Bloomin Binky

I had the same problem. I started telling my daughter a month before her third birthday that we were going to pack them up on her birthday and send them to my friends baby that was just born. I told her that the baby needed them but that big kids didnt so we put them in an envelope and shipped them off. Good luck!

My daughter was 1 1/2. And we also cut the end of it and gave it to her. She looked at it and said it was broke. That day she would ask for it and we would remind her it was broke. The very next day she saw it sitting on the chair and threw it away herself. Afterwards, here and there she would ask for it and we would just remind her it was broke. She never cried, its like she understood where it went.

Hi A.,
I have a friend whose ped. told her to soak the binky in pickle juice for a couple of hours. Apparantly the binky soaks in the juice and it will taste bad for the child. It worked for her son. He would keep putting it in his mouth and then a couple of minutes later he would take it out and put it on the table. It is worth a try. Good luck
Chris

Hi A.,

I was just reading an "Ask the Advisor" question in Parents mag about this. The advisor said : "He(for you she) may not be quite ready to give them up. Children who are used to falling asleep while sucking on a pacifier sometimes have trouble getting to sleep with out it. Although there's some debate among dentists, many pediatric dentists say it's okay to wait until age 4. Kids whose pacifiers are taken away too soon may start sucking their thumb-A habit that is harder to break and potentially worse for their teeth. Rather then getting rid of the pacifier altogether, you could let him use them only in his crib. This way, he'll have one when it's time to sleep, but he won't be using it throughout the day. If you stick with your plan to go cold turkey, it may take a few weeks for his sleep habits to get back on track."
This is from page 58 of the June issue of Parents. Basically, I wouldn't worry about eliminating it for awhile. My oldest, and I'm ashamed to say this, had his until 5 years. The doctor and dentist were not concerned because it was a comfort thing for him at night and I was getting a divorce. So we let it go a little longer. When he turned 5, I did put a small hole in the thing so it wasn't as enjoyable for him because it went really flat when he sucked. If you really want it gone now, give that a try. She might lose interst in it.

I have heard that if you tell them that there are babies and younger kids that need the binkys. If you tell her to gather all of hers up and put them in a bag hang it from a tree the binky fairy will come and pass them out to all the babies and kids in need and leave her something special for being so generous. I know this sound strange but I guess it works wonders it helps the kid get past their habit, makes them proud to help, and get a cool present that they want anyway. Good luck!

Do what my grnamda did to my dad. Cut of the nipple to it and tell her it's broken and does not work any more. She is old enough to understand.

I got rid of my son's pacifier by cutting the end of the nipple off with a pair of scissors. When he asked for it we gave it to him, but he didn't like it because the nipple collapsed. We let him continue to have it when he went to bed, etc. but within a few days he gave it up because it was "broken." He took his broken paci and threw it in the garbage.

Hi A.,

I have a three and a half year old boy who had a "nuk", then he gave them to the babies that really needed them. His aunt was going to have a baby so we thought it would be a great idea for the baby to have the nuks now, since only babies use them. He gave his aunt the nuk for the baby in her belly and that was it. We had no more nuks in the house...it took about 3 nights or so but we reminded him that his aunts baby will be so happy to have those when she comes here. Sometimes he really didnt care what we said and was still upset but we got through it and it worked!! So eveytime he sees his cousin he says " are you so happy you have my nuk now" It will be hard to hear the crying but you have to do it!! She will get over it faster than you think! Try not to only have it for sleeping-we tryed that and the process was a lot longer. He was also three when we did this.
~N.~

SNIP the top off

they wont be able to "use them" anymore they will throw them away

start with a smaller snip and work your way to the end....and DON'T LET HEM SEE YOU SNIPPING THEM EITHER

My son turned 4 in January. We bought him a new toy that only kids without a binkie can play with. He wanted the toy and he handed over his binkie. The first 2 nights were rough. He asked to change his mind and we just told him no. It took about 2-3 nights with him crying himslef to sleep, but its been about 4 months now. Good-Luck

My daughter was the same way, she eventually just gave it up. We shared a lot with her that it was getting to be time for school, and other things and she wouldn't want to bring her binky to school with her, or "shopping" or other stuff where she would have to particpate in things, like talking, or playing or asking questions. I tried with my daughter to offer other things to her in place of that. once we started potty training or buying new clothes for season changes she started making deals with ME!! LOL Finally one day she decided she wanted some pretty things for her hair and a new pair of shoes, and i told her she could get one or the other.........she said, I will never have a binky again, if i can have both.....i said OK, and the binky was gone!! Usually they give it up on their own........Good Luck!!

T.

A., just an idea my nanny had a similar issue with her daughter. They told her last Easter that the binky fairy came to collect her binky. So this past Easter she was a doll and asked if the binky fairy would be coming again with the Easter Bunny. It seemed to have worked. Best of luck, I will be crossing that bridge myself in a few months.

A litte about me:

I am a working mom my little angle will be turning 1 next week. She is a beautiful little girl. I am currently looking into going back to school to take a load off my husband.

Limit binky to use in their room only. Even during the day, I have heard that this will help break it- although my 2 year old son is a thumb sucker himself.
C.

I went throught he same thing with my daughter. She was obsessed withthem. I tried limiting the times she had them, taking them away cold turkey binkey faries and all. Every method led to huge fits, sleepless nights, and her absolutly miserable.
So one day I cut the tips off all of them and let her have them. She complained that they were broke and threw each one in the trash. Weeks later if she found them she would show it to me and then throw it in the trash because they were broke, and when things are broke you throw them away. There were no tears, no sleepless nights and she was completly happy because SHE made the disission to throw her binkies away.
She still speaks fondly of her binkies and it has been about six months now, but she doesn't ask for them.
Basically what I learned is I could not make the disision for her, she had to decide that she didn't want them any more. (I just helped her make the decision without her knowing it)
D.

Oh, how I remember my son and his binky. Actually, it wasn't just one, it was two, one for each hand. Most of the time he never sucked on them, he just liked them being there. He had his own special place for them and everything. Unfortunately, binky did not leave our life until he was 4. He tried briefly when his sister was born, but we took them away from him and her. She never used it. She sucked on it, realized nothing came out of it and then threw it! My advice for the 3 year old is to not make a big deal about it. If you have multiple binkies, get rid of a few. Then when she gets down to her last one, well, that is all. No more binky...big girl time here we come. That is how we finally rid our son of his.

Just quit giving it to her, throw them all in the trash. She might not be happy about it, but she'll get over it. If you keep letting her have it her teeth are gonna be all jacked up, and Im sure you dont want that. Your the parent, just tell her no more binky. If you throw them out, you wont be able to give it to her.

My son had 3 binkies! At age 3 I said, he is done. I took them all away (I left them in the cupboard, just in case) and said the garbage man took them away.

He cried the first night and asked every so often but forgot about it in a few days - DONE!

It was the best thing I had done.

Good Luck!

Hi,
I wish I had the answer. I have a 3 year old boy who won't give it up. He was off it last year and we were moving and needed babysitters more frequently, he was getting upset so I let the sitter give him one to calm him down. We had just got a new puppy I had told him the puppy ate it and he seemed to accept that. I took it away again this January for about 5 weeks, this time I told him I threw it away because he was a big boy. I don't know if that reason made the difference, but he was so upset he was yelling and screaming so much that his voice sounded strained. I gave it back for now because it comforts him. Right now he is working on potty training and doing pretty good with that, so I am going to wait till summer to try again.

Good luck,
D.

My son is going to be 3 in about a week and he just gave up his binky a few weeks ago. I was like you and very irritated by it. I just decided one day to be all done with them. I told him that the binkys were "all gone" and that he was a big boy and didn't need them anymore. I had thrown them all out. (Don't keep any or you will definitely cave.) We went to all his hiding spots so he could see that they really were gone and i just acted like it was cool b/c he was a big boy now!! I wanted him to see that they were gone so when bed time came he would know already, and i would just be reminding him that they were gone. I was preparing for a few nights of no sleep, but he was great with it. He was aware they were gone and he asked for them a few times, and i just kept saying that they are gone b/c he was a big boy now. I recommend you start on a weekend b/c you're usually busier and more active and have your daughter skip her nap. Basically you want to tire her out so that she won't be able to put up as big of a fight. It's scarey, but you just have to do it. Most of the time it's not as bad as you imagine it will be. Good luck, i hope this helps.

I assume that she has more than one. I would let her know that the binkies are going away, and that she gets to use each one only one more time. Then as she uses each say goodbye and throw them away. They CAN NOT come back after the last one is gone. This worked for my neice. Good Luck!!

My girlfriend also has a three year old who wouldn't give up her pacifier either. She ended up taking her to build-a bear and they actually put it inside the bear that they made before they sewed it up. That way she still "has it with her" just not in her mouth. I also had a girlfriend who tied it to the end of a balloon and let it go in the shy and said it was going to another baby in the world. I personally just snipped it and told him it was broken and that we had to throw it away we went cold turkey it was rough for a few days but he has beem fine ever since. the last one I heard of was leaving on the window sill for the pacifier fairy who was going to come get it and deliver it to another baby. They then replace it with something of interest such as a new balnket, doll or whatever. Good luck I hope some of these ideas helped.