Bedtime Potty Training. - Plano,TX

I have trained 2 boys with the alarm from
www.bedwettingstore.com
I twas recommended by a Dr. my oldest son was seeing. The alarm, along with a reward chart for dry nights, we were dry within a month for the first boy and a week for my second son. I highly recommend this method because it has worked so well for us. Good Luck.
J.

When they sleep that sound, they can't help it. But I had a friend that said if she fed dairy products to her child of an evening they wet the bed, and if she cut off the dairy products at noon they didn't. They were a weird type of alergic to it , but I've heard of this since from others, so you may try that.

A.,

I had 3 siblings that wet the bed until they were teenagers. The way the doctor explained it to my mom was that their bodies were failing to produce an enzyme that is needed to slow your kidneys from producing urine while you are sleeping. This paired with heavy sleepers caused bedwetting. The 3 of them are all grown now, so I don't know if they still have it, but they were given DDAVP, a nose spray, to help them stop wetting the bed. They had to use it for about 6 months to a year. At first, it would work only on the nights they used it. If they forgot, they would wet the bed. After time, they were able to stop using it and never wet the bed again. I don't think they will give it to a child as young as yours. I just want to tell you that some kids wet the bed for a long time. My brother's kids (one of the 3 wetters) still wear pull-ups at ages 4 and 5 to sleep. My baby is almost two, not potty trained, and has a completely dry diaper when she wakes up in the morning if I change her right before she goes to sleep and as soon as she wakes up in the morning. It's nothing that I've done, or he hasn't, it's just the way their systems work. They make night-time underwear for bed-wetters that kids can wear until they are up to 10 years old. If it's too much of a cost, you can contact me and I can probably find you a re-usable solution.

A.
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I have a child who wets the bed. I asked the lady at the health store (Vitamin World) to look it up in her book of supplements. She told me that potassium and B vitamins would help. We started making sure he ate a banana every day and included a B-complex in his daily vitamins. The night wetting actually became LESS frequent. :o)

I hope it helps.

Blessings,

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Hi A.,

My daughter is a very deep sleeper, and at age 4, almost 5 she still wore night time pullups (which is very common by the way), but totally potty trained during the day before 2 yrs. We were planning a week long trip without me to Grandma's house, and I really wanted her potty trained at night before then. I found this really cool alarm online and it worked in just 2 nights. It vibrates and a loud alarm goes off with just the first drop. I attached the sensor to real underwear, then put a pullup over the top. I stay up late, so as soon as the alarm went off, I ran in there, told her everything was OK (she did seem a little shocked that this loud vibrating alarm was going off in her ear, not scared or traumatized in anyway though), then I helped her to the potty to finish, and put her back to bed. On the third night she started waking up all by herself to use the potty, and has not had an accident since then, and it has been 8 years! This worked so well, I highly recommend it. Most kids by 5 will grow out of it, so I don't think this is something that should be used on little toddlers. This is the exact thing I bought 8 years ago from the same store too, expensive, but worth it: http://bedwettingstore.com/Bedwetting_Alarms/malem_ultima...

Talk to your pediatrician about this. Mine is always telling me that there are some kids that just cannot make it through the night because they sleep too soundly. It is also not uncommon for some children to have problems with overnight wetting into elementary school. My neice who just entered first grade just got out of pull ups a couple of months ago. Her mother had the same problem when she was a kid. Best of luck!

Hi A.,I know you don't want to here this but both of my brothers had the same problems one stopped wetting the bed around Junior high and the other is 23 years old and sleeps so sound that he still wets the bed. It is so embarrassing for him but there is nothing he can do.My parents even bought some sort of machine that's supposed to help "wetters" but he never got in the habit of using it.I pray that this dos not last that long for you but it can happen.Just remember not to get mad or punish him for something ha can not control. Afterall it's just pee and it washes even though it's a pain, it's not worth the stress!Be thankful it's not something really serious..=0) Good luck.

Ditto on many of the comments. My son turned 5 in July and wears "nighttime" underwear and daytime underwear. We celebrate when he wakes up dry and try to make a game of it to see how many nights in a row he can do it. If he breaks his streak, we do not moan and groan about it, but just say, "oh well, we'll try again tonight." As the other posters have said, I wouldn't worry about it until he's 7. The nighttime pull-ups go to about 78lbs, I think. My son is only 40lbs so I know there are plenty of kids out there with this same issue. He's gone as many as 4 nights in a row, but then there will be a lapse. Most important is to not embarass or show disapproval in any way--it's not their fault and they didn't do it on purpose. I've done the no liquids before bed, woke him up at 1:00 in the morning--and that actually works, but it's wearing on both of us. Some nights, he is insistent that he wants to wear his big boy underwear to bed, so I put a waterproof pad down, and let him try. Those are the nights that I try to get him up by 1:00 so he won't have an accident, but as you said, if I oversleep, then he's likely to have the accident, although not always. Also, he was potty-drained during the day before he turned 2, so we've been dealing with the nighttime issue for over 3 years. This summer when he went to Grandma's for a week, I sent the nighttime underwear, as well as the pad in case he wanted to try and go the "big boy" route. He knows he can wear the daytime underwear to bed, but he has to sleep on the pad. There were no issues. He's slept over at his cousins' houses as well and as long as he doesn't feel bad about it, he's good. The key is to not make an issue of it.

Hi, As a mom to 3 boys, I can tell you that its VERY common for kids especially boys to not be "night time" potty trained for several years even as old as 8. I would get a plastic cover for the matress and if he does not mind pull ups then let him wear those... Try waking him up in the middle of the night and he will get it when he gets it... if it goes past the age of 7-8 then talk with his Dr.

HTH
A. J

My son wet the bed until he was nine. we continued to use pull-ups as much as possible until then. it's embarrassing for them on sleepovers, but wetting the bed could be worse. Boys take longer than girls for whatever reason. Try not to stress about it and come up for a plan that works for your family.

They do stop eventually... their bodies need to mature and some of it is genetic. Be patient. Pullups are a wonderful thing. :0)

We have the same issue with our 5 year old. He's a very deep sleeper and he still wears pull-ups to bed, which are always wet in the morning. If I wake him to go to the potty he will literally fall off if I'm not holding him...he's that out of it.

I spoke with his pediatrician as well as another pediatrician friend and was told by both not to worry. The doctors don't worry until they are 7 and that it's not really a problem at this age. We have friends whose children were dry at 4 and others in our same situation.

My advice would be to speak with your own pediatrician and see what he/she says. Then go from there.

I'm not thrilled by it but I'm not going to worry yet either.

Good luck!

Why would you want your son to train himself to wake himself up in the middle of the night??? I thought every mother's goal (and dream) was to get their kids to sleep TRHOUGH the night! And now you want him to wake up?? My son is also almost 5, and he is potty trained during the day, but not at night yet. He still wears pull-ups at night. He just isn't ready. We have tried putting him to bed without pullups and we put his little potty in his room and told him to go in his potty right when he wakes up in the morning. It didn't work. He just wasn't/isn't ready. First of all, boys are slower in some things than girls are, potty training included. Second, I heard that the child has to be mentally ready to be potty trained - that it is something in the brain that finally "clicks" and "gets it." Both of our sons are just not ready yet to be potty trained at night. What's the big deal to put a pull-up on your son at night? Many children don't get fully potty trained until they are 6 or 7. Please stop "torturing" your child by robbing him of his very much needed sleep and forcing him to get up in the middle of the night. Nothing good will come out of that. You don't want him to get insomnia by forcing him up in the middle of every night. Then you'll have an awake child with sleeping issues who is still not potty trained. All you need right now is patience with your son. It might take a few more months, or even another year or two. Please go buy pull-ups and worry about something else. Good luck with your second child.

I saw a 20/20-type story about children sleeping so deeply they couldn't even wake up when a loud fire alarm was going off. (FYI) Kids do sleep deeper/different than adults. Also, we used pull ups at night and called them "night time underwear". I've seen night time underwear/pull-ups for boys your age that actually look like boxers. You might google for them.

My daughter wore a Goodnight (older kid version of pullup) until last summer when she was 6.She is now 7 and hasn't had an accident in a year. But she says she still dreams she is awake and on the toilet that's why she used to pee in the bed. She was potty trained by 3 and a half just couldn't wake up to get to the bathroom at night. I quit stressing over it. Whenever she was in panties and would have an accident by the second or thrid night she was in tears as to why couldn't she just stop. I decided goodnights for a while was much better than crushing her self esteem. She outgrew it and is a happy child. She couldn't help it so their was no reason to make her feel like she was failing something she couldn't control. I did speak to her Pediatrician. He, like everyone else, said it is very normal to still have accidents at night. He wasn't worried. He told me about the alarms but didn't reccommend them unless it is a severe problem. I don't think your son is old enough for it to be considered severe yet. Just try relaxing and remember everychild is different. your next one may not have a bit of problem like this. My youngest didn't now she is due to a growth spurt. it just comes and goes. All apart of the Greatest job in the world. Motherhood.

i think sometimes it just takes longer for some kids than others. especially if they are heavy sleepers...i know that i was like this & wet the bed probably till i was 6-7yrs old. i just couldnt wake up, i would even dream about going to the bathroom. maybe he still needs to wear something at night, i dont think there is any shame in that. & now they have things like this for older kids that are not "pull-ups" but prevent mess. & also i hope you are understanding with him & compassionate, i will say that i do not believe in over-disciplining in this bc i truly believe that for most kids the overnight accidents are really not their fault.

Hello!

Ok, here is what our pediatrician said: around age 5 your child will begin his deep REM sleep, and expect accidents-do not punish or reward because your child has no control of it.

So, we just left it alone and kept buying pull-ups. No biggie

So, try not to sweat it. Your child will get there, it is a natural process.

Good luck!
H.

Hi A....I know my grown nieces and nephews let their children sleep in "pull-ups" way past 5 yrs old. It's no big deal!! That way you don't have to worry about it! Good luck!

try not letting him have liquids about 1 1/2 -2 hours before bed and make him go to the potty before bed. im mean he can have a sip or two of something right before bed but not a whole cup....also you may need to set the alarm to wake you up in the night if you are a heavy sleeper and cant wake up...just some ideas hth

I seriously wouldn't worry with it for awhile. Some kids (especially boys) are like that. I have three boys and my second one who is 2 1/2 years younger then my first was sleeping through the night almost a year before my older boy finally did. He was 6 y/o or so... From the research I have done they don't seem to worry about it until after ages 7 or 8.

I would just ignore the whole situation and put him in some of those pull-up type protective undergarments. Changing sheets everyday just puts too much stress on you and he probably feels pressure from just watching you go through that daily.

Good luck and hang in there...

From my personal experiences and my children, he will not be able to wake himself. Try no milk after 5 pm, it digests differently than water. Mine can drink all the water they want and no accidents--give a little milk in the evening and they pee at night.

Could also just be deep sleep patterns. It takes until about age 12 or more to outgrow that.

Hi A.!
I have a six year old and he will be 7 in January. He still has issues with that. I have looked into it and talked with people about it because I was so stressed about it. It is a very common thing and they will grow out of it. It is just like others have said on here. A very deep sleeper. He sleeps right thru the alarm clock that is only about 2 feet from his head. I do not punish him for it because it is not something he can help. When he wakes up in the morning he will say I am sorry I did not know I did that. Not sure if you are using pull ups or the bigger kid ones. The do sell them for the older kids. That way your child will not fill like a baby. There is even a picture of bigger kids on the package. I also read that if they go to a stay overs more then likely they will not wet the bed because mentally they are aware of it will not sleep as hardly. Hope this helps. Don't stress to hard about it I know I did until I looked into it. You might try the same thing to ease your mind. Good luck!

He's obviously just not ready. Put the pullups back on and give it until he gets used to the new baby.

Don't get frustrated, its normal for this to happen. My oldest child had accidents until the 6 age.

To cut down on the mess in the morning, if you have more than one sheet for the bed you can place a clear shower curtain liner in between layers of sheets and not have to worry about taking off everything on the matress. If you don't just wrap it on top of the matress pad as that takes so much energy to wash. Also there are some wonderful mats that you can put over the sheet that collect up to 6 cups of liquid.

There is also underwear that has a wetness alarm to help wake up the child with as little as a drop, however I don't know if it is recommended until 6 years old. Good luck!

You have gotten some good advise to ponder. But there was one piece of the puzzle that hasn't been mentioned. You have been getting your son out of bed to pee --are you sure he was awake? If not, the only thing you did was to teach him to dream about going to the potty. Take a few nights and walk him to the bathroom, as he is standing there ask him questions (what room are you in? etc..), wash his face if he is asleep to wake him. Don't assume because he gets out of bed and does what you say that he is awake: remember someone who sleep walks will not know where they are, you only fit into their dream. A few nights of being awakened with a wet face should stop the cycle of dreaming he's in the bathroom.