Dear E.,
It sounds like complete chaos. Why dont you put them in baby beds that they can't climb out of. The 3 1/2 year old may be entitled to sleep in a toddlers bed by now, but that should only be determined by his behavior. When I was a girl, babys had their mattresses lowered so that they couldn't get out. I remember trying to climb out of mine, so I must've been at least 3-years-old before I (or any other kid in those days) got to sleep in a real bed. Back then you went from a baby bed to a regular bed. Also,it could be that wetting themselves wakes them a little more often than it should. Stop the sugar and let them wear themselves out during the day because they sound like they are a little too easily roused for kids who should be tired out from playing all day. I wouldn't even give them a nap until they began to sleep through the night. Cut ou sugar completely, no drinks 2 hours before bed except for the nightly bottle, and if you must give them a nap (I know you probably need one)only let them nap for 1/2 hour a day. I wouldn't listen to anybody else if you decide to put them back in baby beds. Mom's determine each baby's readiness for a toddler bed, which I think are a complete waste of money because they are almost ready for twin beds by the time they sleep in a toddler bed. There may be some other issues at work here, but you can't let yur kids get up and do whatever they like during the night. That's not a healthy habit for any of you. In fact, you might want to take them to the park and let them play and run as much as they can to wear their little butts out. I'm sure you are tired and don't feel like taking them, so get one of your babysitters to work ALL DAY... JUST TAKING THEM OUTSIDE TO PLAY AALLLL DAYYYY. I know you are tired and overworked as a new mother with two toddlers and an 8-year-old, but if you don't get control of them, they could get hurt or hurt one another when they roam at night. Hope I helped a little. From a granmother who wears out her grankids before bed. My prayers to you. ____@____.com