Behavior of 8 Month Old; Rearing His Head Back When Things Don't Go His Way

Updated on June 12, 2009
K.B. asks from Decorah, IA
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I'm not sure what to do in this situation. My almost 8 month old rears his head back, arches his back and screams when things don't go his way. We've been working on rolling over and sitting to stand because he's only interested in walking at this point and would be perfectly fine to do that all day long. I feel the other skills are important as well, so I'm trying to limit our walking to focus on these other skills first. He has now gotten in the habit of reacting this way to any activity that he feels isn't to his liking. I know its a form of communication, but I don't want this reaction to be okay. I'm starting as I mean to go on and I'd like to put a stop to this type of behavior...any ideas?

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Interesting responses and thank you. I have talked with a pediatric PT (one of my colleagues) and have learned the proper way to position him during this skill building. I will add that once he has finished the challenging work, he is completely fine again. He is within normal range for milestones so I'm not worried about it, but felt that maybe there was another way to steer his behavior. To agree with Kristin, I would also like to prolong the walking if at all possible. I'm not ready for that yet either!

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C.K.

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I agree 100% with everything Kristin has said.

I will also add that it's possible that he is in pain when you are rolling him over or doing the sit-to-stand. Unless you've gotten instructions or the "OK" from a healthcare provider, I would not be putting him in any physical positions that get this reaction. My son was 9 months and could not sit unsupported and would cry when we would sit him down. We brought him to a pediatric chiropractor, and his left hip was totally out of whack.

What does your healthcare provider say about his development? You might be worrying for nothing.

I mean no disrespect by what I say next, but it's just my opinion... Outside of it potentially being a pain issue, rearing the head back is a normal phase most babies go through. It's not like they have a lot of options on how to express themselves. I never took it personally or let it bother me when my son did it. Really--"This too shall pass". When he is a teenager, you will look back fondly at this time, when your biggest issue w/him was rearing his head back. ;-)

B.D.

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Try not to worry too much about it. All of my children did the same thing around that age. It's just, like you said, one of the few ways they are able to communicate. I don't know of anything you can do to prevent it or stop it. I think you just have to let the phase run its course. And, obviously, make sure he is aeay from anything that could hurt him when he does it.

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M.J.

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When he does his fit walk away show him it is not ok . Once he calms down go back . You also have to keep in mind a baby works on one learning thing at a time . Like if a baby is learning to roll they will roll every were . If they are learning to scoot they scoot every were . Just like every thing eles they focus on one thing that is how they learn . I work with babys every day at work and each one is at different stages . His fits are his way of showing frustration .

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K.T.

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He will develop every skill in his own time. Is he walking on his own or with you holding him? If you are holding his hands and walking him, don't help him. He will have to learn how to pull up, and walk while holding onto things and eventually get his balance and then walk on his own. My son started walking on his own at 8 months and I WISH I hadn't helped him out so much! Once he started walking, he also started getting bumps and bruises all of the time, and getting into EVERYTHING! It is a gigantic change from what you know before that point. It is crazy how much harder things are when they are mobile. If only I had known...I would have loved to have a baby that sat around for a little while longer. I miss it now.
Even if your son walks first, he will learn to roll over and sit to stand. I personally would not even worry about it.
As far as his behavior goes, it is completely natural because he has no other way to let you know that he is getting frustrated and wants to stop. I would just give in to him for now. He is soooo young, and this is the only time he can do whatever he wants and have someone cater to his every whim. When he starts walking you will be pulling him away from everything, and telling him "No" so much...let him do what he wants right now. He will learn everything in due time

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J.M.

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I'd check with a doctor and a chiropractor re: his alignment and developmental milestones. Other than that, I'd just let him be little. He'll figure it all out in due time. Play is the best learning. As far as the expressions of anger and frustration, I'm in graduate school to become a therapist and a phrase that I've learned that has helped me with my children (2 and 4)and I will undoubtedly use in my professional life is "A misbehaving child is a discouraged child." His expression of anger and frustration is normal and healthy. I'd be concerned if he was always compliment! The best way to put a stop to any misbehavior is to focus on the positive - notice the good. For power struggle issues, the best way to end it is to not get hooked into it. Your power is in your feet. Walk away from power struggles. However, at nine months, I'd listen to his cues - could it be that you are pushing him too hard, disrupting his own unique internal guidance system? I've learned to trust my kids. The seem to know what they need even if I don't understand their responses or requests at the time. My son was diagnosed with a hernia at nine months that probably was causing him some pain but I never noticed until one day he let out a bellow when I had his diaper off for a bath. Definitely a through exam could help ensure he is okay. Best wishes!

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