Bitting Issues

Hi Im L. I have a 7 year old boy, Kendall.. When he was about 5 or 4 he went through the whole bitting thing, and he was violent and angry.. I believe it is because of anger and what is going on at home..
He even bite a Teacher... How, I got him through it was alot of talking and just never ever giving up on him.. I tried to help him deal with his anger. I brought him to counseler and I made him go in and apolizge to the teacher... He was older than your daughter, but I think just not giving up on her and really tring to put yourself in her shoes and then go from there...
Kendall is doing much better he has learned to control his anger.. It is all about learining to control the feelings.. A good things was when he felt like that he tolld the teacher and she didn't get mad she just tried to help him trough the angry feelings.
hope that helps alittle bit...

I have dealt with a lot of children biteing. Does your 14 month old have any language? A lot of the time it is a language issue. Normally a 14 month old doesnt have that many words and when an upseting situation comes up sometimes they react by biteing because it is just the first reaction.
Did this happen at daycare? Could the daycare explain exactly what happened? Not that you should blame the care providers totally, but a 14 month old and 9 month old should have been supervised enough where an adult could have jumped in b4 the biteing happened. I know that even in the best child care situation biteing happens, but now that the adults know it is an issue they need to watch closely and redirect your child when they are going to bite. Eventually they will see a pattern with the times that they are biteing and will be able to figure out why and how to prevent it. You wont really make progress by just telling your child not to. The care providers need to be active in figureing out how to deal with the situation. Also, is teething going on? If so plump baby hands can look really comforting to a child.For the record 14 month olds will not make the connection that biting themselves hurts so dont bite others. They will just hurt themselves and feel upset. They wont go back to that memory seconds b4 they bite.Cognative development is not that advanced at 14 months. Good luck.
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My oldest bit at her age too. It was awful. I mentioned it to my pediatrician who suggested speach therapy and almost immediately the biting stopped. He was talking already, and talking quite a bit. But he wasn't making certian sounds correctly & what was happening was he'd be playing with another child and asking for something or telling them something and when they couldn't understand him he'd bite them. We also had a lot of other (negative) things going on at the time & I am sure that also played apart. Although speach therapy isn't councilling therapy- I think the one on one time with a really nice woman speach pathologist worked like therapy for him, kwim?
I would not recommend biting the child or making her bite herself. Kids at this age can not empathize like that- they can't extrapolate that what they feel is what someone else would feel. She'll be frustrated that she hurt herself,or that you hurt her & frustrated over whatever was upsetting her in the first place.
Talk to your pedi & have her speach evaluated.
Good luck
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oohh my 19 month old is biting!!! grrrrr and i never know when he will bite. sometimes he just takes a little nibble on someone just to nibble. he doesn't mean to bite to hurt. so, we are "play biting". [he and i that is]. and he is getting the point without it being a punishment thing for i feel he is only a baby. but he is improving now that we are kinda biting for fun and smelling his little toes. its a crazy time when they start biting. i HATE IT. BUT i swear i have 4 boys and when they started the biting faze it SUX. but i played around with them and smelled their feet and bit their toes and it kinda just helped. sounds crazy huh?? but it worked for me. sometimes they just took a chunk out of someone and i don't understand why but it does happen and it is just a faze. lol crazy babies.
if ya think about it at their age they have gone through sooo much in their short life. birth...holding their little heads up, controling their hands,holding things in their hands,learning to sit up, eat, crawl, walk, talk, cut teeth, climb stairs and everything seems to be NO NO NO that they hear. lol....and i could go on and on. diaper rashes. ouch!! poor little brats. lol lol
but i played the smelling and nibbling of the toes with all my boys and we kinda just sailed thru the biting faze and it seemed to work for us. good luck honey and then its on to the next faze of worries and questions. it never ends.

this is tough because your child is so young.. first you can try a really firm "NO biting, biting hurts".. get in her face and say it when she does it and walk away... she's a bit young for that, but you can try - or you can try having her bite herself - not easy, but it can be done.. when you see her going for someone, take her arm and put it in her mouth and see if she bites herself to discover it does hurt! Timeouts when she does it too.. don't go ballistic, just matter of factly do this stuff... good luck.. and remember, it hopefully is just a stage which they do outgrow..