DD is two years old today! Where did the time go and how are we going to spend her special day?
I am taking her to a playgroup she has been involved in and was wondering if it would be OK to bring a small cake. I didn't formally announce her birthday because I want to avoid people feeling obligated to bring presents. Nor did I want the playgroup host to feel like she was hosting a party because she's not.
So would it be OK to bring a small cake and some hats? Keep it simple? Or should I just wait until our small family celebration tonight?
I am sooo new at this I can just see my green!
i should have mentioned these kids have no allergies and there are always sweet treats around during the playgroups. The moms won't feel uncomfortable about not knowing because I made it a point of not mentioning it.
wait until tonight. I would not spring it on the hostess today. you don't know who may or may not have allergies and at 2 the kids would all want it.
I would just bring some cupcakes (less mess, no need for a knife and plates and forks) and who doesn't like party hats? Bring those too - have fun!
I agree with waiting till tonigh.
Enjoy the day and have fun!
I would take some cupcakes and tell everyone it's her birthday. When asked about a party just say you're not doing one this year, maybe next.
That way they get to have "birthday cake" and perhaps sing to her but it's not a birthday party no one got invited to.
I personally wouldn't say anything - as it could make people uncomfortable for not knowing. Has anything been done in the past when a child had a birthday?
If you want to do something - then bring some cupcakes - that's IT. No hats, etc. because the play date host may not want kids on a sugar high running around....I know when I hosted play dates when my kids were that age - the idea of having 4 to 6 kids running around with sticky fingers made me anxious!!
Sure--why not? And maybe some of those little ice cream cups? And noisemakers! LOL
I'd skip it. Two year olds do not understand birthdays at all, even their own, so there's no point in trying to get everyone to wear hats. And you will set a precedent where all the moms feel they have to do a cake on their child's birthday. Just keep it simple at home for a couple more years! It's a special day for you, but not for the others and, for right now, it's not even special to your child! There's plenty of pressure to create celebrations (lavish ones too) as you go on through life - practice now resisting those pressures and keeping the focus on the child.
Everybody is new at everything once!
If it were me, I'd keep the partying at home. When your daughter is three or four, she'll enjoy celebrating with friends more than she will now. Let her enjoy the love of her family for this birthday!
Being new at it is fine! we all have been there, I suggest calling the host and asking if it is okay to bring some cupcakes, and parents need to be aware before serving / food allergies etc. Good luck & Happy Birthday DD.
You are making an inclusive gesture and I think it's very sweet that you want to share this special day like this with your playgroup. Have everyone sing Happy Birthday and then have some cake :) You can do presents tonight with family. And have another cake if you want to, it's your choice!
Now is a great time to start thinking about traditions. For instance, we get a few presents for the birthday kid, and then they get to have whatever they want for dinner. Some years we've flaked on the cake, but they always look forward to "their dinner".
Call the host and say "Today is Suzy's birthday. Do you mind if I bring a cake?"
I would have asked ahead of time and been the host today.
