ok so i mentioned earlier this week that my daughter is being bullied. i sent a note to her teacher to call me today because it's getting physical (2 girls-one holding her while the other pushes, actually pushed her into gravel earlier this year). i'm going to make sure the principal is aware as well. i also found some stuff online that i think will help that i'm going to go over with my daughter and does not involve fighting but instead being persistant with the faculity at the school until she gets the help at school that she needs.
one girl is in her class the other is not, so i may suggest that the one is removed and placed in another class, etc dont' think it's fair for my daughter to change up her routine for something she's not doing.
My daughter is 7 and the girl who is pushing her has been "bullying' her for 2 years now-same age, but didnt' get physical until this year. last year she even wrote her an apology note and invited her to play outside of school...and of course i fell for it. while we were playing mom and i conversated and told me she was going through a divorce, so i'm wondering if this girl is having anger issues about that. still no excuse, and will be addressed. my co worker told me that part of the problem is that they could have jealousy issues with my daughter because she's pretty, sweet and ahead of the class (straight a's and 4th grade reading level-she's only in 2nd grade)....make perfect sense.
god it makes me want to cry!
btw i am meeting up with an attorney for a different issue, so i'll ask her about the problem
to those that have comented, the reason i'm taking it so seriously IS because of all the suicides i hear...i don't EVER want to be THAT parent...and i reassured my daughter she's done right thing by telling me....waiting for her teacher to call me any minute now. and yes if it keeps up, after i let the principal know, the boe is next...then whatever else i have to do. o and yes i am documenting, started today i have documentation for other reasons' and just adding it to that....so if needed..........
I put this book on a post about bullying and girls, not sure if it was yours. I read an interview with the author of this book. It looks good, I put it on my amazon list to get in a couple years:
Little Girls Can Be Mean: Four Steps to Bully-proof Girls in the Early Grades
by Michelle Anthony
I second the idea of martial arts for girls (karate or other style). My daughter and I have been training in karate since she was 5. It's not all about physical defense, but also the confidence to deal with situations and people.
Good job for dealing with the school on this and good luck!
Get with the school today and let them know if it is not taken care of and stopped you will consider contacting the local media and also the police. Look up in the student handbook to see what the policy is on bullying, at most schools there is a zero-tolerance policy. It is not your problem that one of the other girls may be having family problems. I would also consider enrolling your daughter in a youth self defense class or taekwondo or karate for kids. Our daughter expressed interest in in at age 5 and we enrolled her in a class, she was never bullied but just wanted to do it for fun and exercise. She became a black belt at age 11. She had a very slight build at that age and it did wonders for her self confidence, coordination and taught her lots in the way of personal responsibility, perseverance, and many other things. Most of her friends did not even know then , nor do they know now that she is a black belt. I'm sure doing this would prevent your daughter from being picked on further since she could defend herself. If you do look into this be sure you tell the Master (head teacher) at the martial arts school why you are enrolling her but tell him/her confidentially. THe imartial arts nstructors will often work with children on issues they are having problems with to help overcome them. Good luck but hang tough with school for your daughter. It is your job to proctect her.
talk to the principal.. and if the school doesn't help.. go to the board of ed..
Please take it to what ever level needed. We had a nephew that was bullied in school. We are not close to that side of the family, so I dont know what the parents did or did not do. The 11 year old commited suicide becouse of the bullying. From what he heard on the news the principal was aware of the problem. This was on my husbands side of the family and they live a couple hours from us, but it breaks my heart to know that an 11 year old felt that was the only way out.
