Sorry, but I have to vent about this one. I have been a little sad lately because on my son's 1st birthday, he decided he just wasn't going to nurse anymore. It's been almost 5 days, and he just refuses! I was talking to a friend of mine at work about it who has a 15 month old and one on the way because I knew she would understand. We were in the teacher's lounge on one side of the room kind of talking quietly when I told her about it, and we were talking a little bit still as we walked to the other side of the room to sit at the table. There was one lady eating over there, and no one else was in the room. When we were at the table, you wouldn't even have known what we were talking about unless you were listening really hard when we were across the room. . . anyway (sorry had to set the picture) In the middle of us talking, she just said, "I'm trying to eat" with a horrible look on her face. I looked up at the fox news that was showing thinking something bad was showing, and I asked her what was wrong. She said, "I'm trying to eat, and you're talking about that." I just said, "It's really sad that we're talking about feeding our babies, and it disgusts you so badly while you're eating." That's all I said, but believe me I wanted to say a whole lot more (partially because of the person who was talking). I am still fuming about that one, and it happened 4 hours ago. Am I wrong to be so upset at that comment? I mean, we were being quiet on the other side of this room, which is not a small room, and so many inappropriate things are said in the teacher's lounge that no one has a problem with. This also is coming from the same person who complains about paying so much for "fine dining" when people ruin her meal by bringing their kids. "They shouldn't bring their kids to fine dining when we're paying all that money." I want to say to that "Aren't those people paying the same amount for their meal?"
Okay I'm done. Thanks for "listening"
I would have been too shocked to say anything! I probably would have laughed in her face and started talking louder. You handled it well.
Good Job, on the comments and restraint. It amazes me also in the lack of compassion from someone in the teachers lounge. How about asking her if she would like to hear about your childbirth experience and the cordblood collection during her next meal. (she might consider herself lucky then.)(lol)
seriously though, good job.
K. w
the Nesting Place.
Since this happened in a Teachers Lounge, I am assuming she works with kids....so what is the problem (sorry, kids don't ruin things, people's attitudes do)? She is so lucky it wasn't me....I would have gotten discriptive with my friend (ie: saying nipple, breast, latch, etc....) and loudly so she COULD hear it. You have every right to be upset, for one, what is she doing listening in on your conversation? I'm sorry this happened and hopefully she'll keep her mouth shut in the future.
BTW, people with kids usually pay more because there are more people....lol - That would be funny if someone told her they were ruining their dinner with her looks and comments - sometimes it takes just that to be done for people to get how hurtful some things can be.
Unfortunately, there are some people out there that are so miserable that they feel they have to share their misery with everyone else around them. Sounds like this person is one of them.
And, unfortunately our society has not fully embraced (or at least accepted) breastfeeding yet, either.
I'm sorry to hear what happened. It's obvious that this person has issues, not you. You did nothing wrong. She should mind her own business...sounds like she needs to get a life.
I must congratulate you on your achievement of breastfeeding! WAY TO GO!!! It is a gift that lasts a lifetime!!
As a mother who has breastfed almost 3 yrs between my two children, I can definately say that weaning, either parent or child led, is very emotional. My mother-in-law is against breastfeeding altogether so you can imagine her comments when I nurse my 18 month old! I have learned that some people have a poor image of breastfeeding for many reasons. Culture is the main culprit to all the ignorance. However, some women also resent it because they could not (or were told they could not) breastfeed. This woman is obviously callus, but there is a possibility that there have been cercumstances in her life that have made her that way. What if she is bitter becasue her parents treated her like that when she was a child? Maybe she was in a family that children were "seen and not herd". Whatever her problem is, just keep in mind that it is her ignorance that is the problem.
On the fine dining subject. I personally don't bring my children to fine dining. When I pay for babysitting to have a date with my husband, it is a bit frustrating when others have brought cranky children. It all depnds on what you consider "fine dining" also. This lady may think Texas Land and Cattle is fine dining, which it is NOT. Now if you are talking Del Frisco's downtwon Ft Worth, that is a different story. (I don't even think they have a highchair availible!)
God bless....
And this person works in a SCHOOL?? where there might be CHILDREN??? Wow. Wow.
Kudos to you for talking back. I probably would have been too in shock to say anything, so I say bravo to you. She probably deserved a lot more. She probably took no offense to what was on the news, but heaven forbid someone talk about NURSING their baby. Sick! Perverted!
Just be thankful you're not the old dried up pickle that this woman is. You'll never be as misearable as her I bet.
Sorry to hear about the abrupt weaning. I know it's a sad milestone when it happens abruptly like that. Hugs to you.
Sorry that you had to go thru that, unfortunately there are people so rude and dont know how to mind themselves.. Don't worry about it, let it be. Give me a break she probably was just having a bad day.. I'm sure she will act like nothing tomorrow..
God Bless!!!!
When people are not happy in life they take it out on others. I would not worry about her. She is probably thinking how dum she sounded i am sure.
Ignore that person. She obviously has a huge chip on her shoulder. Hopefully she doesn't take it out on the students! :)
I commend you for holding your tongue because I would have not been so nice about it. She has issues, and don't let her issues become yours. Life is too short! And I think that's funny about the fine dining comment. Next time she brings it up, say if a restaurant has highchairs then children are welcome! My daughter loves Texas de Brazil and you can tell her to stick that in her pipe and smoke it!! :>
Girl, you are not at all wrong to be so upset. It is our job as mothers to completely care for our children 100%, and I just don't get how people cannot understand that. I can completely talk about this girl because I admit that I was a little anti-nursing before I had a child and breastfed my daughter; however, I would have NEVER made a comment like that to anyone. I am so much more sensitive to the way people react to breastfeeding now, and I think that the way they act is absolutely unhuman (especially for women). I totally agree with you on this one!
