Baby Number 2? - Oxford,AL

Personally i wouldn't, Reason behind my answer is because my hubby an i were fighting and debating on having another child. Well not two weeks ago we got into another fight and now are going through a divorce. So I'm thankful that were not having a child due to i couldn't handle it right now. I would make sure things are better between you and your hubby first then have the child.
Hope this helps you

Get some counseling first to get to the root of the stress. Adding pregnancy and another baby will add a mountain more stress. If you've already "almost split up" a couple of times, deal with this stuff first. Good luck.

Having another baby is a wonderful thing, but it is also another source of stress, and it sounds like with the constant arguing, you guys are stressed enough as it is. Bringing another child into this situation is not going to solve anything - it will only make things worse. Your first child is very young, you are very young, you have plenty of time to have more kids - focus on getting your marriage healthy now. My hubby's ex-wife thought having kids would turn things around when they were having marital issues - WRONG!

Does your husband really want another child or is he just going along with what you want? What are the things you are fighting about (money, household duties, child care duties, etc.)? See a marriage counselor first so you can iron out your problems and learn to communicate better. Don't try to ignore your marriage problems by trying to distract yourself with another baby.

I'd definitely hold off on baby number two. BUT be proactive about getting some counseling. It sounds like you two need some communication skills, at least during arguments. (don't we all!) Kids can hear arguing through the wall, and sense that there is tension in the relationship, so you want to learn to resolve things quickly and with as little anger as possible, for your daughter's sake.

It is definitely not wrong to wish that your marriage lasts and you are not in and out of relationships. The best thing for everyone it to fix whatever issues are in the marriage.

Now, some men get upset about going to counseling, so I'd try to find a class on communication, and bring it up saying WE need to learn to argue better. Be sure you don't insinuate that its all his problem, etc... Let him know you love him and are committed to the marriage and want to be the best wife to him possible!

A counselor can easily do this if you can't find a class like this at a church or community center.

Best wishes!

I would strongly encourage some level of counseling before you move forward with your decision to have another child.
I agree that it is not really a goal of women to have children with more than one man/father, but there are exceptions.
You both may be feeling some extra pressure now that you have made the decision to add to your family. It does change the dynamics and the whole "fear of the unkown" can put couples on edge.
Try talking it out with him first, bring in a pastor or professional mediator and consider counseling.
Good luck!

I think because you used the work 'approved' it sent a Red Flag up~ to me anyways..... he should have agreed with you.... Not given you permission! I find that a little odd. I think maybe that's why your fighting, he doesn't "truly" want a second one, maybe not right now. I would HOLD OFF till things get much better. For the sake of the child you already have ! Blessings xoxo