Breaking the News - Overland Park,KS

Updated on November 14, 2006
T.S. asks from Overland Park, KS
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Hi Everyone,

I need some advice on how to break the news to my sister in law that we are pregnant again... they have been trying for two years to have a child - with no luck at all - and even more complications than ever.
I am sensitive to their situation and would like to know if anyone has an idea of how to do this...
should I call her and then tell her not to tell anyone else yet - until we break the news to the whole family?
do I write her a personal note, or do it over Instant Message??
She lives in the Chicago area and I am here in KC, my husband and son plan to visit his family in Chicago over Christmas.
Our original idea was to send out christmas cards announcing that our son was going to be a big brother... (should I put a personal note in there for her??? )

Any thoughts are welcomed.

Thanks

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R.H.

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I have infertility issues and it took 3 1/2 yrs to conceive our son. That can be a touchy subject.

When I went through it, everyone was already having babies. I would suggest giving it a personal touch. Don't do it over instant messenger or email. A personal note would work, however, a call is good (in my opinion). You can just let her know that the family will soon find out but you wanted her know first. Tell her that you know how difficult it's been for her and you wasn't sure how to tell her that you're expecting. That approach may break the ice as she may say somoething like, "oh, that's great. Why were you afraid to tell me." Then you can talk openly as you will better know how to proceed with the rest of the conversation.

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K.M.

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I went through the same thing with my cousin. They had been trying for a long time and had complications. So, when we were pregnant, it was very hard to tell her. But, in my opinion, the best way to handle it is to be honest and do it on the phone or in person. Good luck.

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B.H.

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I would call her. That way the two of you can talk about and you can share your happy news and be supportive of her situation at the same time. I think doing it anyother way would be cold. I would also do it before you annouced it to the rest of the family, again this would show her your concern for her feelings. Hopefully she is a reasonable person and will be excited for you.

Congratulations!
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T.V.

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First of all, congratulations on your pregnancy. I have been in your sister-in-law's situation, but I would imagine it's almost as hard for you to tell her, and you should be excited about your baby. As I said, having been in this situation, I STRONGLY suggest you call her. It was always hard for me to hear this kind of news, but it would have been terrible if someone had just written a note or e-mailed me. Take the time to call and let her know that you are sensitive to her feelings--she'll appreciate the fact that you are aware of her position. Good luck!

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