Bedwetting....Help!

To B.,
Children respond differently when parents are going through a divorce. My daughter started wetting the bed when she couldn't see him. Even though we have havent been together since she was a baby. I started having her wear good nites and its has helped with the accidents. But a couple of weeks ago she spent the weekend at a friends and hasnt had a accident since shes finally ready. Just like potty training they will let you know ok wo dont worry so much.
S.

I have a soon to be 11 year old that had the same problem. you should try limiting her fluids 1 to 2 hours before her bedtime and have her use the restroom just before bed.

DONT WORRY SHE WILL STOP. SOMETIMES IT JUST TAKES A LITTLE BIT. MY daughter wet the bed until she was about 10. So keep you head up by pullups they MAKE THEM FOR BIGGER KIDS TOO... MOST OF ALL DONT BE MAD SHE CANT HELP IT...

Often times, kids start doing odd things when stressful situations arise. Such as your divorce. I think both you and her father need to reassure her how much you two love her. Since you mentioned she does well after seeing her dad, maybe he could call during the week (not saying that he isn't, but just a suggestion) or have a quick 10 minute walk with her. During this time, it's important not to criticize for bedwetting. That introduces MORE stress. Instead, ask for help to clean up/wash bed and move onto something else.
hope this helps!

Hi, It sounds like her bedwetting is stress induced, counseling would be a good idea.

Hi B.. I know you must have seen those commericals on T.V. about the Goodnights right? Those could help you a lot.
Umm...does she see a theripst for this? Sometimes bedwetting and things like that result from tramua....you did say you were going through a divorce. That could be hard on her. Maybe you should think about getting her into some therispt that works with children in your area. Maybe he/she can help.
Well, I hope this help you. Good Luck!! T.

i was told by a doctor when my son wet the bed that a lot of times it takes puberty for them to outgrow it. He's 14 now and he stopped doing it at about age 12 or so. He was totally trained for about six months then went back to wetting the bed again at age 5, and then continued til age 12. we just got him the goodnight underpants and gave up on it ...eventually he told us he didn't need them anymore because they were always dry and i took the pad off his bed (protective pad i had bought to keep the mattress from being wet just in case).

I have had a similar problem. I had to revert to what I did when she was younger and potty training. I got up around midnight and took her to the bathroom myself. I never yelled or got angry at her when she wet the bed I told her it was an accident and just changed the sheets never making it a big deal. Obviously you found a link to her wetting. The best is to just let her know you love her and let her feel wanted and cared for. Respect goes a long way. Let her share her feelings with you. Also I bought a thin pad to place under her should she wet that way it didn't get into the bed. By not making it a big deal it helped alot. I am sure she will be alright like everyone else things take time. Time is something you can easily give her.

Ive had family members who stopped wetting the bed at night as kids when they stop consuming dairy. I guess its been known to cause allergies to all sorts of things,ear infections, and bedwetting. maybe you can try a complete elimination of dairy for a few weeks and see how that goes. mention that to your doctor too. cause it was the doctor who mentioned gettng off of dairy to my brotherinlaw that helped him get rid of both his allergies and his bedwetting.

well theirs nothing we could do i have a 7yr old that does the samething. every nite he wets the bed.i read that their blatter does not develop as their growing up. so theirs not much we could. i got this information on a kaiser book. any questions you could e-mail me. its very hard because i have to wash everything that he wets.

A close relative had the same problem when he was young. His parents used alarm devices which would alert him the second any moisture would hit the bed. It trained him to recognize the need to actually WAKE UP and go in the middle of the night, as opposed to just going in his sleep.

I don't know the exact type of device he used, but here's a link to one website that sells them...You could bargain shop on eBay or other sites, too.

http://www.bedwettingstore.com/Bedwetting_Alarms/malem_be...

Good luck!

Hi
my mom has a similar problem with one of her foster boys. he is 5 now and was potty trained no accidents etc for quite some time. nothing specific has changed in his life but he started wetting his bed several times a week. he would wake up enough at some point in the wetness, to turn around and reposition himself at the other end of bed and go back to sleep.
what they have done is one cut out all sodas, stop his liquid intake after certain time, i believe 6 and he goes to bed at 8. then her husband gets him up around midnite and walks him to the bathroom, he goes potty and then back to bed, hes still half asleep as he walks down the hall to go! part of it can be laziness and tiredness combined, hes tired and sleeps harder and he doesnt want to get out of bed. (they set their thermostats so its colder in winter, heater is lowered and warmer in summer, a/c isnt as blasting at night, so it could also be not liking to get out of bed in cooler temp)
he also wears pullups. i have seen a new type that lets them feel it when they wet, i think thats a better one so they realize it, yet it saves the bed-which she also has a plastic cover on)
these kids are also not around their dad (or mom) much but visits dont seem to affect the potty situaton, just their behavior is bad after visits)
he showers at night and hates that if he wets he has to get a shower in morning too)

Hi B.,

I also would invest into looking for counseling. It couldn't hurt. Sounds like it could be a seperation anxiety issue. You have ruled out a medical problem. If its not a psychological issue yet, it could be. Children can be very cruel. She's getting to the age of sleepovers.

Maybe ask her to drawl you a picture of what is bothering her. Then have her explain the pictire to you. This also may help put things into perspective.

Good Luck!
H. B.