little bit? What is the harm in getting to know the people who you are asking for advice a little better? Lighten up a bit.

Ha ha love the responses so far! I f you don't like then you don't have to read them. Instead go through and hash out if someone could be pregnant. (Duh if you are having sex yeah you can be pregnant nothing is 100%!) Ha ha M. yeah tonight I was not thinking dear son daughter, or hubby. Little monsters.

sorry, what is JFF?

Ok, thanks ladies.

actually I like all questions, the ones that get me are the ones where they should be calling the doctor asap instead of waiting for us moms to answer! ha ha

I don't mind.... My life do not revolve around people who post what. It's just for fun.

I only respond to questions that I'm interested in.

Looks like we are in the minority, M., but I am with you on this one!

I guess we have enough to amuse us in life that we don't need JFF questions :-)

I like them, adds a bit of fun, some posts are so sad that I think it breaks it up...and like everyone has said...if you aren't interested move on!! There are so many posts on here about crockpot cooking...I think people don't have time to search old questions and are looking for a quick answer, well I skip those questions now cause I've looked at so many! The only thing that really is kind of bothersome to me is when the question/topic doesn't really tell you what kind of issue it is...like "I need help"", I'd prefer something else, like, "help with husband", "help with adoption"... most times I just skip the vague ones.

I like a lot of the JFF questions... Like the 'landscaping' one. It made me laugh when I saw it, because I was getting ready to ask the same thing... Not neccesarily JFF, but because I was actually curious about what other women do. They are unimportant things, that are pretty fun to know. Plus, it helps you know that you are not the only one in this world who likes to do things a certain way, or have similar feelings about different situations. Especially when you are on a lot, you kinda get to 'know' some of the mommas. It's interesting to learn little bits about people, and even if you don't really know them for real life, there is a very real sense of companionship among some of the mothers on this site. :) The thing that bothers me the most is when people post 'JFF' questions, or something that seems trivial, and mothers answer with 'If this is the only thing you have to worry about I don't know why you are complaining' (or along those lines.) As if any of us know the full story, or what else could be going on in their life.

I guess I don't see the big deal. If the question clearly states JFF and you aren't feeling fun then don't read the question. Simple solution, I think.

And I am with the others on the 'could I be pregnant' questions...how about you pee on a stick or visit a doctor and find out. I guess I am feeling a little snarky.

Oops! I asked a "Am I Pregnant" question a while back. Guess I'm one of the losers. Sorry ladies, didn't mean to offend anyone, or make anyone mad. You would think after 3 kids, I would know better right? But alas, maybe, just maybe, it's someone just looking for a few kind words, moral support, or could be that they are too ashamed to talk to anyone else in person because they either want the pregnancy so very badly they are scared of the negative, or they are so very petrified that it's going to be positive (in my case.) It's really not our place to judge as to why anyone asks anything is it? But back to the point, there are titles to these questions for a reason, to give you a clue as to what the poster is going to ask. Go figure!!

I just ignore them usually, because they never really seem all that fun.

After reading ALL the responses & the "So What Happened"....

should the original question have been: can we stick to using this as a helpful forum, rather than a venting process for the issues in our lives?

But regardless, whether it's phrased as a question or a vent....I think that we do help each other! Or at least I hope in some little way we do.....

& everybody is right in their own way.....if you don't like the ?, then don't open or respond to it! Peace everyone!

It means "Just For Fun." It's not really my style, but whatever. I usually just ignore them.

I think a lot of people come on here lookin for serious advice so to see silly questions loosens the mood and relaxes ya. I enjoy them.. makes me see the bright part of the past or present day instead of whatever stress I went through that particular day.

Im a little tired of all the questions that are nothing but complaining about other questions.

just being honest

M.,

I'm with you, I do not answer the JUST FOR FUN questions, and prefer questions spell things out instead DH,DD,DS because I am reasonably sure after reading some of the questions, the mama's are feeling that their family members are NOT so DARLING at the moment. As for the JFF questions I sometimes think they are just FISHING and some might not be a mother.

While we mention abbreviations I can not stand SAHM....because it's so much like SHAM....and not mom that stays at home taking care of her family is perpetuating a SHAM. To take it a step further, how many stay at home mothers actually get to stay at home, with all the shopping, driving, sports activities, school activities, etc. that they have to do on a regular basis, not to mention all the actual household chores they do?

There are many better titles for a mother who takes care of her children without a regular paycheck!

Blessings.....

Okay, it's not just me that noticed a spike in the JFF posts. My guess is someone is really bored or taking a break from stupid games on Facebook. THOSE people annoy me with all their requests. Thank GOD you can block all that silliness!

Nope, not me! The 'JFF' is a just a disclaimer people have started putting in because one mom (previous to your post) was reporting questions and complaining. This way, those who don't want to don't have to waste thier time opening them. If the subject isn't interesting to me, I just don't read them. I find I learn alot about people on this site when they respond to JFF questions.

I haven't really noticed that many...but I see it as JFF's exist...To find a little joy and fun with other moms to break the tension or just to find out something that is what some consider beyond the norm. We all need a little JFF in our life; especially with how hectic at times our schedules can be as moms. Heck I have a teenager and a toddler...give me a JFF every now and then; a date night with the husband or just 10 minutes alone to recharge.

JFF = spam and a waste of server space as far as I'm concerned.
I don't bother with them.
JFF does not mean it's the only way to have fun.
But it seems to be the only way people who lack imagination can manage it.

I'm sorry, just having a hard time understanding why you don't just avoid the JFF questions if you don't like them. Sometimes I read them for fun, sometimes I don't. This site consists of many, many different kinds of people. Maybe some of us are sitting here on a rainy day, with the kids napping, husband out of town, and feeling possibly lonely, and just want to reach out to feel "connected" to other Moms. That's the way I look at it, because often times, that's me. (I haven't posted such a question yet, but maybe I will now!)

I like them!!! This question I could do without!!

You need the fun questions to keep you online so you can answer the tragic questions. If you don't like this site M. and the wisdom and humor of Moms this is America and you have the choice to "scroll" down.

I think the thing is that we are all different and it's a public board. So what are you gonna do? I think a question like yours just opens a door for a gripe session and everyone airing their own complaints and of course makes everyone who posts JFF questions feel come down on. When people post up about could they be pregs or don't check up on other posts about their situation, it's just because they want to share and feel acknowledged. The only time I remark about a post is if it is offensive, like racist or something crazy, and I just flag it within the post itself. Other than that it's live and let live. So many differing types of people, so I think you have to let it go and of course as you stated you don't have to read them.

I can only dream of having the kind of life in which I had enough reserves of emotional energy to actually allow something like other people's questions on an ADVICE website to annoy me to this degree.

PS: Not everyone on here is a veteran of the site. If there are reposts, have you considered that mom may be new to the site and still learning about where to access information? What's the big deal?

Wow, people are so intense on here!! Everyone wants to throw their two cents in, but doesn't want to hear anyone else's point of view. I agree with you. I hadn't been on this site in a long time, and came back to find it a lot different. All the JFF questions and just plain trashy questions/issues/drama. Things used to be a lot more civilized here. If it doesn't change, I won't be spending time on here anymore.

Maybe we need to remember that this site is based on the 'wisdom of moms' seeking advice/thoughts/opinions/wisdom from people (moms) that are hopefully more experienced, insightful, educated/knowledgeable, and spiritual then us! It is also 'a forum for the exchange of information and opinion by its users' weather we like it/them or not!

guess M. L has just blacklisted herself this week too along with K2B!!!

I'm okay with the JFF questions. I'm with the other moms that think the "could I be pregnant?' questions are ridiculous.

I am glad you posted what the JFF means. I really do not understand a lot of acronyms. I'm still learning. : )

And yes, I sort of get tired of reading the same kind of posts. Doesn't this site offer a list of "already asked questions," anyway? : )

I have no problem w/ the JFF questions. A month ago I asked one myself regarding gas prices in the city you live in. Sometimes it's a fun break to read the responses of the JFF questions.

But, why are so defensive about the answers you're getting?? You're calling out the mom's that you are offended by and commenting about their answers and commenting about their bios. You asked a question and moms are responding - don't bash a mom just because she leaves an opinion you don't like.

We all have momma dramas in our own lives, we don't need it online too!
;-)

I only really read the questions sent in Mamapedia Daily and the ones along the sidebar that interest me so I haven't seen tons of JFF's. I don't mind JFF's.

I usually skip the JFF for a day when I have read all of the posts that interest me more.