Birthday - Rock City Falls,NY

Of course you're not wrong! This is about family, friends, and celebrating your wonderful child! I think the one-year birthday is a big deal, for both baby and mom. My son is only 7 1/2, an we've been to at least 10 one-year birthday parties. It's fun, and who says "no" to a party??

Your in-laws are a pain, like many. (Sorry!) They, of course, are allowed to have their (incredibly irritating) opinions. Do your best to ignore their advice/negativity. They won't stop giving it, in any case. So if possible, try to rise above. And if it's just too much, ask your husband to step up and speak with them privately.

No matter what, enjoy your wonderful kid- and congratulations on a year of fun and craziness!

I just had a HUGE 1st b-day party for my daughter. We had id catered and everything. I did the same for my son when he turned 1. Yes, she won't remember, but you only have 1 1st b-day. There were almost 50 people invited to my daughter's party and 70 were invited to my son's. Are they paying for this party. No...then they are invited guests and your husband needs to remind them of that. Don't worry about them. And if she says anything during the event, just smile and say "Thank you for coming. It was so nice of you to share in our daughter's day." Then when she walks away feel free to mumble under your breath anything you like. Pick your favorite words, she's earned them. But don't let her ruin your daughter's day. It's after all all about that baby.

Your inlaws are certainly entitled to their wrong opinion. Go ahead a plan a fun day with your family and friends. If the inlaws show up fine. If not then I guess you'll just have to celebrate without them (their loss not yours).

Continue to treat your inlaws well because it would probably bother you to change your behavior to match their inconsiderate behavior. Besides, you want to teach your daughter to always rise above and be the better person as she grows up.

How you celebrate your daughter's 1st birthday is totally your and your husband's decision. I know it hurts when she is not sharing your joy. Its really sad that she has such a strong opinion when honestly, it does not sound like you are throwing a huge money wasting bash. Along the lines of your mil thinking, then why even baptize/christen a baby? Why give the baby any gifts at all? Accept that she is from a different time and is entitled to her own opinion. Don't let a fuddy duddy ruin a special day.