Binky - Bradenton,FL

I recommend leaving it lay around but put some bitter bite on it so she will let this go by herself, she will not like the taste and just probably hold it in her hand as a comfort.
now you will have to re-apply this everyday so it is fresh and she tastes it each time. after a week or so w/o it you can remove it. also i would keep it in her memory box and write the success story so she'll know later in life what happen. good luck sweetie
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I am a guilty mother of the "puk puk" my son who will be 2 this February LOVES I mean LOVES his.....he would not give it up for his own life but I was worried about his speach and always trying to speak with it in his mouth then he got smart and would do sign language back to me thinking I would not take it away but I knew I had to.....one day when he got out of bed I told him that he needed to put his puk puk down and say good bye to it but he would see it at nap time....he took about 1 REALLY REALLY hard week...screaming at the bottom of the stairs for it...the second week he knew I would NOT give in(Key words NOT GIVING IN), then he was ok with it becusae he knew he would get it at nap time not it's down to bed time and I can't take it away yet becuase without it he wakes up constantly and it drives me NUTS...screaming, pounding the floor, walls....so I still let him have it at night(bad mom LOL) I know every parent has there own parenting tactics but you do what works for YOU!!!!! Good Luck and I wish you all the luck.
J.

All I can say is just do it! Around 8 months we started to put some of them away, and not have them around as much (visible). Its hard but you have to be tough. By 9 months my son was totally off of it and he never wanted it again. My son was always a great sleeper, but I had to go through the motions of letting him comfort himself. It can take a few weeks but you will be glad you did it. I think its really up to the parents to put a stop to it. Just like I had to do with the bottle (that was harder). My son is 20 months now and has a routine, he knows after books its bed time. Good luck with everythig.
E.

Hi R. -

My son is almost 18 months old and also loved his binky! He currently still uses it but only at night when he is falling asleep. Once he is asleep he generally spits it out on his own and doesn't really look for it until the next night when he is falling asleep.

I started slowly taking it away from him during the day when he was just over 1. There were times when he was fussy or sick that I would allow him to have it more than normal. He started taking it out of his mouth and giving it to me on his own after a few weeks. My advice would be to just slowly start fazing it out. I think if you take it away all at once its too much of a shock to them. If it slowly just goes away they seem to adapt.

When my sister in-law took the binki away from her daughter she told her this wonderful story about the binki fairy and that you leave them out side in a basket (all of them) and then in the morning it will be replaced with a big girl/boy toy.
Then when she goes to bed and all the binkis are out in the basket you take them and put in outside in the garbage and put a great new toy or something special she would love there for her to find in the mrning.
Hope it works for you.
-T.

I weaned by 17 month old off the pacifier when he was 12 month olds. I only gave it to him at night for the first week. During the second week, I only gave it to him when he was fussy. By the third week, he eventually forgot about it. He still slept through the night. The only negative part is he is now very loud in public places such as church. Before all I had to do was stick the pacifier in his mouth to quiet him down.

My son was the same way (great sleeper) when he turn one i tried taking the passy away and he did not sleep as well so i just gave it to him durring naps and bed time by the time he was 2 1/2 he trew it away him self! so i think just let it takes its course she will get rid of it on her own when ready or you can she is able to understand that she does not need it anymore cuase she is a big girl!
hope i helped

S. R

My son is now 2 1/2 and we just took his binky away last month. He loved his binky. He was so attached to it that it was becoming a problem. He was constantly asking for it. I would pick him up from preschool and the first thing he would say was "Hi Mommy" immediately followed by "binky, Mommy". Then he would cry & scream the whole way home. He would wake up in the middle of the night crying because it fell out of his mouth and he couldn't find it. We couldn't go anywhere without it. I think it was harder for me to take it away than it was for him to give it up.

It was Christmas time and he loved to look at the snowmen so we decided that the snowman would be part of our plan to take it away. About 3 days before we took it away we told him that Santa was taking the binky to the snowman at the north pole. We told him this for 3 days and then on Christmas morning before he woke up I took it out of his mouth. I felt terrible because it was Christmas, but he barely asked for it that day. He was so preoccupied with gifts and family. It actually ended up being a good day to take it away. I still can't believe how well he has adapted to not having his binky. He still asks for it about once every 3 days.

My son use his binky most for nap and bed after he trun one and was done with it by two. if he had been I would have totally took it at 2yr old. he is now a good 4 yr old boy.

I was the same way about my now 2 year old, I didn't want him to have it passed 2, because that's what most doctors say is the age when binks start to affect the way their teeth grow in. I started to wean him off of it at about 18 months, only letting him have it when he was going to nap or at night, and if it fell out then I would take it away. That worked for him, the less it was around, the more he forgot about it till the point that he didn't remember that he used to want it. By the time he turned two he didn't want it anymore. You have to be patient about it and you still have some time before it becomes a dental issue. Kids latch on to things because we repeatly include those things in their routine, they just get used to it...so try just gradually having it around less. It may be hard to see/hear her cry but she'll still sleep and soon you won't have to worry about always having one on you. Good luck :)

I would keep it in her crib. It will make nap time and night time specail for her and then when she is older you can reason with her that another little girl needs it or the binky fairy is coming to get it.

Ok, this is something that I fought myself with time and time again!! My daughters ped. told me as long as it was gone by 3 she would be fine. So with that said, it was 3 months before her 3rd birthday that the binky was finally tossed. My daughter was different than your case though, she had the binky morning, noon, and night. Anywhere she was the binky was, now she would play ect. without the binky, but if she sat on the couch to watch tv the binky was in her mouth. I thought I would never get rid of the binky. Well what happened with us was we got a new puppy and the puppy chewed the binky, Lacey (my daughter, now 3.5 years old) threw the binky in the trash and told me to go get her a new one from the store, lol. I simply told her they didn't make binkys for big girls anymore and that was that. She did put up a small fuss that night but that was it just a small fuss, and she has never wanted it again.
My bestfriend also just got rid of the binky, her daughter is 2 and she just simply threw the binky away, her daughter cried for it that night but after that smooth sailing.
My advice would be if she is only taking it during sleeping time and you are ok with that then it won't hurt her to have it a little longer. But if you want to get rid of it toss it and put up with the crying for the night. I really don't think it will mess up her sleeping patterns.
I wish you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do!!
J.

My son is almost 22 months old and still has his binkie. he uses it for naps and bedtime only. and during the day he goes alot without it, unless he is upset or sick. I did alot of research on binkie use and dental problems. The American pediatric dental assostion has stated that their previous call that prolong binkie use can cause dental problems, and aligment issues is compeletly false. There has been no evidence that prolong binkie use creates problems with the alignment of their teeth. and that most children give htem up on their own between the ages of 2-4 yrs of age. As long as the binkie use is given up permently before the perment teeth come in (around ages 7-12 yrs of age) there will be no problems to theit teeth or alignement. The AAP also recommends binkie use to pacify your infant in stead of bottles or nighttime nursings at this age, cause both can increase the likely hood of cavities. Due to this research, i have decided to let my son self wean off his binkie. it is his comfort sorce along with his blanket, and i see no reason to tear that away from him.

Now, if you want it gone cause it bothers you, that's cool. here are some tips i've seen other moms use. cold turkey, just throw it away, and be done with it. Cutting the nipple off and letting them suck on the part that's left around the ring. things of that sort. If your only reason for getting rid of it, is because you've been told it could damage yoru child's teeth that is a worry you can now pass into the myth catagorey.

HTH
B.

I took my son of his slowly, and just let him us it at nap time and in the car, then i took away the car and then slowly and convietly forgot to give it to him at bed time. But one years old is a very young age. We didn't do it till he was two and 1/2. but i understand the drive to get rid of them. Good luck.

Hi R. I have a seven month old and I just broke her from the passy last week. It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be.I started by not giving it to her at all during the day. The trick to that is to keep her busy. Once I did that I started not putting her to bed until she was really tired. Because I did that she would fall asleep herself and forget about the passy. It only took me 4 days before I finally got her completely broke from it.
I hope this helps you and good luck. I know not all children are the same but it's really not that hard to do as long as they are still little.

R.,

My daughter was about 18 months when I finally got her off her "mimi"...that was her name for it. She began to bite the tips off them. She had to come off them cold turkey, and she transitioned fine. I tried to gradually get her off them for about 8 months, but it didn't work for me. She cried the first few nights, but she was okay. I know that there is a 6 months difference in the ages, but I explained to her as best as I could why she could no longer have her mimi. I wish I would have done it sooner, as her front teeth are a bit pushed forward (I had the same as a child...braces fixed them). I'm hoping that her adult teeth don't have the same problem. Think about that too...

Let us know what you do, and how it goes. Best wishes!

D.

HI,
My son was 2 when my doctor recommended just taking it away from him cold turkey. I did cause I knew I did not want for him to get any older and still have a pacy in his mouth. It took about two days I would say for him to not be fussing for him pacy.

I wouldnt give it to her in less she was sleeping I dont think thats a big problem My son had his tell he was a little over two but he only had it when he was sleeping, if you would like to try something to see if she will give it up on her own, cut the tip of the binky of so when she sucks on it, it goes flat and she might turn it away.
My sister has had trouble taking my 3 year old neices binky away and it just gets worse when they are older especially if your not consistant with it. If you think its time for her to let go of it then dont give in. My sister just doesnt want to hear her whine.

Hi..I have a 2 year old boy who still wont give his binkie up. he walks around with it all the time and sleeps with it as well. If he is sound asleep and we try to pull his binkie out he wakes up screaming. i wish I knew how to break him of this problem as well. We never wanted him to have a binky from the start but the hospital took him in the nursery for a while and when he came back to us he had a binky in his mouth that a nurse gave him and from that moment it was downhill.

Shawn

I said the same thing about my little one's binky. But then she started daycare at 1 and I didn't want to mess with a security object. I've read a lot about this (ie The Happiest Toddler on the Block) , and watched the discovery channel shows, and most say that it isn't that big of a deal and that most children give it up on their own by 3. I've limited it's use to cuddle down/sleep time and in the car when she's with me and it works well. My advice is to not worry about the binky... the time you share, the patience you give her..it means more than whether or not she has a binky past 1 year.

does she have all her teeth yet? my son is 15months and does not have all his teth and is using the binky for the sucking . I also think it helps to sooth his gums. I took the binky from my oldest when he turned 20 months (his brother was almost here and I didnt want a fight over the passie) and he just helped me throw it away being a big boy. Good luck hope this helps, A.

Hi R.!
My daughter is almost 16 months old, and I just took her pacifier away from her about 2 weeks ago.
You just have to decide when the time is right for both of you to tackle the task together!
Like your daughter, she only had hers for naps and at bedtime. One day, I just decided she was ready, and I didn't give it to her when I put her down for her nap. She looked for it around the crib, and once she realized it wasn't in there, she just laid down and went to sleep. That night, I did the same thing, and she cried very bad for about 5 minutes, and went to sleep. She's never had it since then! I apparently had it very easy with her though, b/c I've heard the horror stories, but I think that if it's the right timing, it will be fine! I have tried once before this time to take it away from her, and she had absolutely no part of it, so that's why I think timing is everything! Anyway, I wish you lots of luck! Hope you have it as easy as I did! Let me know how it goes! Good Luck!

I was having major problems with my son's binky use; well actually it was more along the lines of a binky addiction!! My friend absolutely raved about the cut method, and all of the psychology behind it. She found it on www.bye-bye-binky.com , which is great that it was also free. We went with it and OMGosh... worked so beautifully for my son with NO tantrums, not even one! Thank you God. Five days later he did not want anything to do with his binky. What a relief it was to all of us to finally be done with those darn binkies. Highly recommended! I am also interested in others experiences.... B.

My daughter, who is now 3 took her paci whenever she wanted it until she was about 15 months. Then she only had it when she slept. I talked to the doctor and read pamphlets for the american dental association that said it was okay until the age of 3, which was a little old for me. So right around her second birthday we just took them all away at once. I was pregnant at the time with my second child so we told her she was going to be a big sister and that only babies had pacis. She cried for it for maybe 3 nights and was over it. I think it helped that she was already used to having it only to sleep and not just anytime she wanted it. But I won't lie, it was horrible to have to hear her in there crying and not just give in. But the good thing was it was only a couple of nights and she was over it. Prepare for some cying and stick to your guns! It's for the best, just remember that. Good luck.

I'd say you are in for trouble if you take it from her this early. My daughter was a binky baby. I let her keep it until her 2nd birthday. I told her leading up to her birthday that when "big girls" turn 2, a binky fairy comes for their binkies to give them to new babies that need them. Up until that age I believe that it is a real need for them and comforting themselves. My son is 8 months old and wouldn't take one. Guess who is his comfort! Good luck.

K.

P.S. My daughter's teeth and speach are fine.