I have two questions
We are expecting our third. I am so not ever "in the mood" anymore. I can even pretend. What can I do? I know he is frusterated.
My husband keeps asking why i am not excited about this pregnancy. Its not that I am not its just that I wished he cared more and showed it to me. How can i get him to understand my point of view?
Hi R.,
Hormones! It happens to each and every one of us at some point, talk with your doctor, they usually give you a book that you can pass on to your husband explaining that. It's not you, it is your hormones changing and driving you crazy!:)
Mariana Abadie
www.MyKidsFirst.com
Well, you should probably have sex with him when he asks you to. And you can pretend, just think about how much you care for him and do it to make him happy. You are bound to get into the mood. Then, it will become something you can look forward to, and you will want to more. I recommend Dr. Laura Schlessinger's Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. Sex is really important to men, and we have to accomodate them, happily. Then it's fun for us, too.
The only thing I can say is communicate to him what you are feeling. And with each pregnancy things are sometimes different. Hope you find some common ground, W.
I am sooo in the same boat.Third child husband thinking I am no longer attracted to him.It is really hard to say what to do.Really I think you need to be wooed:) You can let him know you need to have him show his appriciation maybe a back rub or foot massage.The truth is though I dought it would help that much unless he did it all on his own out of the blue without you asking.Thats the one thing that drives me crazy is having to explain how I am exhausted after chasing our 2 girls around with a big belly in my way:)I think its a man thing on not always knowing the right thing to say or do that can get a woman to her happy place.You would think they would after yrs of being together but its almost like they get worse at it.I hate to be the barer of bad news but he might not understand at all.He has never walked in your shoes and he will have to come to the realization on his own that just asking for it doesn't cut it.Personally I Have a hard time getting in the mood when he asks.Gestures are always much better.I don't know if this will even help but I wish you the best and don't feel guilty its natural to feel the way you do:)
