Hello, I'm sure this has been asked before but I am being lazy and don't want to search. My daughter got invited to a birthday party this saturday for a boy in her class. My daughter does not want to go to the party because its a boy themed party and because none of her close "girl" friends are going. (This boy invited the whole class my daughter says) It is a lego themed party as the invitation had legos on them. I haven't RSVP'd yet (before I get hounded about that, the invitation does not say to do so and we got it the end of last week) but was thinking of getting him a small lego gift with a note saying my daughter is unable to attend. I'm thinking a small $6-$10 lego set. Would you get a small gift for the child even though your child was not attending? I'm debating whether I should take the time to do so, since I'm a working parent and my time is limited during the week and I only have tonight or tomorrow night to do so.
You are very kind to consider this, however a gift should not be expected if you can't attend.
The only time I gave gifts when my daughter was unable to attend a party was if we were close friends or family with the birthday child.
you are not required to give a gift if you are not attending, but you can give a gift if you want.
FYI, make sure you let them know ASAP your daughter will not be attending.
I wouldn't...not if we're not going and it's not a close friend.
If she's not going and he's not a close friend I don't see a need for a gift. If you felt like just as a gesture I'm sure it would be appreciated but I wouldn't go out of your way if you feel likes it too much.
No, I wouldn't. Nice gesture, but definitely not expected.
That's really nice of you, but don't get him a gift! It's not like he's one of your daughter's close friends (or even a friend at all, right?) Just call and say "Thanks, but she's unable to attend." The parents will probably be glad. One less kid to pay for, and one less random gift in the toy box (don't mean to sound like such a pessimist! I better go to bed...)
I don't usually buy a gift if I can't go to the party, unless it's someone that we are very close friends with. In the case you described, I don't think it's necessary. I do think you need to track down the child's info and RSVP though.
No, I do not buy gifts for birthday parties we aren't attending.
You don't need to get a gift. That said - Lego is a gender neutral product. Girls are perfectly capable of building and playing with lego. You might want to encourage your daughter to go. Maybe she would enjoy breaking out of the girl stereotype on occasion.
Unless you are super close with the family, you shouldnt go out and buy a present for a party your daughter won't attend. Its very nice to think of that, but not needed.
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I would just rsvp and say sorry she can't come. don't even get started giving gifts to kids she doesn't like and or want to hang with. its not required.
if my child isn't going to the party and it's not one of her best friends, i would not buy a gift
you don't have to buy a gift. my daughter invited her preschool class to her birthday party. not everyone came, but one little boy that wasn't able to attend did get her a gift. the rest that didn't come did not get her a gift. either way would be acceptable.
