Hi J..
I have a 2.5 y/o girl who went thru the same thing at about 18 mos. It honestly seemed as if she NEVER slept. She wasn't sleeping at daycare not going to bed until 1-2 am and haveing to get up in the mornings about 6:30 to get ready to go back to daycare. The only form of a nap she got was in the car on the way home from daycare which was about a 45 minute drive. I was at my wits end and needed sleep myself.
I finally got her in a routine of going to bed at a reasonable hour but it took about 2-3 weeks. Our routine consisted of us getting home from our day about 6:30-7:00. She would sit on the kitchen counter and help me make dinner. I even put ingedients together for her to stir. As a result of this she even started eating better knowing that she had helped make dinner. Her favorite thing to help mix was meatloaf or anything she could use her hands and get gooey. After dinner she would help me clean up the kitchen and we would do a load of laundry or vacuum or whatever the chore was for the day. Then we would play whatever she wanted to play with for about 45 mins or so.
I changed her bath wash to Johnson & Johnson's Lavender and then gave her her nightly "massage" with lavender body lotion. At 2.5 she still loves her massage!! She would then receive her snack if she wanted one then she would get the choice of either cuddling with a book (we had to read 2-3 books) or watch a movie.
Her pediatrician actually told me to start giving her benedryl. This was only used as a last resort.
By about 9-9:30 she was wiped out and ready for bed. At 18 mos. she was in her "big girl" (toddler) bed and the last thing she helped me do was to get her bed ready and find whatever snuggly she wanted for the night.
Your daughter is to the age where she wants to explore and there is no reason why she cannot learn to help her mommy with housework. Yes, it takes about 10 times as long to get anything done but you get to spend time with her teaching her things and she may also get tired for all of the constant moving.
I will admit however, that teaching her to help w/ chores can be a cross with good & bad. My daughter now picks up her own toys and puts them away...that is good. But on Saturdays, she now wakes me up and says, "Come on Mommy, We have stuff to do!!". I now need to teach her about a day off!!
Hope this helps and gives you an idea or two. Just remember she is learning to make decisions so give her choices and guide her from there. This is a phase and there is a light at the end of the tunnel!!
Good luck, T.