Cant Handle My Two Year Old ( She's So Bad)

I have a two year old that just started to act up really bad. We have always done time outs and the worked but lately they were not. So I moved the place where we usually put her. And then I made her sit for an extra minute a total of 3 minutes now. Last night this worked when I asked her to pick up her play dough and she wouldn't and threw a fit. I put her in the new time out and then asked her to say sorry, but when I told her she needs to put her play dough away she wouldn't so we did the whole process again and it worked the second time.

My daughter is also doing the same thing with her dad. She is always saying no daddy mommy (when she wants me to do something) what we do to help my husband interact with her a little better is when he’s not working he wakes up with her in the morning and I stay ion bed so she doesn't have me as an option. Also I try to have us both together do things to daddy like telling her to go tickle daddy. She still says no to him and wants me but this helps with him not feeling so left out.

Wow.. Sounds rough.. And your life souinds so busy right now too.. Is she getting enough one-on-one time w/you? Does she know the new baby is coming? That could cause some big feelings, even if she doesn't totally understand it yet. 2-year old is a rough age. They want independence, but they want mommy to do everything for them. They tend to outgrow it though. I highly recomend the book Raising Your Spirited Child and The 5 Love Languages of Children. And this site, which is wonderful: http://www.gentlechristianmothers.com/topics/littleexplor...

And ignoring her tantrums won't help... She's looking for love and guidance.. Ignoring her is just going to make her feel worse.

http://www.parentingweb.com/discipline/disc_index.htm

Oh, and a good book: Proactive Parenting: Guiding Your Child from Two to Six by Faculty of Tufts University's Eliot-Pearson Department of Child Development

My 2-1/2 year old is the same way lately; it can get quite frustrating and I really can't take her anywhere because she acts up all the time. But I did find an interesting site on discipling based on there ages on how they develop and grow. Scroll down till you see the chart. http://www.umext.maine.edu/onlinepubs/htmpubs/4140.htm

The best thing to do,ignore the screaming,she's doing it because she wants your attention.My sister kid does it and doesn't stop till you completely ignore her.Also,whisper to her when she is screaming,it makes them have to listen to what you are saying,try and distract your daughter with something else to get her to quit screaming.
Also,laugh about it.We've all had THAT KID,as my husband and I put it.As for potty traing,my mom told me they will train themselves eventually,but what I did was let my daughter run around naked,then once she peed on herself she realized she didn't like it,and doesn't normally have accidents anymore.She's three on Sunday and has pretty much potty trained herself though.I also took her in the bathroom with me everytime I went and it may be a bad idea,but rewarded her with half a miniature candy bar if she did a good job by going pee in the toilet like a big girl.As for climbing on the couch and table,she'll learn when she falls,just keep an eye on her.I let my daughter climb on our couch sometimes,she loves doing it,pretending she's being a cat,she meows to,and I'll meow with her.Just try not to over discipline and more ignoring of the bad behavior.

My son 2 1/2 is the same way, and has anger management problems where he clenches his fists and his body starts shaking. I recently went to see a psychologist to see if and how to get this under control before school starts and he is kicked out. His dr. told me the best way for biting is to try to catch it before it happens, and consistency. They even said to physically hold him down for time outs and cross his arms over his chest so he cant hurt me. Also catch them being good, because at this age they dont understand the difference between good and bad attention, only that they get attention. Even if my son has a good diaper change we lay the praise on and it seems he is being better when we give more good attention to him. Let the little stuff go, for now. if my son throws a fit and throws toys as long as he isnt hurting anyone or himself we ignore it and he stops very quickly.

I know being pregnant its hard cause i was always afraid he would kick me in the stomach but the more power you can get before the baby the better. They say the older children tend to go backwards a little when a baby is born but my son started potty training 3 days after his baby sister came home. Well best of luck and I think consistency is really the best thing, even though at first it may take a week or two of worse behavior it will get better.

Hi N.,
My little one is 17 m/o and she has been hitting in the face, biting, and pinching since she was about 10 m/o. It took a while, but I have finally narrowed it down to when she does that, she is tired. My husband thought I was insane, but everytime she starts that up, I take her to her room and put her to bed and she goes right to sleep.

The other day we spent the entire afternoon out at an event. We were all very tired, but my husband just layed down and put a movie on for her and suddenly I hear him yelling at her to get away only to find that she bit him and pinched the nippy. I took her to her room and put her to bed and she woke up fine. I think she doesn't know when she is tired and just gets in a misserable mood.

Does Alyssa have a sleep schedule? Is this possibly when she is acting up?

Two year olds are difficult - period! But I tell ya what, I watch Nanny 911 and have learned some great tips. Look for back episodes. These Nannies know how to deal with children, especially young children with behavior problems. They are experts.