Hi P.,
I was also so sad when I had to stop nursing my daughter (for medical reasons). It was such a wonderful experience and I really loved it! I decided that if we weren't going to be close by nursing, I would substitute a ritual that felt meaningful to me and felt like a way to continue being close - so I hold her close to me, put my arms around her, and sing her a special little lullaby every night before bed. Now, she is almost three (May) (we stopped nursing when she was 20 months old), and she loves the lullaby, and so do I. It provides a familiar routine if we are travelling and are away from home, and it is a lovely way to snuggle close - often she will lean her head against my shoulder and I just cuddle her in close! It's also a nice way to communicate loving feelings to her, which as a very independent 2 1/2 year old, is a good thing (some days are a little rough and we have lots of testing going on).
Anyway, sorry to babble on about us, but my point was that I created a ritual for us that felt good to me, and my daughter seems to like, too.
Breasfeeding is such a warm,loving emotional relationship, of course it is sad when you and your child are out of synch. It sounds like your daughter is getting what she needs,and if she is still nursing at night, you probably are still producing enough milk for her at night. I also had to give up pumping as I got almost nothing when I pumped.
Keep up the good work, and keep offering. Try not to take it so personally if she isn't nursing well - of course she loves you and will always need you - just she is getting bigger and more independent and may not continue to need you in the same way she did when she was a little baby.
Can you find a local chapter of La Leche League to get some more support for yourself?
Good Luck!
Warmly,
E.