Bee Nice!

I think you're getting a good start. You could suggest that they see what they could do for each other secretly. One child sneaks in and makes up another's bed, for instance; another sneaks out with the trash even though it's a sibling's job.

Generally brothers and sisters really love one another, and even like each other a good part of the time, but that liking gets buried under a neverending avalanche of petty complaints, fatigue, and negativity. Some families try to make it a practice that, when A says something negative or critical to B, A needs to say six positive things to B... not in a strict, legal sort of way, but as an attempt to build one another up whenever they can. It's an constant effort, but worthwhile, not to let negativity or pettiness RULE us.

I make my girls hug it out. They MUST hug and compliment each other and be super sweet. The point is to say the exact opposite of what they're feeling at the time and make it so outrageous that eventually, they're laughing. If nothing else, they stop misbehaving toward each other so that they can get away from each other.

I read on here that moms make their kids say something nice about each other. I tried that last weekend with grandkids who were talking mean to each other. It took them FOREVER to think of something nice to say about one another!

I made a potty chart for my daughter to help with potty training. She gets a sticker every time she goes to the potty, and 2 stickers if she doesn't wet the bed over night and uses the potty in the morning. It's working-ish. She gets excited about getting the stickers... most of the time. We still have accidents though.

How cute! Great idea.