Barely Pregnant, Feeling Impatient

The best advise I can give you, is to learn to meditate. You might also try yoga. There are classes for pregnancy. Both will help you focus and savor the moment. Enjoy!

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Congratulations on your pregnancy!! Very exciting! I was also pretty anxious around that time of my pregnancy. I just decided to relax and enjoy being pregnant! It seems like yesterday that my husband and I found out we were going to have our first and now its already two weeks before my daughters 1st bday! Enjoy every minute of your pregnancy and have fun! Being a photographer myself, I'd recommend that you designate a location and take a picture everyday or once a week of yourself to see your changes. Once complete to can turn the photographs into a mini video clip of your growth. I would also take photos of your husband to follow his progress as well. It can be very fun! Congrats and good luck!

Hi D.,first of all congradlations. Hey don't be anxious, being pregnant is awesome and goes through it's stages, enjot your pregnancy, there's so many things you can do, you can start planing the decor for the baby's room, I made all the curtains, I made wall hangings, I put the nursery together a little at a time, each payday I would ad something different, researched names to find out what they meant, cause I wanted my kids to have strong names, it may seem like it takes a long time for the baby to get here, but remember which each day he/she is growing and getting stronger, and also remember what ever emotions you are feeling, si is your baby. keep me posted on things if that is OK. J.

It's hard not to feel impatient when you're expecting a baby, but you have so much to look forward to from now until the baby comes. Your first ultrasound, the first time you'll hear the baby's heartbeat, getting to find out the sex (if you want to), feeling the baby move for the first time, baby showers, etc. Just enjoy this time. It's a long nine months, but you have to remember that it's a very important time for your baby to grow and for you to take good care of yourself and to get some rest before the baby comes. Just relax, and he or she will be here before you know it! Congratulations! :)

Just try to relax mama! That kind of anxiety and stress is not good for you or your new pregnancy. I loved being pregnant it is such an important feeling. Try to focus on what a wonderful and amazing thing you are doing. Try reading alot of info about the pregancy and the amazing things going on right now. I love the book Your Pregnancy Week by Week it was very cool to see what was going on already, even this early on. Congratulations!

D.,

Since you are a photographer, what about taking a picture of yourself everyday. Try doing the same pose somewhere at your home. That way you can watch the progression of your body.

Try writing a journal. I found it really helps you go back and remember feelings and moments that you might forget. Take it with you to Dr. appoints to record your weight and measurements. Also use it to remind yourself of questions you have for the doctor.

Educate yourself. Try reading books like What to expect when your expecting. This will help you to appreciate little things you feel along the way. Take moments to just sit quietly and read. Even if you don't enjoy reading, it will prepare you for getting to read to your child later.

Listen to music. At night, before you go to sleep...play music. Be eclectic. Try playing your favorite stuff but also classical or other types you may not love. It will give you time to just lie there and appreciate your changing body and also to relax and enjoy the music.

Congrats...You are on the most amazing journey.
T.

D.,
First off, there will be somethings you won't want to savor, such as; morning sickness, swelling, tiredness, etc. But, the good news, there are fabulous things too. Your sex life will be very good. No concern of possibly getting pregnant. You get to buy new clothes, read new books, take pictures of yourself through the different stages, and enjoy your husband as much as possible. Journal everything that you would like to remember. Make a scrapbook/photo album/ or photo wall,whatever ideas you come up with since this is your expertise. Continue exercising, take walks, and slow your workload down a bit as your pregnancy goes further along. Relax, rest, and do things for yourself. Later on, the "me time" is harder to get. I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy and a beautiful child at the end.

E.:)

You know what - once this baby comes, life will change FOREVER. Enjoy your pregnancy, but if I were to do it all over, I wouldn't be so baby centered . . . I would spend a lot more time doing the things that I can't do now as a mom of 2 little ones,( a 1 yr old and a 4 yr old.) I don't leave my children frequently and then only for short periods of time so the things I am looking forward to doing as they grow and become more independent are: a cup of coffee and the paper, uninterrupted, lots more sex when they start to sleep through the night - LOL, window shopping, lunch and a movie, cleaning house and organizing without help, a nice log bubble bath - without company, long chats on the phone. Spend as much time with your husband as possible - because pretty soon your marriage will be tested and strained.
Reduce the mental, emotional and physical clutter in your life because once the child is on the scene there is no more time for it, no time for selfishness, or self indulgence. Motherhood means you no longer live for yourself - as you are beginning to find out now. And though I miss my indulgences and treats - I am so in love with my babies that I can endure and hold on until they are a little bit older and we can do some of those things together. (But not the sex!)LOL!!
Good luck!

Luckily the hormones during pregnancy help with that. I too was a type A/anxious type. In my past I have had OCD tendancies and even anxiety attacks. Once I got pregnant, it just went away! I would feel so relaxed, I would just sit in a chair and "zone out" with a happy feeling. It felt good! Also, I used to pick the skin off my fingers really bad, you can't imagine how bad. Suddenly about a month into being pregnant I stopped. I am 29 and have picked at my fingers since I was about 9. I hope you get the same effect.

babies feed off of what ever is going around (even in utero). Remember this...do you want your son or daughter to be overly obsessive and anxious? Start now by creating a calm and relaxing enviroment. Have patience. you will need it when your kids dump a jug of oil all over the clean laundry! Use this time when you are pregnant to learn how to change your ways a bit. Obsessive and anxious parents have obsessive and anxious kids. These 2 quolities do not work well with infants or toddlers. Come to think of it not well in children or teens either. Learn how to relax, and do it. It will be the best thing for you and your new baby. Congrats!

I joined discussions groups on i-village. They let me obsess about every little twitch and feeling without driving those around me nuts.
It is a good place to savor, learn and enjoy your pregnancy and not feel like a nut most ladies are on there before their period is even missed as they are using early PG tests.
Good luck,
T.

CONGRATS!!!!!! What an exciting time! I know how you feel, and how easy it is to fixate on this amazing experience and feel like it will be forever until you meet your little one. I had the same challenge with my first baby. Here are a few of the things I did:
1. I loved going to the pregnancy week-by-week websites. There are tons and I don't remember all of them, but I know I used the verybestbaby.com website. They are great for telling you all about what is happening right NOW with your baby, and helped me concentrate on savoring where I was in the pregnancy. I didn't let myself read ahead, so it was kind of a reward as I changed weeks to go to these websites.
2. I read pregnancy books. My favorite fun one is The Girlfriends' Guide to Pregnancy. Very funny, and made me feel like I wasn't losing my mind. I also enjoyed reading a more detailed week-by-week book, but I don't remember which one it was.
3. Try to go for daily walks or get some form of exercise. It can really help you clear your head.

Congrats, again, and good luck to you!

Hi D...CONGRATS!! I am very happy for you, pregnancy was the best time of my life. I enjoyed every second of it. Amy M had some real good advice that worked for me also. I did the week by week website I used americanpregnancyassociation.com. I also read a book called Im Pregnant! its very descriptive, shows lots of pictures and is a really good book overall. Also, What To Expect When Your Expecting was awesome. They just recently came out with an updated version so go get it!! Also, I found myself going by the docs appts. There is gonna be one every month until you reach about 34 weeks or so. Then every two weeks then every week. That will be kind of like a "countdown" so to say.
And how exciting that you're a photographer!! Take advantage!! Also with the week by week it will show things that you can do to make the time go by, what exercises are good, etc. Good luck on your journey!!

I understand your excitement!! I am so happy for you two!!
You might want to try keeping a journal. Make it fun, something you can share with your child when they get older.
Go and get the book what to expect when you're expecting. Force yourself not to read the whole thing at once and read only what you should each month. Make a list of the things you need to do to prepare for your baby and figure out what you need to do first. Check them off as you go. Make a count down calender to your due date.
Believe me when he or she gets here your whole world will change.
Congratulations!!!
Take care and God bless all of you!!!
B.

I bought a book and read on everything during that month and sat back and tried to visualize this little mircle growing. Try writing a journal to your baby on how you felt that day and what you did and how much you love him or her and all the beautiful things that little person will see. It will make you stop and think about the moment you are in and slow you down and concentrate on something else. It will also give you something to look back on too and relive that moment. I still write down things that happen on a certain day so I can remember it and tell her the little things that made me happy to be her mommy. I hope this helps. Congrats!! and let me know how it go's. I soo excited for you both!!
M.

The previous ladies have left wonderful advice so far. With my second pregnancy I rented a dopler so I could hear the baby's heartbeat anytime I wanted. Your still too early to hear the heartbeat, but in a few weeks...
Congratulations!
N.

Just relax. As silly as that probably sounds - it is much easier to have a baby in the womb than out. and they also pick up on all of your stress - or non-stress - so - get a massage - relax - do whatever you want (healthy of course) and enjoy it... your clock is ticking. but enjoy those minutes where you just don't know what to do.

I know that I am late in responding, and I did not even read anything else here :). I have had three children and been pregnant seven times ( fertility problems ). What was said to me that had the best impact is this...." This is the only time in your entire life that you GET to be part of one of God's miracles" Enjoy it, you are assisting in the most amazing thing a human can be a part of! Enjoy it, in the long run of things this is such a short time, and keep thinking that as your new blessing grows and changes in all the years to follow. It is a wonderous time that goes by way too fast, so enjoy eacha nd every step of becoming and being a parent! You ARE part of a miracle! God Bless you and your family!

I was the same...we got the go ahead to try for a baby (I am a type 1 diabetic so we needed that), I went off the pill thinking it would be at least 6 months and I was prego in 2 weeks. I thought wow that's perfect; this is totally going to be a breeze. Pregnancy was a breeze once I figured out that saltines were best for breakfast and midnight snacks then after dealing with some pre-eclampsia towards the end and being induced 2 weeks early...everything I thought I knew about babies somehow escaped me. Honestly I loved being pregnant and I would be 7 months pregnant every day of my life if it was possible without having a million kids. When I was 7 months pregnant I couldn't wait to meet our baby so I don't think I enjoyed it enough with all that anticipation....so enjoy every day of your pregnancy even if it's too early to feel them move. Once you start feeling the baby move really enjoy and live in those moments; it's the most amazing feeling in your life even when it wakes you up out of a dead sleep and you can't get back to sleep. Being a parent is totally different than what you expect and everything I thought I knew didn't ever seem to apply. Try to keep your obsessive and anxious tendencies controlled because babies aren't predictable but very unique. I’m kind of a perfectionist so take my advice with a grain of salt unless you are also a perfectionist…if you are totally deal with the perfectionist thing right away. Congratulations and enjoy every minute of it; it is truly a miracle. It’s a good time to start writing in a journal to have a good keepsake and to look back on and reminisce.