Cant Get Pregnant

My doctor said stress is the #1 cause of infertility. #2 is lack of rest. You might try that. Also, his advice to everyone is start taking 1 baby aspirin a day. It treats a myriad of fertility issues. Hope you get that baby soon!

When we were trying to get preggers with our first I thought it would never happen and making sweet love turned into a task. I no longer wanted to have sex bc I love man or even bc it feels good..i was on a mission and it wore on my husband. It just wasn't right. One (Jan. 3) night we finally just made love getting back in touch with our ourselves instead of the task at hand. This all might be TMI but we had a REALLY good night. I touched myself as we made love and had the biggest orgasm ever!! I swear the crazy vaginal contractions from the orgasm helped move the sperm along. I have given the advice to many a friend trying to conceive...piddle with yourself!!

I have 2 kids. The first one was a surprise and the second one took 7 months to conceive. I realized why the first one was an accident and the second one was so hard to have. With my first, the only time I had unpretected sex was when I was on my period. And with the second one, I didn't get pregnant till I had sex on my period. I found out that my ovulation happens while I am bleeding. Another clue that told me I ovulate early is that both my kids always measured a week ahead of what they were suppose to be when I was pregnant. Maybe you have the same issue that I do. It's worth a try.

M.,
You sound exhusted and need to get more rest. Try and relax you might be trying to hard. If nothing happens, see the Dr. there might be something medically wrong. In the mean time just enjoy life and don't worry.
C. B

I have gone through fertility issues for years. My fertility Dr. said that the average fertile person takes 9 months to conceive. That's because so many conditions need to be perfect for the embryo to attach. So, you probably will soon, just keep trying. My advise is to have sex every other day until you skip your period. You never know when you will ovulate, unless you take the predictor test. Even then, if you haven't had sex right before you ovulate it is too late. Start on day 9 of your cycle and "get busy" every other day until you are pregnant.

If that doesn't work, I'd ask your Dr. You may have low progesterone or may not be ovulating. If you're in a hurry to get pregnant, go now. You'd be surprised at how much is involved in conceiving. It's not as easy as a six pack and a back seat of a car anymore!

Good Luck!!

I am a first time expectant mother and faced this issue myself. After months went by I was getting discouraged but I talked to a lot of friends about it and got some good advice. Since its hard to gauge when you are ovulating (without using the expensive tests) try having sex on every odd numbered day in the month (1st, 3rd, etc.) and if that doesn't work switch to the even numbered days. It seems like it would be a chore but my husband kept very good track of what day of the month it was! I liked knowing that we were "doing the deed" and I could take a relaxing bath and enjoy it. It took some of the guess work out of sex (does he want to tonight? am I really too tired or just feeling lazy?) and if you are in the right mind set about it, it won't feel like hard work.

There is a great book called "Taking Charge of your Fertility" by Toni Weschler. It tells you how to chart and understand what is goung on throughout your cycle. It is very informative. It might really help you. You will learn how to tell when you are going to ovulate, so you can time your "baby making" accordingly. Apparently, there is only a 20% chance of conception each month, even when the conditions are right. So just keep trying! (there are worse things to do with your time, right?) Good Luck! :)

M., how old are you and your husband? It gets harder to get pregnant when you are over 35 and it increasingly gets harder as you get into your 40's. Men's sperm counts can go down with age too.

Sometimes stress can do it too so why don't you just forget about it and decide if it is meant for you go have another one, you will and if not, you will enjoy and love the 3 you have,.

The only other alternative is to have both of you go in for extensive tests to look for a problem and if found have surgery or whatever to correct it. That will be something you will have to decide - is it worth all that to have another one or not.

Good luck

Marciab

Hi M., have you tried the ovulation predictor kits? I also have 3 children and thought my body ran like clockwork. However, when I started the kit(#2) I realized I ovulated at different times each month.

M., it took me a year and a half to get pregnant with my first. After the first few months of trying it became difficult not to give over to the waves of stress and depression. I realized at my year mark that during sex I was thinking, "I hope this time it works!" instead of giving full attention to the task at hand. I realized I needed to take the intensity of wanting to get pregnant down a few notches and focus on connecting with my husband (in all aspects of our relationship, not just sex.)

If it helps, here's one bit of information I picked up while trying. Only about 50% of women get pregnant in the first 4-6 months of trying. Each month seems like too long, I know. Good luck.