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We allow DD fruit many nights if she does well on her dinner. She'd normally get fruit anyway, but we hold it back til she's gotten enough chicken or whatever. And if she wants candy, she knows full well that she can't have any without healthy food so if she did a poor job on lunch, no candy. We don't force her to eat and if at the end of a meal she's just not hungry then that's fine. We've been doing it this way for a while and are just not angry about food. She can ask to be excused and not have that treat and that's fine. She's 3 and the pediatrician says she eats a nice variety. We had DD sit with us playing before she ate with us and only sat as long as she was able when she was really little. She enjoyed the interaction, as we do dinner as a family event. She was thrilled to pieces when I first set her tray with her OWN cup/plate/silverware.