Baby Shower - Henderson,NV

I was given a party with my 3rd baby and it was called Diaper Party! I would not ask for money. That's tacky.

You should NEVER ask/hint for gifts on an invitation, especially money, oh my :(
Let your friend give you the shower, enjoy and have fun! If anyone wants to bring a gift they will (and most will have enough sense to know that you already have all the basics) but for a third I don't think it should be expected.

I think it's very tacky to have a shower for a second or third baby. I had a third baby after we'd gotten rid of most of our stuff, and guess what? We bought new stuff ourselves. We did receive a couple of baby gear items from my parents and grandma, which helped, but the brunt of it was purchased ourselves. Having a big shower and inviting a lot of people is not fine.

I think thast you need to explain to your friend that showers for 3rd babies just aren't generally "done"and, while she means well, you will plan your own Meet The Baby Open House after the birth, which you can host, and provide food & drinks for, and people will bring you a gift.
You cannot specift preferred gifts on an invitation! Super tacky.

I would call it a diaper and card shower. That was they know you want diapers and gift cards and usually people figure wipes go with the diapers. I think it's a great idea!!! There is nothing wrong with having any type of shower no matter how many kids you have!

When I had my second girl and I already had everything I needed, I didn't let anybody throw me a baby shower, I thought it was tacky. My sister-in-law really wanted to throw me one, but I didn't feel right asking for stuff when family & friends had already bought me so much for my first daughter only three years earlier. I don't see the harm in having a 'diaper party' or something like that, but literally asking for furniture donations, gift cards, etc? I wouldn't feel right about that.

ETA: I'm pregnant now and due in December, and my Mom will be throwing my a baby shower. This is my third child, but I haven't had a baby in almost six years. I have absolutely NOTHING. And, this is my first boy.

Me and a friend recently debated the age old "should there be a shower for 2nd babies" and we found that some folks are supportive of it and some are not, but the ones who are not tend to be the most vocal about it, which then generally squashes those who support from doing anything to have a shower. Its questionnable for a 2nd (even though I am a supporter) but may not get a good reception for a 3rd. The idea we found that we liked best was called a "sprinkle" versus a "shower". Google it - there are some good ideas for sprinkle invitations out there. I would say dont register anywhere and dont mention anything about the gifts you would most like to have - let your friends put it together and let it fall where it may. Its not good form to ask for anything specific. For my 2nd my good friends had a lunch - not advertised as a shower or a sprinkle - just a get together to celebrate the new baby. I did not expect or ask for gifts, but they brought them anyway. Good friends will do that regardless of what the invite says.

I would personally have a "meet the baby" very low key & casual get together after the fact, not even mentioning gifts. I think referring to, asking for, or suggesting gifts on any invitation is a huge etiquette no-no and will likely come across poorly, no matter how you word it. Asking for money towards something you should already have purchased, and that is the most expensive baby item a parent needs, is very tacky, especially since it's your 3rd child.

Thbbbbtttt to the old bats that didn't do showers for their 2nd and 3rd babies!!! I had a shower for each one of my kids and had a lovely time!
I even registered for my 3rd baby. (gasp!) I am lucky that my friends and family love me and didn't even bat an eye about having a shower for me. Or maybe luck has nothing to do with it. I am grateful to my friends.
NOW...since you didn't ask a THING about whether or not you should have a party..you already are! I don't know if you could say something on the card about what you need. But, I would certainly tell your hostess. That way if people are asking her what you need she can tell them, "oh she would love diapers" and then tell another "oh she would love butt cream". I don't think you can really ask for money...sorry! But, if you need furniture can I suggest Craigslist and Garage Sales? That's where I got all of my kid furniture and it was cheap!
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Some people really dislike showers for babies 2-?. Personally, I feel that every baby deserves a celebration and if people disagree, they don't have to come, and no offence should be taken by that on your part. What I would be careful of, is how your friend words the invitation. Either sending an invitation asking guests to join you all as you prepare to welcome Baby or hosting the party after your baby is born and inviting guests to come and meet your new little one would be good ways to go. Your friend can indicate whether it is a brunch, bbq, etc, since it is coed. Do not mention anything about gifts or registries on or with the invitation. When people call or e-mail to RSVP, that is the appropriate time for them to ask your friend where you are registered-because, though the invitation won't specifically say shower, everyone will know it is a shower. At that point, your friend should tell them that you don't have a registry, you really only need everyday things like diapers, etc. and that you really like X store (where your baby furniture is). You would be surprised how many people will happily pick up a gift card for you without being asked to. Or, you can go and make a registry -even for everyday things and your furniture-and your friend can direct guests to that site.

Good luck and I hope you have a great time! Congratulations!

Why would you want to put "donation"for your babies furniture?It's not theirs,I would personally do a meet n greet shower after baies arrival since it is you 3rd.Your still celebrating the new arrival but as for gifts why would anyone expect them after the first baby.I have 4 and had 1 shower with my first not my fault he is the only boy if they wanted to buy a gift for my babies great I appreciated it but didn't expect nor did I accept a diaper n wipes for my 4th I told my good friend noway.I don't think there is an appropiate way of wording gimmie me money

Word it as a Diaper & Essentials shower - I just did one for my sister a few months ago. They can find cute little poems about it online if they google it. & about the furniture, maybe your friends can put a little card in the invitation (instead of the "we are registered here" cards) saying what website or whatever to go to for helping pay for the furniture.

Please don't suggest a gift at all. Have an email they can RSVP to and if they want they can ask the host who can then reply gift card, or diapers (but not cash).

You don't put any type of wording about gifts AT ALL on invitations for any type of shower or party. It's rude and tacky. If people choose to bring a gift then they'll call the hostess and ask what the new parents need.

I would wonder why you need furniture for a third baby? Maybe you got rid of the crib etc cuz you weren't planning any more?? If so let your friends know and someone will prob be getting rid of one, or willing to lend you one!
You should def go with the "sprinkle" idea and tell your friends to ask for diapers and wipes and cards. or a meet the baby part after the baby is born! So much fun!