my sons babysitter is getting up there in age around 64 65. and they are starting to have medical problems her husbands in hosp. right now and shes starting to call off on me. and isnt very well on getting around cant get down on the fl. to play with the kids...dont go outside...ect. my half sister is a stay at home mom/babysitter and has offered to watch my 15month old already. however she lives a 1/2hr away from my house and my job. how many of you would drive a 1/2hr both ways to drop/pick up or child before and after work? instead of getting home at 430 it will be 5 which is a BIG difference with dinner making and everything. need some advice from other moms.
and my second qs is. i know its personal but i never had a O through sex it always has to be done the other way by my man and hes getting very frustrated after 5 yrs. i keep telling him i cant help it? but he thinks something tramatic has happened in my life and it never has....i just think its something medical. anyone else like this???
thanks for ur advice!!
A.,
Do you practice the big o? My suggestion is to get yourself a good toy and practice, practice, practice.
Hope this helps!
Im a sahm so I can't answer number 1. As far as #2 get a bullet vibrator. This is a small finger sized one that you can use on your clitoris while having intercourse. Someone gave me this as a wedding gift/joke but I love it. In fact it broke last week after 5 years and I have to go replace it.
To answer question 1-I have a long commute to and from work every day AND I drive 25 minutes out of the way for good child care. It would be worth it to me to have someone that can truly play with my child and take them outside and on trips. Even if it cost me money.
To answer question 2- If you can have an "o" one way, then there is no reason to think that there is a problem with you physically that would hinder an "o" the other way. I used to have the same problem. Like the others have said, it takes practice on both of your parts and patience on your mans part. His frustration is probably the reason you can't relax enough during sex and have an "o". Switch up positions until it feels right for you. Have him "go downtown" until you are almost there and THEN switch to the other. That is what worked for me. I can now count on 1 hand the number of times I have left the bedroom unsatisfied in the last 5 years! Good luck and have FUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If your son will be safer and happier at your sisters house, then I would do that.
I've been married for 9 years and my husband is my one and only (for both of us) and I have never had an O during sex alone. We have toys to finish the job up. My husband is not upset with it at all. I am more upset about it than he is. But, I have learned that most women do not and I am not alone in this.
Yes I think a lot of people drive 30 minutes to get childcare from a family member or to get the best childcare for their kids. It really is important where they spend their days. Do you think she will interact with your child?
the second question, I was similar and it took more than five yrs, tell your husband (with a big smile) practice, practice, practice!! the problem is men have such fragile egos and he's thinking he isnt good enough. Tell him how great sex is, tell him frequently and in different ways, men LOVE to hear that. Things change as we age. Tell him how much you appreciate his patience and dont let him think it's a problem.
