Can Anyone Relate?

I hear you. This summer, I feel like i am exhausted trying to entertain and provide everything for my six year old and four year old daughters. It takes a lot out of a person. With money so tight, it is hard to plan any time for yourself. You might want to try taking a walk. Maybe, when your husband gets home from work, take about 20-30 minutes to yourself to walk or walk with a friend. You may also want to look at the MOMS club. They could put you in touch with other moms in the same situation as you. They also set up play dates and outings to get out and meet other moms in your area all while you have your two sons with you. I was a member but it was a couple years ago. Try to google MOMS club. It stands for moms offering moms support. Good Luck!!

Hi Kelly,

I stayed home with my boys when they were young. They are now 18 and 21. They kept me very busy. I was always happy to put them to bed at night. But I also enjoyed them a lot. Ages 2 and 4 are probally the most challenging ages(besides teen years). This time will go fast. By the time they are 4 and 6 you will be able to relax alot. Until then, include you in the plans. Take a magazine with you to areas that are secured for young kids. Go to a work out center that has child care. And don't forget you are blessed.

I think we all feel that way at times. It is to be expected. I work part time and and my husband travels a lot so there are days that he is out of town that I have not extra hands. Not that I necessarily need them, but a little help always helps. Take a day (maybe a weekend) and go to the spa, go shopping. Do something for YOU!

Oh my Gosh- are you kidding!
Of course you're tired. The mental energy to keep at their level alone is too much. Lighten up on yourself and stand up from the mini play table every now and then and give yourself a break.
First of all, they are going to need to know how to play with each other and alone WITHOUT MOM. It is very important for their development and for existing in the world. (And your sanity.)
Also, a wise pediatrician told me that their need for you is insatiable and you won't ever meet that need. So start setting boundaries for your own sanity, now. You want them to grow up happy and realize that they are not the center of the universe and that others have needs too. Start showing them that. Focus on you and your wants so that you are a better Mom, wife and person, over all.
3rd- you are formerly a professional with losts of brain power that isn't really being used in that way now. It can be frustrating. Give yourself an outlet. (Mom reading time, or take a class, or schedule time for your own personal development)
Lastly, don't let the guilt that hinders our experiences as a Mom and as a person drive you to do anything. You are an amazing person whose dedication is great, but might drive you over the edge:) Too many of us are consumed by guilt and that is not how we were created or how we develop happy kids.

Calgon is waiting for you...
All the best,
B.

We all feel that way at some point! Do your self a favor and plan a girls day, a date night, a day of shopping with yourself, whatever, but get yourself away for a moment. Most jobs are Monday-Friday and you get 2 days off, The job of being a SAHM is 24-7, literally! Good luck!

Oh yes, I can relate! We just moved and I'm home w/my kids for the summer. I really can't get anything productive done throughout the day, even with the best of planning. If we're venting, here goes...It drives me crazy that most people have no appreciation for what we do. It's the most selfless, exhausting, thankless job around. Even my husband who always says I do a great job, I can tell he is slightly bitter that I'm not "going to work" like he is. Why is something not considered "work" so exhausting, both mentally and physically?

On that note, I have learned to give myself "J. Days." If my kids go to camp in the morning, I take the whole morning and just do what I want to do, whether it's browsing a favorite store or going to a bookstore for a magazine and cup of coffee. When they were young (they are now 5 and 8) I'd get a sitter for 4 hours and do the same thing--the rule was no grocery shopping or "have to's," just whatever made me happy. You can do it on a low budget, too. It's a must and I don't do it often enough.

On that note, there is also nothing wrong with going to Blockbuster and having a "movie day." Put them in front of some good kid movies for a day--with no guilt. You'll have some free time and they'll be no worse for the wear. The rule: don't feel guilty and do something for YOU during that time. You're not alone!!

i hear you. .. that guilt thing is something isn't it? same thing here, with same kinda hubby (why are you tired? you were home all day?)
:)
everyone gave you great advice. note to self: time for mom.
nothing wrong with tv. i even sit down with my 4 year olds and watch peter pan for the millionth time.
good luck