So what if she gets you gifts.
Just accept it with grace.... even if you don't like her or she does not like you or even if it is perfunctory.
She is doing a duty. She is getting you gifts/a gift. Fine.
It takes 'effort' to do that.
No matter what you think her attitude is, toward you.
Maybe she is just a cold fish and anti-social, but this is the way she 'extends' herself.... outwardly. For some people, this is ALL you can 'expect.'
So what.
Just let it be.
Don't make a battle of it.
Let it ride.
In the big scheme of things... do you want the holidays, to turn into an awkward negative thing... when there wouldn't be, otherwise????
Let it be.
Maybe this is all, your SIL can muster.
And if she has personal problems, well who knows about that.
She obviously is not a demonstrative person, nor ever will be.
Except for this..... her gift giving.
Which again... TAKES EFFORT, on her part.
No matter how cold... a person may be.
No one has to like everyone. And you don't have to like or love everyone either.
But, unless she is really abusive or toxic to you... then yes, let it be.
Don't make battles, at the Holidays. If you can help it.
Let it be pleasant, for your kids/you/your Hubby. And the family.
Why bring this up, now?
You have had this SIL, for 10... years. Already.
Its her/their money... if she wants to get you a gift, then let her. Don't tell her how to spend her money. It will only be taken the wrong way. And make you... seem like the 'wrong' one.
And... I have a sibling... that never liked my Husband. So what. He is my husband, not hers.
I choose. Not her.
AND... over the years, things are amicable.
Because... my Husband never takes it personally. Because, he knows my sibling is just a tough nut to crack. So what.
He aint' gonna spend his entire life not liking her or trying to get her to like him.
AND besides... she actually told someone that she doesn't like him... because he "took my sister from me..." as in: she is jealous and misses just having her little sister... to herself. She is just that way.
So what.
We live.
We can get along.
Its fine.
Ya can't please everyone nor they, you.