Bowel Training.

My little girl who is now 7 has the same problem they put her on Miralax which works. She passed a poop that was the size of a coke can and hard as a rock when she was 1.She would have a little blood with it. She has always had problems even as a newborn. She was seeing a Dr. Johnson I let her see a different pediatrician in the same clinic and she sent me to Children's Hospital to the Gastroenterology clinic .They did test on her and she has a mild case of Hershsprung's Disease. I didn't do the surgery. As long as she is pooping it is not a problem but if she stops pooping again I will do it. She didn't start to use the potty for #2 till she was almost 4. We also had a problem with her having accidents with her poop she keep saying it comes to fast which is also part of the Hershsprung's Disease. She was almost six before we found out what was going on. I am not saying this is what is going on but it is some info that might help or might not. Hope all gets better.

I would give her a little time. Don't push, but don't give up either. Watch her closely and see if there is a certain time of day when she poops. Does she have any poopen routines? Once you see some cues, you can begin to use them to guide her to the restroom. In the mean time just make it relaxing to be in the bathroom.

My son had many of the same issues. He enjoyed going to his room and watching the hamster and pooping in his diaper. We moved the hamster into the bathroom and watched for a pooping pattern. Then we sat him on the potty and waited. It all worked out.

My son was similar to this when he was small and now my grandson is the same way. I know you want to move on with it and who can blame ya, but I think you may want to consider that you need to go back a step with her. Let her be for now until she gets use to the fact that it's not going to be painful anymore, then begin again. As you know since you've been through it with your sons, children are ready when they're ready, you can't force something like that. After experiencing a lot of pain even adults become very afraid of experiencing it again even when the pain is gone for some time. This alone causes stress which causes pain. Sooner or later she'll have to do it, so just give her the time she needs so the fear can subside.

A fair number of kids train in stages: daytime pee, and/or nighttime pee, and/or poop training. The bodily control can develop at different rates in the three areas (particularly night dryness), and the physical signals are different for pooping. Even without constipation or pain issues, it just takes longer for some children to sort it all out.

I've heard strong recommendations for the book titled "It Hurts When I Poop." It might be a good resource for you and your little girl. But I wouldn't push her, because she's very much in need of having control over her bodily functions, and she may still have some anxiety based on her difficult history. She'll get there – someday, perhaps soon, she'll really want to master this.

As gross as this may sound...it worked for my daughter. She would tinkle in the potty all day long, but would wait til I put a nighttime diaper on to have a bm. I finally resolved to having her empty the diaper in the toilet and explained, that was where that went. She thought it was gross and I told her mommy didn't like cleaning it up either. Three nights of that and she was done with it.